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- Abesilisa nabesifazane basondela ezindabeni ngendlela ehlukile
- Umehluko wobulili
- Ukwehluka ngendlela abesilisa nabesifazane abahumusha ngayo ukugxeka
Yize abesilisa nabesifazane befana kakhulu kunokwehluka, izindlela abahluke ngazo zingenza kube nzima ukuhamba nobudlelwano bezothando.
USarah uhlanganyela ekwelulekeni ngomshado ukuthi umyeni wakhe uDave akamsekeli noma akamlaleli.
“Ngibuya ekhaya kunosuku olunengcindezi emsebenzini futhi ngifuna ukukhipha umoya. Engikuthola kuyena nje ukuthi bekufanele ngabe ngiyisingathile inkinga ngokuhlukile noma kufanele ngiyeke umsebenzi. Ngiyazisola ngokumtshela noma yini. ”
Wafinyelela kumyeni wakhe ngethemba lokuthi uzobazwela futhi aqinisekise; wayefuna ukuzwa. Ngokuvamile, abesifazane ngokwemvelo bangaba nobuhlobo ngokwengeziwe futhi bathole ukukhululeka okuningi ezingxoxweni lapho kwabiwa khona imizwa. Ngoba kuza ngokwemvelo kubo, bangakuthatha kalula lokhu futhi bazizwe kufanele ukuthi kufane nakwabesilisa. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, iningi lamadoda lifuna ukuxazulula inkinga.
Abesilisa nabesifazane basondela ezindabeni ngendlela ehlukile
Kungahle kungenzi kukhungathekise kakhulu kuSarah nabanye besifazane abanezingxabano ezifanayo ukuqonda kepha kungenzeka kube nokwehluka kwebhayoloji, okuthonywe ukuziphendukela kwemvelo, phakathi kobulili obusiza ekuchazeni lokhu kwehluka futhi kungahle kube yinto yokuzikhethela.
Abesilisa nabesifazane babheka izingqinamba ngendlela ehlukile futhi ukuzama ukuthola impendulo yokunciphisa ukucindezelwa komlingani wabo kungaba yindlela engcono kakhulu noma kuphela kwendlela indoda eyazi ngayo ukuzama ukusekela nokwazisa umlingani wayo ukuthi uyakhathala. Abesifazane kungadingeka basize umlingani wabo wesilisa ngokubazisa ukuthi bafuna hlobo luni losizo.
Umuntu angakwazi ukwethula ukukhathazeka kwabo ngento efana nale:
“Ngidinga ukukhipha umoya nje futhi ngingajabula kakhulu uma ungalalela nje”
noma
“Kube wusuku olunzima kakhulu lolu; Ngidinga ukwangiwa".
Kwesinye isikhathi umuntu wesifazane angase afune iseluleko; uma kunjalo, bangamazisa.
Umehluko wobulili
Olunye udaba oluvamile okuhlangatshezwana nalo ngesikhathi sokwelulekwa kwezithandani ngezintombi / amakhosikazi azwakalisa ukukhathazeka ngokuthi aveza okubahluphayo, amasoka / amadoda abo amukela ngokwanele ukuthi angashintsha, kepha ushintsho alupheli. Ingxenye yenkinga etholakele ukuthi abesifazane abakhombisi ukwazisa kwabo, mhlawumbe benombono wokuthi akufanele badumise lokho ababona ukuthi umlingani wabo kufanele ngabe usevele uyakwenza. Ukwamukelwa komzamo kungaba yinto enkulu yokuqinisa. Umuntu angabasiza ukuba bafune ukuqhubeka nokuziphatha ngokuqiniseka ukuthi bayazi ukuthi bayabona futhi bayabonga.
Omunye umehluko wobulili ongaba yinkinga ebudlelwaneni ukuthi kusingathwa kanjani ukungaboni ngaso linye nezitayela zokuxazulula izingxabano.
USteve uhlanganyela ukuthi lapho izinto seziqala ukufuthelana;
"Ngifuna nje ibanga elithile futhi ngidinga isikhathi ngedwa ukuze ngiqondise ikhanda lami". Ubika ukuthi unkosikazi wakhe, uLori, ubonakala efuna ukuqhubeka nokubandakanyeka kulo mbango futhi akusheshe. "Noma ngabe izinto sezehlile, usafuna ukuxoxa ngezinto kodwa ngifuna ukuqhubekela phambili".
Abesilisa ngokujwayelekile banamathuba amaningi okuvala lapho kunengxabano ngenxa yokusindwa kalula yimizwa. Abesifazane ekuphenduleni bangazizwa bedinga ukukhuphula umdlalo wabo ngokukhala kakhulu noma ngokuzwakalayo ngokuzama ukuthola impendulo, bengeze uphethiloli emlilweni. Lolu lwazi lungamsiza aqonde isidingo sakhe sendawo ngezikhathi ezinjalo. Kokuhlangenwe nakho kwami, abesilisa banesikhathi esinzima sokubona inani lokuthola isixazululo kulolu daba ngemuva kokuqina kokuxhumana kwehlile. Mhlawumbe besaba ukubuya kwemizwa uma inkinga ibuyekezwa. Njengowesifazane ebudlelwaneni, omunye kungadingeka ukuthi asize umlingani wakhe abone ukubaluleka kokulungisa inkinga ngokuzola ukuze avimbele inkinga efanayo noma efanayo ekuqhubekeni nokufaka isandla ezimpini.
Ukwehluka ngendlela abesilisa nabesifazane abahumusha ngayo ukugxeka
Yize bobabili bengavikela, abesilisa babonakala bekwenza njalo kaningi noma ngokuqinile. Ukugcina lokhu engqondweni, owesifazane angafuna ukukhumbula kakhudlwana ukuthi abe mnene endleleni yabo futhi azame ukugcina ukugxekwa kube kuncane.
Umehluko onjengalowo okushiwo kule ndatshana uzoba khona ngamazinga ahlukahlukene ebudlelwaneni. Kungenzeka ukuthi banqotshwe, ikakhulukazi uma umuntu ezama ukuvuma nokuziqonda. (Uyacelwa ukuthi uqaphele, uma kunokuhlukumezeka ebudlelwaneni, kufanele kufunwe olunye usizo). Ukwelulekwa kwezithandani kungasiza abalingani ukuthi bahlole futhi banciphise umthelela walokhu kwehlukahluka.
* * Amagama nezindaba ezikule ndatshana azimeleli abantu uqobo. Umehluko ohlukile okukhulunywe ngawo ujwayelekile futhi usekelwe kakhulu ekuhlangabezaneni nemitholampilo kombhali esebenza nemibhangqwana.