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Uma ungomunye wabantu abangu-15 kuya ku-20% ababonakala bezwela kakhulu, bonke ubudlelwano buyinselele kuwe ... ikakhulukazi lowo oshade naye.
Kwenzekani ngempela kubantu ababucayi kakhulu
Uzwa uzungezwa ngabantu abaxovekile, imisindo emikhulu nezibani ezikhanyayo. Ukhetha ukumba inoveli esindayo kungxoxo engajulile. Futhi, usebenza ngokukhulu ukushesha kumazwana abonakalayo noma ayindida owakwakho.
Wazalelwa ngale ndlela futhi ngenkathi ungazama ukufana "nawo wonke umuntu" uyazi kahle futhi usebenza kahle lapho umlingani wakho ekuzwisa ubuhlungu noma engakuqondi kahle. Futhi, Kukuthatha isikhathi eside ukuthi usithole ukwedlula abantu abaningi.
Ngenxa yalokhu, abantu abaningi abazwela kakhulu bazama ukuzikholisa ukuthi badinga ukungazweli kakhulu. Bayazikhulumela ngenxa yokulimala kwabo, baphazamise noma baphike ukuthi bacasuke kangakanani futhi ekugcineni bathole ukuthi lokhu akusebenzi. Kusebenza kuphela ukubagcina benamathele entukuthelweni noma, kwesinye isikhathi, nasekucindezelekeni.
Isixazululo
Yamukela ukuthi ulimele, zihawukele futhi, lapho usukulungele, mema umlingani wakho engxoxweni ngakho. Igama elingukhiye lapha Ukuxhumana. Ungasoli, uhlazeke noma uhlasele oshade naye ongahle angazi ukuthi uzizwa kanjani nokuthi kungani. Ngemuva kwakho konke, abantu abazwela kakhulu basebenzisana nalabo abanokuqonda okungatheni futhi bengathatheki ngokomzwelo. Laba bazakwethu banikela ngokulinganisela kokuzwela kwakho kepha abaqondi njalo ukuthi bakubangela kanjani ukucasuka kwakho.
Mema umlingani wakho engxoxweni lapho nobabili niziveza khona. Ungakhuluma kuqala bese ulindela impendulo yabo. Uma umlingani wakho ephikisana noma ephikisana nalokho okuzwayo vele umazise ukuthi imizwa yakho ayinakuphikiswa nokuthi ngeke kukhulunywe ngayo. Bacele ukuthi balalele nje. Ngemuva kwalokho, uma bekwazi ukwenza lokhu, banikeze ithuba lokuveza imizwa yabo.
Enye indlela yokuqala ingxoxo kungaba- “Angicabangi ukuthi ubuhlose ukusho ukuthi ngikhuluphele, kodwa bekuzwakala kubuhlungu lapho uthi ibhulukwe lami libukeka liqinile.” Lindela impendulo.
Kufanele uqine ekwenzeni lokhu futhi ungawanaki amazwana athi “uzwela nje” avela ngaphakathi kwekhanda lakho noma avela kumlingani wakho ohlahle amehlo abo. Awuzweli kakhulu. Ulimale futhi ulangazelela ukulungisa ukulimala kwakho.
Sekuyiminyaka engaphezu kwengu-27 ngingumelaphi, ngibonile abantu abaningi ababucayi bexabana nabalingani babo, befuna ukuthi babalalele futhi bakuqonde ... kodwa kube nhlanga zimuka nomoya. Laba bantu balangazelela ukuzwa beqondakala futhi beqinisekisiwe kepha abalingani babo abayitholi. Ukuphikisana nokuphikisana nomlingani wakho oqonda ngokwengeziwe kumane kuholele ekucindezelekeni okukhulu, ukungaqondi kahle futhi kukuphazamise odabeni lwangempela ... ukulimala kwakho.
Kuyinselele kumlingani wakho ukuqonda ulwazi lwakho olubucayi kakhulu njengoba kungaba njalo kuwe ukuqonda kwabo. Ngemuva kwakho konke, basondela futhi baphendule umhlaba ngendlela ehlukile kunawe futhi ukube ubewabekile la mazwana, kungenzeka bavele bakuphephule.
Gcina umqondo ovulekile
Yazi lokho ngoba nje i- umlingani akakwazi ukuqondaukulimala kwakho, akusho ukuthi bonaangikuthandi futhi angikukhathaleli ngokujulile. Kusho kuphela ukuthi isimo sabo sobuchopho nobuchopho busebenza ngendlela ehlukile kuneyakho.
Ngamafuphi, uma wamukela ukuzwela kwakho ngaphandle kokwahlulela futhi ukhulume ngokukulimaza kwakho, oshade naye angaqala ukuqonda ubunzima balokho obhekene nakho. Ngiyethemba, lokhu kuzonenza nobabili nizwelane kakhulu nemvelo yenu ebucayi kakhulu.