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- Umbono wokutshala
- Ukusabalalisa ulwazi olungelona iqiniso
- Ubuphukuphuku be-The Notebook
- Inkinga ye-rom-com
Ngabe kuyamangaza yini kulezi zinsuku ukuthi abantu babe nokulindela okungenangqondo ngobuhlobo? Akukona nje ukuthi abantu bafuna umuntu “ongaphandle kophiko lwabo” - bafuna okuthile okungekho nhlobo. Njengezingane, sikhula sinamazwe amafantasy nothando lwamaphupho - futhi lezo zingane zikhula zifuna okuthile enganekwaneni noma kumamuvi. Iqiniso lokuthi abantu abaningi babheka ubudlelwano ngale ndlela aliyona into engaqondakali; abezindaba banomthelela omkhulu endleleni ezothando ezibukwa ngayo ezweni lanamuhla. Ukubheka ngokushesha iTheory Yokutshala kuzosiza ekuchazeni ukuthi isiko lezokuxhumana nele pop lishintshe kanjani indlela abantu ababheka ngayo ubudlelwano bezothando.
Umbono wokutshala
Ithiyori yokulima iyimbono evela ngasekupheleni kweminyaka yama-1960 ethi izindlela eziningi zokuxhumana ezifana nethelevishini noma i-intanethi zingamathuluzi umphakathi ongasabalalisa ngawo imibono yawo ngamagugu ayo. Lo ngumbono ochaza ukuthi kungani umuntu obuka ubugebengu ekhombisa usuku lonke angahle akholelwe ukuthi amazinga obugebengu omphakathi aphakeme kakhulu kunalokho ayikho ngempela.
La magugu akudingeki ukuthi abe yiqiniso ukuze asakazwe; kumele bamane baphathwe yizinhlelo ezifanayo eziphethe yonke eminye imibono. Umuntu angabheka iTheku Yokulima ukuze aqonde ukuthi ama-movie nezinhlelo zethelevishini ziye zaphazamisa kanjani imibono yethu yomhlaba. Ngakho-ke, akumele kusimangaze ukuthi imibono evamile yezothando evela kwabezindaba isatshalaliswa emphakathini wonkana.
Ukusabalalisa ulwazi olungelona iqiniso
Esinye sezizathu esenza abantu babe nemibono emibi eminingi ngobudlelwano ukuthi imibono isakazeka kalula. Ezothando yisihloko esimnandi sanoma yiluphi uhlobo lwezindaba - siyasijabulisa futhi sicindezela zonke izinkinobho ezifanele ukwenza abezindaba imali. Ezothando ziyingxenye enkulu yokuhlangenwe nakho komuntu okugcwele konke okunye. Lapho abezindaba bethu bephoqelela imibono ethile ngothando, leyo mibono isakazeka kalula kakhulu kunokuhlangenwe nakho okuvamile kobuhlobo bangempela. Ngempela, abantu abaningi babhekana nenguqulo yezindaba yothando isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuba bazitholele noma yini yabo.
Ubuphukuphuku be-The Notebook
Uma ufuna ukubheka isephulamthetho esiyinhloko sokuthi isiko le-pop lingayiguqula kanjani imibono yezobudlelwano, umuntu akudingeki abheke ukudlula i-Notebook. Ifilimu ethandwayo yothando icindezela bonke ubudlelwano bezothando esikhathini esifushane kakhulu, ibeka umthwalo eqenjini elilodwa ukwenza ukushukuma okuhle nelinye iqembu ukuthi lingacabangi lutho ngaphandle kwezenzo zokwenza njengobufakazi bothando. Okubalulekile inhlansi esheshayo, yesikhathi esisodwa - ukungabi nalutho olufanayo, ukungakheli impilo, futhi ngokuqinisekile ungafundi ukuhlonipha nokunakekela omunye umuntu ngokuhle nokubi. Umphakathi wethu uyakuthanda ukuqhuma kothando olusematheni - asikhathali neze ngempilo ekwabelwana ngayo ezolandela.
Inkinga ye-rom-com
Ngenkathi i-Notebook inenkinga, ayilutho uma iqhathaniswa nohlobo lwamahlaya othando. Kulawa ma-movie, ubudlelwano buphekwa buye phezulu futhi buxegise. Kusifundisa ukuthi indoda kufanele ijahe owesifazane nokuthi indoda kufanele iguquke ukuze ikufanelekele ukuthandwa yibo. Ngokufanayo, kuveza umbono wokuthi ukuphikelela ukuphela kwendlela yokukhombisa uthando - yize kukhona ukusabela okungekuhle. Akunampilo, kukhathazeka ngokweqile, futhi imvamisa kufaka phakathi imiyalo yokuvimbela.
Imithombo yezindaba isungule eyayo inganekwane yothando ukujabulisa nokugcina ababukeli. Ngeshwa, ihlakulele imibono ngobudlelwano obungasebenzi nje emhlabeni wangempela. Ngenkathi ubudlelwano emithonjeni yezindaba bungaletha amadola ezikhangiso futhi bugcine izindaba zezindaba zihambisana, ngokuqinisekile azimeleli uhlobo lobudlelwano obunempilo obungaholela ekwanelisekeni komuntu siqu.
URyan Bridges
URyan Bridges ungumbhali onikelayo nesazi semidiya seVerdant Oak Behavioural Health. Uhlala akhiqiza okuqukethwe kwezinhlobonhlobo zobudlelwano bomuntu siqu namabhulogi ezengqondo.