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- Silubheka kanjani ucansi
- Ubulili obukhulu phakathi kwakho nomuntu wakho kuthatha isikhathi ukudala
- Izinzuzo zokuya ocansini
- Yini edingekayo ocansini olugcwele iziqhumane: iresiphi
- Idrayivu yocansi ephansi (noma engekho)
- Yenza isikhathi socansi, ngeke uzisole
Ukubaluleka kocansi kwabesifazane kuvame ukunganakwa. Noma kunjalo, kwabesifazane abaningi, ubulili budlala indima ebalulekile ebudlelwaneni bothando.
Imvamisa kuyiglue ebopha abalingani njengezithandani. Akusisizi nje kuphela ukuthi sizizwe sixhumene nomlingani wethu, kepha ucansi luphinde lukhiqize ama-hormone "azizwe kahle", njenge-Oxytocin, esivumela ukuthi sihlale siphilile, sinamandla, futhi sijabule.
Kubalulekile ukunaka ithempelesha yezocansi ebudlelwaneni bethu, ngoba lokhu kuyisibonakaliso sokuthi umbhangqwana uqhuba kanjani.
Ukuba nobulili obukhulu? Lokho kuyinkomba enhle yokuthi izinto zikuhambela kahle wena nomlingani wakho. Ukungayi ocansini?
Uhlangabezana nokuntuleka kokwaneliseka ngokocansi? Ubulili emshadweni buya ngasekushiseni emuva?
Kungaba yisikhathi sokungena kulokho futhi ubone ukuthi kungani lesi sidingo esiyisisekelo singafinyelelwa. Kepha, okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi kungani ucansi lubalulekile kwabesifazane.
Silubheka kanjani ucansi
Ucansi ngumphumela wemvelo wokuzizwa usondelene nomlingani wethu.
Ukusondelana ngokomzimba wulimi uqobo lwalo, futhi abesifazane balusebenzisa ukuveza uthando nokwazisa kwabo kumadoda abo. Iphinde ihumushe ekubeni nobulili obuzuzisayo nobufezayo kwabesifazane.
Usuyazi ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukufunda ukuba nezingxoxo nomlingani wakho ukuze ngamunye wenu ezwe ezwa. Kubaluleke ngokufanayo ukuqonda ulimi lwakho lwezocansi ukuze ngamunye azizwe anelisekile.
Lokhu akuyona into engafundiswa ngokushesha, yingakho ebudlelwaneni obunothando, besikhathi eside, ukukhuluma ngocansi phakathi kwabantu ababili kucebile, kunenjongo, futhi kungapheli: laba bantu bobabili baneminyaka yokwakha ukwethembana futhi bafunde ngamunye olunye ulimi “oluthinta inkanuko”.
Ubulili obukhulu phakathi kwakho nomuntu wakho kuthatha isikhathi ukudala
Ekuqaleni kobudlelwano bakho, ubulili obuhle bungafika kalula, njengoba nobabili nigibela igagasi lobusha benkanuko yakho engokomzimba. Awudingi ukuthi usebenzele ukuqonda ukubaluleka kocansi emshadweni.
Njengoba ukhula nomlingani wakho, kwakhiwa olunye ungqimba lokuxhuma: uhlangothi lwengqondo lobulili, noma ukusondelana ngokomzwelo.
Ukuze ube nocansi olujabulisayo nowesifazane, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi bakwazisa kangakanani ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo nabalingani babo nokuthi kuthinta kanjani indlela yabo yokwaneliseka ngokocansi.
Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi ama-53% wabesifazane abheka ukuxhumana kwengqondo okusungulwe ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside njengengxenye ebalulekile yokwaneliseka kwabo ngokocansi.
Funda kabanzi: Lubaluleke Kangakanani Ucansi Endodeni
Izinzuzo zokuya ocansini
Lubaluleke kangakanani ucansi emshadweni kwabesifazane? Kwabesifazane, ucansi lubaluleke njengoba lubalulekile kowesilisa.
Ukubaluleka kocansi kowesifazane akunakugcizelelwa ngokweqile. Ocwaningweni lwakamuva, abesifazane abaningi bavumile ukuthi ucansi, akuyona nje kuphela indlela yokuzizwa uxhumene nabalingani babo, kepha luyinkinga enkulu yokucindezeleka.
Ku- "Ingabe ucansi lulungile kowesifazane?" Nazi ezinye izinzuzo ezinhle eziqhubeka nokuqinisekisa ukuthi lubaluleke kangakanani ucansi kwabesifazane.
Ngemuva kosuku olude, ucansi luyindlela enhle yokuzizwa ukhululekile; kuyakusiza futhi ukulala ngokushesha.
Ubulili ukuzivocavoca okuhle kakhulu kwemisipha yowesifazane okhalo lwangasese. Uma leso kungesona isizathu esanele sokugcizelela ukubaluleka kocansi ebudlelwaneni, nakhu okunye.
Kungani abesifazane bedinga ukuya ocansini kungenxa yokuthi ucansi lunciphisa ukukhathazeka kanye nengcindezi futhi lwenza owesifazane azizwe anelisekile futhi anelisekile.
Futhi, ucansi oluhle lukhulisa ukuzethemba kwabesilisa nabesifazane ngokufanayo; kubenza bazizwe befunwa futhi bethandwa. Ubulili bukhulu empilweni yomzimba, yengqondo nengokomzwelo.
Njengoba kunezinzuzo eziningi ezimangazayo zokuya ocansini, kungafuneki ukubuza, "Ingabe ucansi lubalulekile kwabesifazane?"
Yini edingekayo ocansini olugcwele iziqhumane: iresiphi
Abesifazane abagcwaliswe ngokocansi bayavuma: uma ungakwazi ukuxhumana ngaphandle kwegumbi lokulala, ukuxhumana kwakho ngokomzimba ngaphakathi kwegumbi lokulala kuzoba nzima.
Ukuphendula umbuzo, lubaluleke kangakanani ucansi emshadweni, kubalulekile kuqala ukuqonda ukuthi ucansi oluhle luqala ekhanda. Kusho ukukwazi ukukhuluma ngokuthembeka nomlingani wakho.
Ukwakha kubalulekile ocansini olumnandi, futhi abesifazane bayajabula ngocansi lapho bezizwa benokuxhumana okujulile, okuqinile nendoda yabo.
Iningi labesifazane lidinga ukuxhumana okujulile, okuqinile kumuntu wabo ukuze bakwazi ukujabulela ukuya ocansini.
Abesifazane bakwazisa lokhu kuxhumana okungokomzwelo kakhulu kunokufeza i-orgasm. Lokhu kufanele kuphendule lo mbuzo, "lubaluleke kangakanani ucansi ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside?"
Abesifazane abaningi futhi babelana ngokuthi abathandi ukugxumela ngqo esenzweni uqobo (yize "i-quickie" ngezikhathi ezithile ingajabulisa) kepha bathande ukuholela ocansini: i-foreplay.
Baphinde baqinisekise ukuthi lezi zingubo zangaphambi komshado ziyajatshulelwa nakumuntu wabo ngoba ukubona indoda yabo ijabule kunezela injabulo yabo kanye nokuzizwa kwabo njengabesifazane.
Abesifazane abaneliseka ngokocansi bayakuqonda ukubaluleka kokuyenga.
Bayazi ukuthi lokhu kunikeza injabulo njengezinto ezibonakalayo zokulala embhedeni, njengesenzo sokuyenga, konke okwenzekayo ngaphambi kokushelela phakathi kwamashidi-kungaba yinto enhle njengokuphela komdlalo uqobo.
Cabanga ngalezo zinsuku zokuqala zokuphola lapho uchitha isikhathi ukhetha izingubo zakho zangaphansi, amakha akho, ingubo yakho, nezinto zakho zokusebenza.
Ungabheja ngasikhathi sinye lapho ubenza khona ukwakheka kwakho, indoda yakho ibikhetha ngokucophelela indawo yokudlela futhi izilolongela ukuthi ingathini kuwe ngesikhathi sedina engakusondeza kuye.
Ukuheha kumnandi, noma ngabe yisiphi isigaba sobuhlobo bakho.
Eqinisweni, kubaluleke kakhulu kumibhangqwana yesikhathi eside ngoba ukukhohlisana kungasiza ekuvuseleleni amalangabi esifiso.
Abesifazane badinga le misebenzi yangaphambi komdlalo (ngaphezu kwamadoda, kungabonakala) ukuze bangene esimeni sengqondo, ikakhulukazi ngemuva kweminyaka yokuba nomlingani ofanayo.
Kukhona izinto ezimbalwa ezijabulisa ukwedlula ukukhunjuzwa ukuthi ufanele ukuthandana.
Idrayivu yocansi ephansi (noma engekho)
Uma kukhulunywa ngocansi, abesifazane banezinkomba zokuya ocansini eziyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu. Izici eziningi zingathonya isifiso.
Kunemithelela yesikhashana efana nosuku olude nezingane noma emsebenzini, ukulwa nomngane (noma umlingani wakho), ukugula, bese kuba nemithelela yesikhathi eside efana nobudala (ukunqamuka kokuya esikhathini), izindaba ezibucayi zezempilo, noma okuqhubekayo, ukucindezeleka okungapheli.
Uma ngabe ukhombe ukuthi i-libido yakho yehle ngenxa yokucasulwa kwesikhashana, asikho isidingo sokukhathazeka.
Isifiso sinokuwohloka kwemvelo nokugeleza, futhi akekho umuntu olindele ukuba sibe "phezu" ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Kuyasiza ukuchazela umuntu wakho ukuthi kungani ungekho esimweni, konke ngenkathi umqinisekisa ukuthi akuyena, kepha udinga nje ukulala kahle ebusuku, ngokwesibonelo.
Nge-libido ebonakala izicimile futhi engabonakali ukuthi iyabuya, kuwumqondo omuhle ukungena nodokotela wakho, ikakhulukazi uma ususondele eminyakeni yokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini.
Kunezindlela eziningi zokwelapha zemvelo nezemithi ezitholakalayo ukusiza ukunciphisa ukwehla kwamahomoni ethu ezocansi. Udokotela angakubuka lokhu nawe ukukusiza unqume ukuthi iyiphi indlela engcono yokwenza.
Uma ushintsho lwamahomoni lungeyona imbangela yokwehliswa kwesifiso, kungaba ukuhlakanipha ukuthatha uhlu lomuntu siqu.
Ngabe isifiso sakho sinciphile ngenxa yomzabalazo wesithombe sakho?
Ukwephuka kokuxhumana nomlingani wakho? Uzizwa ungasekelwa ezindaweni ezithile zempilo yakho? Ngabe ubona ukuthambeka enkambisweni yakho?
Ngosizo lwephrofeshinali, ukukhipha izingcindezi kungaba yindlela ekhiqizayo yokuphinda uthole ubulili bakho nazo zonke izinjabulo zakho.
Yenza isikhathi socansi, ngeke uzisole
Sonke sinokuningi emapuletini ethu, phakathi komsebenzi, umndeni, ukuzibophezela komphakathi, nezibopho zenhlalo.
Kungaba lula kakhulu ukubambezeleka noma ukukhohlwa izinzuzo ezinkulu nezithuthukisa impilo zempilo egcwele ucansi. Kepha lokho kungaba yiphutha.
Kubalulekile ukubheka ukuthi lubaluleke kangakanani ucansi ebudlelwaneni, ngakho-ke uhlala ubeka phambili impilo yakho yocansi, ngaphandle kokubulawa kwemithwalo yemfanelo nesikhathi esiningi.
Ungenzi iphutha lokuzishintsha kancane ngokubeka ukwenza uthando kusishisi sangemuva.
Njengoba kushiwo, ukubaluleka kocansi kwabesifazane akukwazi ukudwetshwa ngokwanele.
Ukuphakanyiswa ozokuthola kusuka esimisweni esigculisayo ngaphansi kwamashidi nendoda oyithandayo kuzodlulisela kuzo zonke ezinye izingxenye zempilo yakho.
Yenza isikhathi salezi zikhathi zokusondelana, zokuxhuma. Uyakufanelekela, kanjalo nendoda oyithandayo.