-Delile
Ngiyethemba nonke nisebenza kahle ngalesi sikhathi esinzima nesingajwayelekile.Njengoba siqala isahluko esisha emlandweni, eminye imibhangqwana ilwela ukuhlala ndawonye ngenkathi ihlala isikhathi eside.
Ngiyethemba, lo mbhalo uzokunikeza imibono yokuthi ungaba kanjani nobudlelwano obukhona futhi ugweme ukuhudulelwa kumandla amabi nomlingani wakho.
Ake sonke sithathe isikhashana ukwamukela ukuthi isimo samanje sisikhathaza kanjani. Sonke sizama ngakho konke okusemandleni ukuzivumelanisa nezimo, futhi ngalomqondo, ngiyanikhuthaza ukuba niziphathe kahle futhi nizame ukuba mnene nabanye lapho sizula kule nsimu engaziwa.
Buka futhi:
Nawa amathiphu ambalwa wokukusiza ekuqondeni umlingani wakho nomzabalazo wobudlelwano bakho ngalesi sikhathi senhlekelele.
Khulumisanani
Ukuxhumana kubalulekile njalo emshadweni.
Kepha isitayela sokuxhumana osincengayo emshadweni wakho sibaluleke kakhulu ukuba nibe khona emshadweni ngaleso sikhathi.
Ngesikhathi lapho isikhala siswele khona, futhi siphoqeleka ukuba sabelane ngaso amahora amaningi, kubalulekile ukuba nengxoxo mayelana nezidingo nokulindelekile.
Uma ngingazi ukuthi umlingani wami udingani, kwenza kube nzima kimi ukuhlonipha izidingo zabo.
Khumbula ukuthi inhlonipho ayiphathi umuntu ngendlela ofuna ukuphathwa ngayo kodwa ukubaphatha ngendlela abafuna ukuphathwa ngayo.
Amanye amaklayenti ami aziqhenya ngokulindela lokho umlingani wabo akudingayo. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi abanye abantu ababona kahle ekuboneni nasekuxhumaneni nezidingo zabo.
Lokhu kusho ukuthi le yindawo okufanele usebenze kuyo, hhayi ukuthi ezinye kufanele zibe nesibopho sokuyithola njalo noma zikufakele izikhala.
Kungaba wusizo ukubekela eceleni isikhathi kanye ngosuku noma ngalo lonke olunye usuku ukukhuluma ngezidingo nokuthi yini engadinga ukulungiswa.
Ngokuxhumana okufanele, ungazibekela imigomo yobudlelwano ukuqinisekisa ukuthi le nkinga ayiwugubhi umshado wakho.
Isikhala
I-Early Years of Marriage Project, ebifundela ngomshado e-US kusukela ngawo-1990. Ucwaningo luthole ukuthi amaphesenti aphezulu emibhangqwana ayengajabuli ngokungabi bikho kobumfihlo noma isikhathi sokuzimela uma kuqhathaniswa nemibhangqwana engajabule ngezimpilo zayo zocansi.
Uma nobabili nisebenza ekhaya, kungadingeka ukuthi ukhethe iziteshi ezimbili zomsebenzi ezihlukene, ngakho-ke akekho kini ozizwa egcwele.
Eminye imibhangqwana ibika ukuthi inedeski elilodwa kuphela. Uma kunjalo, ungahlomula ngokuhlela isikhathi edeskini ngokuya ngezidingo zosuku lwakho noma ngokuhweba usebenzisa ideski.
Futhi, kungenzeka yini ukwakha indawo yedeski lesikhashana uma nobabili kudingeka nisebenzise isikhala sedeski ngasikhathi sinye?
Uma kudingeka, kungasiza uku-oda elinye ideski elincane. Uma ungasebenza emakamelweni ahlukene, lokhu kungathinta nokuhle ulwazi lwakho. Emibhangqwaneni esebenza endlini eyodwa, ungahle uthande ukuzama ukusebenza ezitezi ezahlukahlukene.
Ukunikeza isikhala ebudlelwaneni obusondelene akugcini nje ngokungavumelani ngezinhliziyo zomunye nomunye noma ngendlela yomunye nomunye, kodwa futhi kukusiza ukuthi uhlale emsebenzini futhi ukhiqize ngokuphathelene nomsebenzi wakho.
Imigomo
Futhi yisikhathi esihle sokukhomba umgomo owabiwe ozosebenzela ngawo ngesikhathi sakho ongekho ngaso. Lokhu kungaba yinto ebonakalayo, njengokuhlanza ama-closets akho / ukuhlanzwa kwentwasahlobo okujwayelekile noma okuthile okuhlobene kakhulu njengokuxhuma njalo ukukhuluma noma ukusondelana.
Ngingathanda ukukuqaphela lokho kwesinye isikhathi izinhloso okwabelwana ngazo zibhekana kangcono ngokwehlukana.
Isibonelo, uma ukuhlanza ndawonye kubanga ukungqubuzana, kungaba ngcono ukwaba imisebenzi ehlobene naleyo nhloso ongayenza wedwa kepha futhi usize ukufeza inhloso eyabiwe.
Khumbula ukuthi ukusebenza ndawonye akusho ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuhambisana. Ukuthola izinhloso eziningi zobudlelwano, kungasiza ukudala isakhiwo ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi ubeka isikhathi eceleni ukuze usebenze ufinyelele enhlosweni yakho.
Ungahle uthande ukuqoka isikhathi esithile ezinsukwini ezithile zokuhlangana ndawonye.
Ukuqonda
Sonke sibhekana ngokuhlukile noshintsho. Abanye bethu bavukela kulo mcimbi benethemba nomoya omuhle. Abanye bangase babe nokuzethemba nokukhathazeka kakhulu.
Zama ukuqonda omunye nomunye, ikakhulukazi uma umlingani wakho engekho ekhasini elifanayo. Thola izindlela zokuxhasana kunokuvumela lesi simo sesikhashana ukuthi sakhe ukwahlukana okukhulu.
Amanye amaklayenti ami abuze ukuthi ngabe kuyinto embi yini ukuthi balwela ukuba seduze kangaka ngaphandle kwengxabano. Ngingasho ukuthi kujwayelekile nazo zonke izinto ezicatshangwayo.
Khumbula ukuthi sonke senza konke okusemandleni ethu, futhi uma ubhekana kahle, zama ukusekela umlingani wakho uma kungenjalo. Noma ngabe lokhu kubandakanya ukuthatha eminye yemisebenzi yabo noma ukubanaka ngokwengeziwe, kuzokhokha ekugcineni.
Ngiyethemba ukuthi nonke nihlala niphephile futhi nigcina izinga elithile lokuhlanzeka nangazo zonke izinguquko ezenzekayo ezisizungezile. Kulula ukuphuma emgqeni.
Khumbula ukuthi empeleni lesi kungaba yisikhathi esihle sokufinyelela kumelaphi ukuze uthole ukwesekwa okwengeziwe ekwakheni ubudlelwano obukhona. Ngithumela ukukhanya okuhle ngendlela yakho.