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- Abesilisa nobulili
- Abesilisa badinga ukuya ocansini ebudlelwaneni ngoba kukhombisa amandla
- Ucansi yindlela amadoda axhuma ngayo
- Ucansi luyindlela yokuhlala useduze
- Ucansi luyindlela yokuhlanganisa
- I-ego yesilisa ivame ukuboshelwa ocansini
- Abesilisa babona ucansi njengombungazo
- Abesilisa bathanda amaphupho
- Amadoda ayaluthanda ucansi ngenxa yocansi
- Amadoda ayakuthanda ukunconywa
- Ngabe ucansi lubalulekile ebudlelwaneni?
Ngenkathi iningi labesifazane livumela ukuxhumana okungokomzwelo kuze kuqala kunokuxhumana ngokomzimba, kwabesilisa ubulili kungenye yezindlela eziningi akhombisa ngazo uthando.
Abesilisa nobulili
Ngokuphikisana nenkolelo evamile yokuthi ukulambela kwabesilisa ucansi njengobugovu, amadoda abheka ucansi njengendlela yokuthola ukwaneliseka, ukunikela injabulo nokuthakazelisa kumlingani wabo futhi bathuthuke njengomthandi.
Kodwa-ke, impendulo eqondile nebabazekayo yokuthi “lubaluleke kangakanani ucansi endodeni” ukuthi ucansi ngesinye sezizathu ezibaluleke kakhulu zokuthi kungani amadoda efuna ukuba sebudlelwaneni kwasekuqaleni.
Kuzwakala kungajulile kepha abesilisa banentambo ngendlela yokuthi ucansi noma ithemba lokuya ocansini libenze bakhangwe kowesifazane. Uthando lungena kahle ngemuva kwesiqephu sokuheha.
Ungase uzibuze ukuthi kungani amadoda ekhathalela kangaka ngezocansi. Noma kungani ucansi lubaluleke kangaka kwabesilisa? Abesifazane baye bazibuza iminyaka eminingi ukuthi kungani lokhu njalo kufakazela ukuthi kungesinye sezici ezibaluleke kakhulu kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo.
Yize ucansi lubalulekile kwabesifazane ekuqaleni, lapho bekhululeka ebudlelwaneni noma uma kunezinye izinto ezenzekayo ezinamandla, ubulili ngokuvamile buyinto yokuqala okufanele yenziwe.
Ezimweni eziningi, lokhu NGEKE kwenzeke kumuntu wesilisa, futhi kunezizathu ezijulile zalokho kunalokho ongakulindela. Kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani ucansi emshadweni lubaluleke kangaka emadodeni, nokuthi kungani kuzohlala kunjalo.
Abesilisa badinga ukuya ocansini ebudlelwaneni ngoba kukhombisa amandla
Ukuqonda ukubaluleka kocansi emshadweni, kufanele ukubheke lokhu ngokombono wesilisa, futhi lokho kungaba nzima kwesinye isikhathi.
Abesifazane badinga i- ezothando, uthando, kanye nekhemistri ukumtshela ukuthi uthando luyaphila futhi luhamba kahle.
Abesifazane badinga ukuthandwa nokunakekelwa, futhi lokhu kuvame ukwenziwa yizimpawu zomlomo zothando. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, amadoda aqondile futhi acishe abe nezidingo zawo.
Ukubaluleka kocansi kwabesilisa kuhlukile kunokwabesifazane njengoba abesilisa bedinga ukuya ocansini ebudlelwaneni ngoba kukhombisa amandla nobunye.
Yize ubulili kwesinye isikhathi bungaba nje ngomunye umsebenzi wabesifazane, lokhu akusoze kwaba njalo kwabesilisa, abesilisa bayaludinga ucansi. Yile ndlela amadoda abona ngayo ukuthi ubudlelwano buyaphila futhi buqinile, futhi lapho lokho kulahlekile uqala ukwethuka.
Udinga ubulili ukuqinisekisa ukuthi nijabule ndawonye nokuthi nobabili nithola okudingayo ebudlelwaneni phakathi kwenu.
Kungani ucansi lubaluleke kangaka kwabesilisa?
Ukubaluleka kocansi kwabesilisa kuxhomeke ekutheni ubulili bubalulekile kwabesilisa kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo, futhi manje usungaqonda ukuthi kungani lokho kunjalo - ukuqonda ukubaluleka kocansi kungaqinisekisa ngempela ukuthi lokhu ukubeka phambili njengokumbonisa ukuthi uyamthanda futhi unakekele ubuhlobo bakho!
Nakhu ukuthi kungani ucansi lubalulekile emadodeni emshadweni
Ucansi yindlela amadoda axhuma ngayo
Ubudlelwano nobulili akuhlangani ngakunye. Uma ufuna ukwazi ukuthi amadoda acabanga kanjani ngocansi ebudlelwaneni, bese ucabanga ngalo njengokuthile okukwenza uhlale uxhumekile.
Akunandaba noma yini enye eyenzekayo noma ukuthi ungahle uzizwe uqhelelene kanjani kwesinye isikhathi, ucansi yilokho okukuhlanganisayo. Kumkhombisa ukuthi umenza abe phambili nokuthi uzohlala unendaba nokuthi uzizwa kanjani.
Kungani ucansi lubaluleke kangaka ebudlelwaneni?
Kubaluleke kangako kuye ngakho-ke lapho ebona ukuthi wenza ucansi ebudlelwaneni njengento ebaluleke kakhulu, uzohlala ezinikele kuwe futhi azi ukuthi nawe uzizwa ngendlela efanayo ngaye. Udinga lokhu kuxhumana, ngoba kuncane kakhulu ngokusondelana ngokomzimba nokuningi ngokuhlala uqine njengabantu abashadile ngendlela ayiqonda nayihloniphayo. Yingakho ucansi lubaluleke kakhulu kwabesilisa.
Ucansi luyindlela yokuhlala useduze
Lubaluleke kangakanani ucansi ebudlelwaneni obunempilo?
Noma ulwa, ungasebenzisa ucansi ukuphinda lokho kuxhumana. Engqondweni yakhe, ukhombisa ukuthi nisondelene uma ninomzimba nomunye.
Ukubaluleka kocansi emshadweni kubaluleke kakhulu ngoba kuyindlela yokwakha ukusondelana ngokomzwelo futhi. Lokhu ukuxhumana kwakho, lesi yisibopho sakho, futhi yile ndlela okhombisa ngayo ukuthi niyathandana.
Ukubaluleka kocansi emshadweni akunakuncishiswa uma ubheka ukudala isibopho esihlala njalo nomlingani wakho futhi kuthuthukisa injabulo ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Amagama aqinisekile mahle, kepha lesi senzo somzimba simsiza ukuthi abone ukuthi izinto zinhle ukuthi uyakuqonda ukubaluleka kocansi kwabesilisa nokuthi niyajabula.
Uyakudinga lokho kuqinisekiswa, futhi udinga ukwenza ucansi ebudlelwaneni ukukhombisa ukuthi niyizithandani ezihambisanayo.
Lapho ucansi luhle futhi lukhona, lapho-ke angaya phambili azi ukuthi unomlingani futhi lokho kumjabulisa. Lokho kufanele kuphendule lo mbuzo, "kungani ucansi lubaluleke kangaka kubantu besilisa?"
Ukubaluleka kocansi ebudlelwaneni naye kusho ukuthi kukhona isibopho sangempela esikhona futhi siyaphila futhi siyakhahlela!
Ucansi luyindlela yokuhlanganisa
Ukuya ocansini ebudlelwaneni kusho ukuthi yile ndlela enihlangana ngayo, noma ngabe konke okunye kunengcindezi noma ninokungezwani.
Wena njengowesifazane ungahle ungakuqondi kepha uma ubulili bungekho bese ekhathazeka ngokushesha futhi azi ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle. Kuyamsiza ukubona ukuthi konke kulungile ngempela nokuthi angakubuka njengomlingani esikhathini esizayo.
Amanye amaqiniso abalulekile okuthi kungani ucansi lubaluleke kangaka kwabesilisa
I-ego yesilisa ivame ukuboshelwa ocansini
I-ego yendoda ingaba ntekenteke kakhulu. Ukubaluleka kocansi emshadweni akukwazi ukugcizelelwa ngokwanele njengoba ukwazi ukwanelisa ocansini nabalingani babo kuthinta kakhulu ukuzigqaja komuntu.
Kungani ucansi lubalulekile ngoba imvamisa ucansi luboshelwe kwi-ego yakhe ngoba yilokho okumgqugquzelayo, okumenza aqhubeke.
Kungani amadoda ethanda ucansi? Kubalulekile ukuthi ajabulise owesifazane wakhe futhi uma ezilahla njalo izinkinga zokulala, khona-ke angazithatha mathupha. Uma unezinkinga zokusondelana, khuluma ngakho (ngendlela engeke kulimaze ukuzazisa kwakhe) naye. Amadoda ayakwazisa ukwethembeka futhi.
Abesilisa babona ucansi njengombungazo
Abesilisa bafisa sengathi abesifazane bangathatha enye indlela 'ye-carpe diem' kwezocansi. Ohlwini olude lwezinto eziseqhulwini kithi, ubulili akufanele bube sezingeni eliphansi. ” Kusho uDkt Schaefer. Ukubaluleka kocansi bekulokhu kuyinto yakudala emadodeni amaningi.
Abesilisa bafuna abesifazane benze ucansi lube yinto eza kuqala.
Impela, emshadweni, kungahle kube neminye imisebenzi ebalulekile kanye nezinqumo okufanele zenziwe nsuku zonke. Kepha, ngempilo nokuphila isikhathi eside kobudlelwano, ucansi kufanele lubekwe phambili njalo.
Kungani amadoda edinga ukuya ocansini? Ubulili buletha izinzuzo eziningi zezempilo. Futhi uma ukwenza lokho ngokuhlela ucansi, cabanga ngezinye izinzuzo ezizothuthukisa inhlalakahle yomuntu wonke: ucansi ludambisa ukukhathazeka kanye nengcindezi, lwehlisa umfutho wegazi, lukhuthaze ukwelapheka nokubopha.
Abesilisa bathanda amaphupho
Kungani ucansi lubalulekile ebudlelwaneni babo bobabili abesilisa nabesifazane?
Abesilisa bafuna ukuhlanganyela emaphusheni abo kodwa bakhathazeke ngomkabo ukuthi bazobahlazisa noma babahlulele, ”kusho uDkt Kort.
Khuthaza umuntu wakho ukuthi akhulume ngokusuka enhliziyweni kuwe. Kungani unamathela enkambisweni efanayo endala usuku nosuku? Mbuze ukuthi yini emjabulisayo bese uhamba nokugeleza.
Esikhundleni sokukhathazeka ngokuthi, "kungani amadoda efuna ucansi kangaka", ungaveza nezinganekwane zakho naye bese uzivulela la mathuba.
Amadoda ayaluthanda ucansi ngenxa yocansi
Kungani ucansi lubalulekile? Ukubaluleka kocansi kwabesilisa akunakubuyiselwa njengoba kuyisenzo esithandekayo kubo bobabili okuqinisa kakhulu ukusondelana phakathi kwezithandani.
Kungani amadoda edinga ukuya ocansini? “Abesilisa bafuna ukuthi amakhosikazi abo ajabulele ucansi oluhlaza, hhayi nje ukulubekezelela noma ukuzithathela bona uqobo. Kwabesilisa, akukhona ukuphatha umuntu wesifazane, kodwa ukumdlokodla ”kusho uJoe Kort, Ph.D., udokotela wezifo zengqondo, nodokotela wezocansi. Yini engcono-ke? Ngezinye izikhathi, jabulela ubulili 'bokuphosa phansi' nomuntu wakho!
Amadoda ayakuthanda ukunconywa
Abesilisa abahlukile kwabesifazane uma kukhulunywa ngezincomo! Uma uncoma indoda yakho, kukhulisa ukuzethemba kwakhe ngokocansi.
Lubaluleke kangakanani ucansi ebudlelwaneni?
Injabulo yezocansi iyisikhuthazi esikhulu ebudlelwaneni. Uma wanelisekile ngokocansi, futhi uncoma umlingani wakho ngokwenza kahle phakathi kwamashidi, unikela kakhulu embonweni wabo wokuzihlonipha, kanti futhi uqinisa isibopho sakho. Lokho kubuye kuqhubeke nokuphendula umbuzo ofanele, kungani amadoda edinga ucansi nokuthi yini eyenza indoda ibe yinhle embhedeni.
Lokhu kudumisa kunganiselwa ngaphambi nangemva kwezikhathi zakho zobudlelwano. Abesilisa banesimo sokuhlala bekhathazeka ngezinto ezifana nosayizi, ukusebenza nokunye okunjalo. Lokho kuyingcindezi enkulu kubona. Lapho udumisa umuntu wakho embhedeni uzozimisela ukukusiza ukuthi ujabulele lokho okuhlangenwe nakho ngangokunokwenzeka, noma ngabe kusho ukudela okunye kokuzijabulisa kwakhe.
Kodwa-ke, lapho wabelana ngokuvuma okuhle naye, akugcini nje ngokususa ingcindezi kepha kumenza azi ukuthi umthanda ngokujulile futhi uyamkhathalela naye.
Kubaluleke kangakanani ukusondelana ebudlelwaneni?
Ukwanelisa izifiso zenyama zabantu ababili ebudlelwaneni, nokukhombisa uthando, imibhangqwana idinga ukugcizelela ukubaluleka kobudlelwano bomzimba.
Ngabe ucansi lubalulekile ebudlelwaneni?
Kubaluleke kangakanani ukuya ocansini ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside uma bungekho noma bunqunyelwe ucansi ebudlelwaneni, kungaba nezinye izinkinga zobudlelwano. Ngakho-ke uma usebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside, qaphela noma yiziphi izimpawu zokuncipha kwempilo yezocansi.
Akunandaba noma yini enye eyenzekayo, umuntu wakho angabheka ucansi ebudlelwaneni nawe futhi azi ukuthi uzohlala enakho lokho-yindlela ohlala ngayo ubumbene futhi uvale igebe noma ngabe kukhona ukubuyela emuva kwesikhashana.
Kubaluleke kangakanani ukuya ocansini nendoda ebudlelwaneni, uyakukhathalela futhi ufuna ukukukhombisa lokho ngendlela ebonakalayo. Futhi, ukuqinisa ukuzwana ngokomzwelo nendoda, kubalulekile ukuqonda nokwamukela ukubaluleka kocansi ebudlelwaneni.
Ukubaluleka kocansi kwabesilisa kukhombisa kuzo zombili izici ezingokomzwelo nezingokomzimba zobudlelwano.
Kubaluleke kangako ukuthi ucansi ebudlelwaneni, njengoba ucansi luyisenzo sokubonisa ukusondelana ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo owabelana nomlingani wakho.
Yile ndlela enza ngayo lokho, ngakho khumbula ukubaluleka kocansi kwabesilisa nokuthi ucansi luzohlala lubaluleke kakhulu ebudlelwaneni bakho!