Ukusiza Ingane yakho Ngokukhathazeka

Zicabange usesiteji egumbini elikhulu eligcwele abantu. Kufanele wethule. Esihlokweni awazi lutho ngaso. Njengoba izethameli zikubhekile, uzizwa inhliziyo yakho iqala ukushaya ngokushesha okukhulu. Isisu sakho siqala ukubopha ifindo. Isifuba sakho siyaqina, kakhulu kuba sengathi kuhlala umuntu kuwe. Awukwazi ukuphefumula. Izintende zezandla zakho ziyajuluka. Isiyezi siyangena. Okubi nakakhulu, uzwa izwi lakho elingaphakathi lithi “ufunani lapha?”, “Kungani ubungavuma kulokhu?”, “Wonke umuntu ucabanga ukuthi uyisilima”. Ngokungazelelwe, yonke imisindo emincane iyakhuliswa - ipeni eliwela phansi lizwakala sengathi othile wehlise isembozo sebhodwe ku-ceramic, amehlo akho aqala ukuzungeza igumbi njengoba ukubhuza kwezaziso zefoni kuzwakala njengesixuku sezinyosi ezithukuthele. Abantu bakugqolozele, bakulindele ukuthi ukhulume, futhi okubonayo nje ubuso babo obuthukuthele. Ume lapho ucabanga, “ngingagijimela kuphi?”

Manje ake ucabange ukuthi noma ngabe imisebenzi emincane kakhulu ikwenze wazizwa ngale ndlela. Ukucabanga ngokukhuluma nomphathi wakho, ukuthatha ibhasi eligcwele abantu, ukushayela umzila ongajwayelekile konke kukwenza uzizwe unovalo olukhulu. Ngisho nokungena esitolo ukuze uthole ubisi futhi ubone wonke umuntu ekugqolozele - kepha akunjalo. Lokhu kuphila ngokukhathazeka.

Kuyini ukukhathazeka?

Ukukhathazeka kuyinselele ejwayelekile yezempilo yengqondo. Ngokusho kweNational Institute of Mental health, u-18% wabantu abadala uphila nenkinga yokukhathazeka. Ukukhathazeka kuyinto engokwemvelo futhi sonke sizoba nokukhathazeka ezimpilweni zethu. Kodwa-ke, kulabo abanesifo sokukhathazeka, ukukhathazeka kuyaqhubeka ngokwanele ukuthi ukucindezelwa kubangelwa kuphazamise impilo yansuku zonke. Bangase benze ibanga elide ukuze bakhe impilo yabo ukuze bagweme imicimbi ejwayelekile yansuku zonke ebenza bakhathazeke, okuyindida okwenza ukuba ingcindezi nokukhathala kube kubi ngokwengeziwe.

Ukukhathazeka akuthinti abantu abadala kuphela, kodwa nezingane. Tweet lokhu

Uma ingane yakho inenkinga yokukhathazeka, kunezinto eziningana ongazibona, kufaka phakathi:

• Ukukhathazeka okungapheli nokwedlulele
• Ukunamathela, ukukhala, nokuthukuthela lapho behlukana nabazali babo (futhi abazona izingane noma izingane)
• Izikhalazo ezingapheli mayelana nokuqaqamba kwesisu noma ezinye izikhalazo ze-somatic ngaphandle kwencazelo esobala yezokwelapha
• Ukufuna izaba zokugwema izindawo noma imicimbi evusa ukukhathazeka
• Ukuhoxa komphakathi
• Ubunzima bokulala
• Ukuphikisana nezindawo ezinomsindo, ezimatasa

Ukubuka ingane yakho ilwa ngale ndlela kunzima kubazali. Ngokujabulisayo, kunezinto ongazenza ukusiza ingane yakho ukuphatha izimpawu zayo zokukhathazeka.

Fundisa ingane yakho amasu asebenzayo okuzisiza zinqobe ukukhathazeka Tweet lokhu

• Yenza ngokujwayelekile izimpawu zokukhathazeka: qinisa enganeni yakho ukuthi wonke umuntu uzizwe ekhathazekile kwesinye isikhathi nokuthi kuyindlela ejwayelekile yokuzizwa. Tshela ingane yakho ukuthi ukukhathazeka kungakwazi uzizwe ethusayo (ikakhulukazi lapho sizwa imizimba yethu isabela) kodwa ukukhathazeka akunakulimaza. Bafundise ukuthi bakhulume bodwa “Lokhu kuzwakalisa ukwethuka, kepha ngiyazi ukuthi ngiphephile. ” Bakhumbuze ukuthi kungokwesikhashana nokuthi neziqephu zokukhathazeka ezimbi kakhulu ziyaphela. Ingane yakho ingazitshela ukuthi “ukukhathazeka kwami ​​kuzama ukungigcina ngiphephile, kepha ngilungile. Ngiyabonga ngokungibheka, ukukhathazeka. ”
  

• Yakha amasiko okuphumula osukwini lwengane yakho: mfundise ukwenza isikhathi sokuphumula sibe yingxenye yemisebenzi yabo yansuku zonke ukubasiza ukuthi badedele ukungezwani kokwakha. Lesi kungaba yisikhathi sokuphumula ngemuva kwesikole noma ngaphambi kokuqala inqubo yokulala. Fundisa ingane yakho ukuqaphela umzimba wayo ngaphambi nangemva kwayo, ibone umehluko emisipheni yayo, noma “ezimvemvane zesisu”. Zenze ingxenye yesiko. Izingane zifunda ukuzithambisa ngokwenza ukuthi abazali bazo bazithobise kuqala. Ungaba nokugonwa ngemuva kwesikole, isikhathi sokufunda, noma unikeze ingane yakho ukubhucungwa okuncane. Izinto ezibandakanya ukuthinta, ukufudumala, nokukhuluma ngethoni epholile zisebenza kakhulu.

• Fundisa ingane yakho ukuzindla, izindlela zokuphefumula, nokuphumula kwemisipha: lezi zindlela zifakazelwa ukuthi zisiza abantu ukuzilawula futhi "baphile esikhathini samanje." Lokhu kuyasiza ezinganeni ezikhathazayo ngoba zivame ukucabanga njalo ngekusasa. Bafundise ukuphefumula ngezisu zabo esikhundleni samahlombe abo. Njengoba bephefumula, bafundise ukubala bafike ku-4 emakhanda abo. Benze futhi baphefumulele phezulu ukubala ezine. Yenza lokhu kaninginingi umzuzu owodwa bese ubenza bagxile endleleni abazizwa ngayo ngemuva kwalokho. Kunemikhuba eminingi efakazelwe yokuzindla yezingane. I-Child and Youth Health Network yase-Eastern Ontario inohlelo oluhle olubizwa ngeMind Masters. Banikeza i-CD yemikhawulo yamahhala, elandekayo ongayenza nengane yakho lapha: http://www.cyhneo.ca/mini-mindmasters.
  

• Ukufundisa ingane yakho ukuzenzela phansi: ukukhathazeka kuvame ukuletha ukuqhuma kwemicabango yokujaha. Ukuzama ngamandla ukuyeka leyo micabango kungenza kubi kakhulu. Ukuqondisa kabusha ukunakwa kwehange kuze kube manje kuphumelela kakhulu. Fundisa ingane yakho ukuthi ingakwenza kanjani lokhu ngokuthi ibize izinto ezinhlanu ezizizwayo eduze kwazo, izinto ezinhlanu ezingayibona, izinto ezinhlanu ezizwayo nezinto ezinhlanu ezingazizwa. Le mizwa isisizungezile ngaso sonke isikhathi kepha sivame ukuyikhipha. Ukuletha lokhu ukunaka kwethu kungathulisa ngokumangalisayo futhi kuphumelele.

• Fundisa ingane yakho ukuthi ingabona kanjani ukukhathazeka emzimbeni wayo: ingane yakho kungenzeka iyazi lapho ikhathazeke kakhulu. Okungenzeka ukuthi akakwazi kangako yindlela ukukhathazeka okwakha ngayo. Banikeze isithombe somuntu. Bacele bafake umbala kuyo ukukhombisa ukuthi bazizwa kanjani bekhathazekile. Bangafaka imibala ezinhlizweni zabo, noma emanzini aluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka ezandleni zabo zezintende ezijulukayo. Khuluma ngezimo zokukhathazeka eziphansi neziphezulu bese uphinda lo msebenzi. Bafundise ukubona lapho benokukhathazeka okuncane emizimbeni yabo futhi ubasize basebenzise amasu okubhekana nakho ngaphambi izinga labo lokukhathazeka likhuphuka kakhulu.
  

• Fundisa ingane yakho ukushuba nokukhulula: ezinye izingane zisabela kahle ngokukhama yonke imisipha ezinayo ngokuqina ngangokunokwenzeka, bese ziyakuyeka lokho. Mabenze bampintshanise izandla zabo ezibhakeleni eziqinise ngangokunokwenzeka bese bekhama! ..... khama! ......... khama! ..... no ..... Bayeke! Babuze ukuthi izandla zabo zizizwa kanjani. Bese ukwenze ngezingalo, amahlombe, izinyawo, imilenze, isisu, ubuso bese ngemizimba yabo yonke. Bameme ukuba bavale amehlo abo bese bephefumula kancane ngemuva kwalokho futhi babone ukuthi imizimba yabo izwa kanjani.

Ngesikhathi nokubekezela, ingane yakho ingafunda ukuphatha lapho izingcindezi zizizwa zikhungathekisa. Kubalulekile ukuthatha isikhathi sakho ngecebo ngalinye futhi ungadangali uma ezinye zingasebenzeli ingane yakho. Lapho uthola isu elilungile kuwe, lizosebenza njengentelezi! Ungadikibali uma ungatholi “umlingo wakho” ngaphambi kwesikhathi.

Ingxenye ebucayi yalezi zindlela ukuthi uzijwayeza ingane yakho njalo. Ukuze ingane yakho ikwazi ukuhlanganisa ukufunda, umkhuba kufanele wenzeke lapho izwa izolile. Lapho sebekwazi kahle lapho bezizwa bephilile, bazoba nethuba elikhulu lokuncika kumathuluzi okubhekana nesimo lapho bengazizwa kahle.

Okubaluleke kakhulu, kubalulekile ukuzwelana nengane yakho. Ungalokothi unciphise imizwa noma ukusabela kwabo. Uma uhlala utshela ingane yakho ukuthi "yehlisa umoya," umyalezo osisekelo ukuthi impendulo yabo ayivumelekile, ikhulisa ukukhathazeka ngokuhamba kwesikhathi futhi ibafundise ukuthi abakwazi ukuthembela kubo ukuphatha lapho impilo iba nzima. Yithi kubo “Ngiyakuqonda ukuthi lokhu kunzima kini. Ngiyazi ukuthi usebenza kanzima ukwenza lezi zinto zibe lula. Futhi ngicabanga ukuthi ungakwenza. ”

Ukukhathazeka kunzima, ikakhulukazi kwabancane. Kepha abantu abaningi baqhubeka nokuphila izimpilo eziphumelelayo futhi baguqulela ukukhathazeka kudrayivu enamandla yokufeza sebekhulile. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi nokubekezela umndeni wakho ungakha amasu angasiza ingane yakho ukunqoba ukukhathazeka futhi iqinise umndeni wakho wonkana.