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- Kusho ukuthini ukuzimela ebudlelwaneni bakho?
- Ingabe ukuzimela ngokweqile kungalimaza ubuhlobo bakho?
- A. Kuthinta ukuxhumana
- B. Kungathinta ukuzethemba komlingani wakho
- Izinyathelo ezi-6 zokuthola ukuncika
- 1. Qala ngokuthatha ubunikazi
- 2. Yilandele kuze kube sezimpandeni zayo bese ubhekana nayo
- 3. Khulumisana nomlingani wakho
- 4. Vula ingqondo yakho ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi okufunayo kuyatholakala
- 5. Nquma ukuthi yini eyamukelekayo ebudlelwaneni
- 6. Hlala uzikhumbuza ukuthi kulungile ukuncika kumlingani wakho
- Isiphetho
Ngokwengxenye enkulu, wonke umuntu uthanda umlingani ozimele; uhlobo oluqhutshwa futhi olunomdlandla lunomqondo wabo futhi lungazenzela izinqumo, nolungabangenela uma lungatholakali kalula.
Yize singathanda ukuba nalolu hlobo lozakwethu, kushiya umbuzo obalulekile ezingqondweni zabantu abaningi. "Ngabe ukuzimela ngokweqile ebudlelwaneni bami kungaba yinkinga kimi?"
Nansi into. Ukuphendula lo mbuzo kungahle kungabi lula, ngoba kunezinhlangothi eziningana zalesi sibalo. Kodwa-ke, singenza konke okusemandleni ethu ukukuhlola lokhu kulesi sihloko ngokucophelela.
Ekugcineni, uzoqonda ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukuzimela ebudlelwaneni, futhi uzothola ukuthi wena (noma umlingani wakho) nizimele kakhulu ebudlelwaneni.
Sizohlola futhi umqondo wokuncika ebudlelwaneni nokuthi ungakusebenzela kanjani lokhu.
Kusho ukuthini ukuzimela ebudlelwaneni bakho?
Ukuzimela ebuhlotsheni bakho yisimo lapho ufunde khona futhi wazi kahle ukuthi ungaba kanjani ngumuntu wakho (ukusebenza njengenhlangano ehlukile ekwaziyo ukwenza ubuchule), noma ngabe usebudlelwaneni nothile.
Kukhono lakho lokucabanga imicabango yakho, wenze izinqumo zakho, futhi ugcine nobuntu bakho ngaphandle kokuvumela lokhu kuphazamise ukuzibandakanya kwakho kwezothando nomlingani wakho.
Ingabe ukuzimela ngokweqile kungalimaza ubuhlobo bakho?
Nali iqiniso!
Izinga elithile lokuzimela liyadingeka uma ufuna ukuba nobudlelwano obunempilo. Kodwa-ke, ukuzimela ngokweqile kungalimaza ubuhlobo bakho.
Ngakho-ke, le yimpendulo elula yombuzo.
“Yebo. Yize ukuzimela (ngezinga elithile) kubalulekile kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo obunempilo, ukuzimela ngokweqile kungalimaza ubuhlobo benu. ”
Nazi izindlela ezimbalwa lokhu okungenzeka ngazo.
A. Kuthinta ukuxhumana
Ukuxhumana kubalulekile kubo bonke ubudlelwano futhi ukwenza lo msebenzi usebenze, kunezinga lokuba sengozini elidingekayo kubo bonke abalingani. Ukuxhumana okusebenzayo kudinga ukuthi wehlise ezinye izindonga zakho bese uvumela umlingani wakho angene.
Kodwa-ke, ukuzimela ngokweqile kungakuthinta kakhulu lokhu ngoba uma uzimele kakhulu, ungavala umlingani wakho ngaphandle ngokomoya.
B. Kungathinta ukuzethemba komlingani wakho
Uma uzethembele kakhulu, kunamathuba amaningi okuthi ungaqina ngokweqile ezinqumweni zakho futhi ungalunqaba usizo oluthile oluvela kumlingani wakho.
Lapho, ngesikhathi esiningi, wenza izinqumo ezizimele (ikakhulukazi ezindabeni ezithinta wena nozakwenu), futhi ukuthola kunzima ukwamukela ukunakekelwa nokunakwa kwabo, bangahumusha umyalezo ngendlela engafanele. Lokhu kungabeka ubunzima ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Manje sesithole ukuthi ukuzimela ngokweqile kungabuthinta kanjani ubudlelwano bakho, yini ongayenza ukuyisingatha?
Izinyathelo ezi-6 zokuthola ukuncika
Ukuncika kwamanye amazwe (okwaziwa nangokuthi ukuthembana) yisisombululo sokuzimela ngokweqile ebudlelwaneni. Kubhekwa njengendawo ephephile phakathi kokuzimela okukhulu nokuncika ngokweqile / ukunamathela ebudlelwaneni.
Ukuncika kwenzeka lapho kukhona ibhalansi phakathi kwakho nomlingani wabo ebudlelwaneni. Ubudlelwano obunikezanayo bobo lapho abantu ababili abaqinile nabazimele bebandakanyeka kwezothando, kepha abazideli enqubeni noma balahlekelwe ubuntu babo.
Ebudlelwaneni obuthembele kwabanye, bonke abalingani bakholelwa kubo nakumakhono abo, kodwa futhi bayazi ukuthi bangawudweba kanjani futhi kanjani umugqa.
Bheka le vidiyo echaza uhambo olusuka kwinkululeko luye ekuncikaneni:
Ukufeza ukuthembana, nazi izinyathelo ezi-6 okufanele uzilandele.
1. Qala ngokuthatha ubunikazi
Lokhu kungasho ukuthatha ubunikazi ngaphezu kwemizwa yakho, izenzo zakho, nendlela osabela ngayo kumlingani wakho. Kulesi sigaba sohambo lokuncikelana, ukuzidinga ukuzihlola kungadingeka.
2. Yilandele kuze kube sezimpandeni zayo bese ubhekana nayo
Inselelo ongahle ubhekane nayo ngokuzimela ngokweqile ingahle ihlobene ngqo nokuthile esikhathini esedlule.
Uma usukwenzile lokhu, kungadingeka ukuthi uzicindezele wena (ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo) bese uzifundisa ukuthi akukubi ukwamukela ukunakekelwa nokunakwa okuvela kumlingani wakho. Futhi, ukubalalela akulona uphawu lobuthakathaka, kepha ngamandla.
3. Khulumisana nomlingani wakho
Uhambo olusuka ekuzimeleni kuya ekuthembaneni ebudlelwaneni bakho lungaba nzima, ikakhulukazi uma umlingani wakho engazi ukuthi kungenzeka uhlangabezana nani.
Ngaphansi kwalezi zimo, enye yezinto ezinhle kakhulu ongayenza ukuvula isifuba kubo futhi ubavumele bangene emzabalazweni ongaba nawo.
Lokhu akugcini nje ngokubasiza bakuqonde futhi bakunciphise, kepha futhi kungakhulisa ukuzethemba kwabo kakhulu.
4. Vula ingqondo yakho ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi okufunayo kuyatholakala
Njengoba uhlelo lwakho ukuba nobudlelwano obuthembele futhi obunempilo, ukulungisa ingqondo yakho ukuthi ikwamukele lokhu njengeqiniso kubalulekile. Enye indlela yokwenza lokhu umkhuba wokuzibona ngeso lengqondo ukuthi ukusohlobo olufanele lobudlelwano obufunayo. Umcabango wakho uzodlala indima enkulu kulesi sinyathelo.
5. Nquma ukuthi yini eyamukelekayo ebudlelwaneni
Lokhu kufanele kwenziwe nomlingani wakho.
Ukuqonda okucacile kokuthi yini eyamukelekayo nobabili ebudlelwaneni kuzonisiza ukuthi niqhubeke nokwazi ukuthi kunemingcele ehlonishwa yibo bonke abantu, noma ngabe nisebenzela ukuphuma ekubeni ngabazimele kakhulu ebudlelwaneni benu.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kungadingeka ukuthi uzibophezele ekugwemeni ukuthatha izinqumo ezibalulekile uwedwa. Uma kuyisinqumo mayelana nokuthile okubalulekile, wonke amaqembu kufanele abambe iqhaza ekuthathweni kwezinqumo.
6. Hlala uzikhumbuza ukuthi kulungile ukuncika kumlingani wakho
Noma ungafuni ukwamukela lokhu, udinga ukukhunjuzwa njalo ukuthi kulungile ukuthembela kumlingani wakho ngezinto eziningi. Kulungile ukunakekelwa ngumlingani wakho, ukuze uthole usizo nothando lwabo, futhi nokuba sengozini nabo akusilo uphawu lobuthakathaka.
Nsuku zonke, zikhumbuze lezi futhi uzibuke ungathuki ngomqondo wokugcina ukuncika ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Isiphetho
Ngenkathi uphila impilo yakho njengomuntu ongashadile, kulula ukufika ezingeni lapho uzimela kahle kakhulu futhi ulangazelela kakhulu ubuhlobo. Lokhu kungaba ngenxa yezizathu eziningi, kufaka phakathi ingcindezi yomphakathi nesimo sendawo ezungezile.
Kodwa-ke, uma ungena ebudlelwaneni, kuyadingeka ukuthi ufunde ukuthi ungasebenzisana kanjani nomlingani wakho ukwakha ubudlelwano bokuncikene.
Ukuzimela ngokweqile kungalimaza ubuhlobo bakho. Kodwa-ke, uma ulandela izinyathelo esixoxe ngazo kule ndatshana, ungathola indlela yokuqinisa ubudlelwano bakho ngokuvumela umlingani wakho angene.