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- Ukugcina ukuxhumeka okuqinile
- Gcina izinto zizinhle
- Thembela ebudlelwaneni bakho
- Kwenzekani ebudlelwaneni ngaphandle kokwethembana?
- Lalela ubuchopho bakho
- Ukuphila okujabulisayo ubuhlobo obujabulisayo
Uma kukhulunywa ngokuba nobudlelwano, iningi lethu liyazuza.
Wonke umuntu ujabule kakhulu ngezigaba zokuqala zothando okuthi lapho ukugaya okujwayelekile kwempilo yansuku zonke nemithwalo yomuntu siqu iqala ukucwila kubantu bazithole bebhekene nemizwa efana nokuhoxa ngokomzwelo, ukulimala, izingxabano ezikhulayo kanye nezindlela ezinganele zokubhekana nazo.
Akunakuphikwa ukuthi ukugcina ubudlelwane obunempilo nobenjabulo kunzima kakhulu. Kepha ngentuthuko eyenziwe kuyo yonke imikhakha yempilo namuhla, ungaqonda kalula isayensi yobudlelwano nokuthi ungayenza kanjani isebenze.
Ukufingqa isayensi yothando udinga ukugoqa ingqondo yakho ngezifundo ezithile ezilula nezisobala ezinjengokuzethemba, ukuzwelana, ukwethembana, inhlonipho nokuxhumeka okuqinile kwemizwa.
Ukugcina ukuxhumeka okuqinile
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi izithandani ziyifunde, into evelele maqondana nokukhula kwengqondo kanye nesithako esiyimfihlo sokuba nobudlelwano obude, obunothando futhi obuhlala njalo ukuphendula ngokomzwelo.
Yonke imibhangqwana inokungafani kepha okwenza umbhangqwana ungajabuli futhi ukude kunqanyulwa ngokomzwelo nomunye wabo obalulekile.
Lapho omunye umlingani engakwazi ukuthola umuzwa wokuphepha noma ukuthola indawo ephephile nomlingani wakhe, kuvela izinkinga. Ukukhuthaza ukuphendula ngokomzwelo phakathi kwabalingani kufanele uyeke ukuziveza ngosizo lokugxekwa.
Gcina izinto zizinhle
Ukungavumelani ngokomzwelo nokungahlukaniswa kungenzeka kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo lapho imibhangqwana ingakhi ubuhlobo obuhle phakathi komunye nomunye. Uma kungekho okuhle, imibhangqwana iqala ukusuka kude, futhi ifinyelela ezingeni lapho ingasazani khona.
Indawo eyodwa elula ukuqala nokuletha ithemba empilweni yakho ukwazisa. Lapho usuqale ukuncoma ngisho into encane kunazo zonke abayenzayo noma ubatshele ukuthi babukeka kanjani, kuzozala ithemba. Lokhu ukwazisa nokuncomelana kuzosiza umlingani wakho azizwe eqinisekisa futhi emuhle ngabo.
Thembela ebudlelwaneni bakho
Ukwethemba kungenye yezingxenye ezibaluleke kakhulu ebudlelwaneni obunempilo; ukwethemba othile kuhlobene nokwethenjelwa nokuzethemba kanye nomuzwa wokuphepha ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo.
Ukwethemba yinto abantu ababili abakha ndawonye, futhi ukwethembana akufuneki.
Ukwakhiwa kokwethembana ebudlelwaneni obunempilo kwenzeka kancane kancane futhi kancane kancane. Bobabili abalingani kufanele bakwazi ukwethembana, bavulelane izifuba futhi babe sengozini emangalisayo lapho kudingeka.
Ukwethenjwa akunakwakhiwa uma ngabe umlingani oyedwa kuphela ozimisele ukwenza lokhu; ukwakha ukwethembana kudinga ukuzibophezela kokunye.
Kwenzekani ebudlelwaneni ngaphandle kokwethembana?
Ngaphandle kokwethembana, ubuhlobo bakho bungalahleka.
Ukungathembani kubeletha ukuqagela kwesibili nokukhaphela. Kuholela ekuhloleni ngokweqile omunye umuntu nezinkinga zokwethembeka.
Ukwethenjwa kuyingxenye ebalulekile yanoma yibuphi ubuhlobo obujabulisayo nobunempilo. Uma ubudlelwano bakho buza ngaphandle kwento yokwethembana, lapho-ke awukwazi ukuthembela kumlingani wakho ukuze akusekele noma usondele kuye.
Lalela ubuchopho bakho
Uma kukhulunywa ngobudlelwano, gxila ekulaleleni ubuchopho bakho ngaphezu kwenhliziyo yakho. Isizathu salokhu ukuthi ebudlelwaneni obujabulisayo, umlingani ugxila ekubonaneni futhi aqonde umbono womunye nomunye.
Ukulawula intukuthelo yakho kanye nengcindezi kungaba nzima kakhulu uma ulalela inhliziyo yakho ngakho-ke gxila ebuchosheni bakho. Lapho ulwa, zama ukwehlisa umoya uthathe ikhefu; lokhu kuzokusiza ekukuvumeleni ulawule ulaka lwakho namazwi akho.
Ngesikhathi sezimpikiswano zama ukugxila ekwenzeni noma yini ezosusa ingqondo yakho enkingeni. Gxila kuzimpawu ezinhle umlingani wakho anazo, futhi lokhu kuzosiza ekuphazamiseni ingqondo yakho ekugxileni esicini esibi sobuhlobo bakho.
Akekho ophelele, futhi ubuchopho bethu buvame ukukhumbula izinto ezimbi esizisho komunye nomunye. Kodwa-ke, uma ungagxila kokubaluleke kakhulu futhi okulungele ingqondo nobudlelwano bakho, khona-ke konke kuzolunga.
Ukuphila okujabulisayo ubuhlobo obujabulisayo
Ekupheleni kosuku, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ubudlelwane obunempilo abuyona uthingo nezimvemvane usuku lonke. Ubudlelwano obujabulisayo benziwa izimpi, izingxabano, nezingxabano futhi zenziwa ziqine ngokubuyela ndawonye ziqine kakhulu kunakuqala.
Lapho wazi ukuthi ungabuphulukisa kanjani ubudlelwano bakho, uyaqina futhi wandise ukuxhumana kwakho noshade naye.
Ngesikhathi sokulwa, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ukulwa akulona phakathi kwakho nomyeni wakho, kepha kunalokho, kuyimpi phakathi kwakho noshade naye uma kuqhathaniswa nendaba.
Ngaso sonke isikhathi khumbula ukuthi ukuxhumana ngokuqinile nabantu esibathandayo nabasazisayo yiyona kuphela inetha lokuphepha esinalo kulokhu kuphila. Ngakho-ke yazisa izibopho onazo futhi unakekele obathandayo ngoba impilo imfushane ngempela.