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- Ukufundwa okuthathu okukhulu kocwaningo
- 1. Ukuxhuma emphakathini kubaluleke kakhulu
- 2. Ikhwalithi yezindaba zobudlelwano
- 3. Ubudlelwano obuhle buvikela izingqondo zethu
Uyini umthombo wenjabulo yangempela? Izazi zefilosofi, ososayensi, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo kanye nabangokomoya baye bafuna impendulo yalo mbuzo iminyaka eminingi. Lapho bebuza lo mbuzo kubantu abavamile, iningi labo lathi ingcebo, udumo nokwaziwa okungabathokozisa. Kodwa ingabe bonke abacebile nabadumile kungathiwa bayajabula? I-psychology yomuntu iyinkimbinkimbi kangangokuba nathi ngokwethu asikwazanga ukubona ukuthi yini ngempela engasenza sijabule.
Ngakho-ke, kwenziwa isifundo yiHarvard Medical school kubafundi bayo abangama-268 sophomore phakathi neminyaka ye-1939-1944 kanye neqembu lentsha elivela endaweni ehlupheke kakhulu eBoston. Inhloso bekuwukubhala phansi impilo yabo yonke nokunquma ukuthi yini ebenza bajabule. Sekuyiminyaka engama-75 kusukela lapho isifundo saqala futhi sisaqhubeka. Abangu-60 sebebonke ababambe iqhaza abangama-724 basaphila futhi iningi labo selineminyaka engama-90.
Ucwaningo luveze ukuthi akuyona imali noma udumo kepha ubudlelwano obuhle obungasilethela injabulo ngempela.
Akunjalo nje kuphela, ababambiqhaza ababenobudlelwano obuhle babephilile impilo yabo yonke kunalabo ababengenayo.
Kule vidiyo uRobert Waldinger, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseHarvard kanye nomqondisi ocwaningayo omkhulu ukhuluma ngeminyaka engama-75 yocwaningo nezambulo zalo.
Ukufundwa okuthathu okukhulu kocwaningo
1. Ukuxhuma emphakathini kubaluleke kakhulu
Isizungu singakugulisa ngokoqobo. Kuvimba isikhathi sokuphila komuntu futhi kungaba nemiphumela emibi empilweni yakhe. Ngakho-ke kubaluleke kakhulu ukwakha ubudlelwano futhi uhlale uxhumekile emphakathini nabantu.
2. Ikhwalithi yezindaba zobudlelwano
Ukuba nobudlelwano obuningi akusona isihluthulelo sempilo ejabulisayo nenempilo. Uhlobo lwebhondi owabelana ngalo nokujula kobudlelwano yilokho okubalulekile. Ababambe iqhaza ocwaningweni ababenemishado efudumele nenothando baphila / baphila impilo enempilo futhi ejabulile. Ngokuphikisana nalabo ababenezingxabano ezingapheli nokuxabana emshadweni wabo babephila impilo engajabulisi futhi nempilo yabo nayo ayizange ihambe kahle.
3. Ubudlelwano obuhle buvikela izingqondo zethu
Imiphumela emihle yobudlelwano obuhle ayigcini enjabulweni nasempilweni. Ubudlelwano obuhle buvikela nezingqondo zethu. Ababambiqhaza ababekade bebuhlobo obuhle nobuthembekile bakhombisa ukuthi ubuchopho babo buhlala bucijile isikhathi eside labo ababenesizungu noma ababenobudlelwano obubi.
Ekugcineni uRobert Waldinger ugcizelela kakhulu ukubaluleka kobudlelwano obuhle nokweluleka-
- Ukufinyelela kubantu obathandayo nokuxazulula izingxabano
- Ukwenza okuthile okukhethekile ndawonye
- Ukudlulisela isikhathi kusuka ezinkundleni zokuxhumana uye kubantu osondelene nabo