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- Qinisa ubudlelwano bakho nomlingani wakho
- Imprint isiyalo ekhaya
- Ukulwa nokucindezeleka kwakho kalula
- Ukubaluleka kokulala okungaphansi
- Ukubungaza inkululeko
Wake wazibuza ukuthi ngabe sikhona yini isikole noma inyuvesi kwenye indawo lapho ubungathatha khona izifundo zeMasters ku-Parenting futhi wenze amakhono akho wokuba ngumzali? Impilo ibizoba lula kakhulu uma uhlonyiswe ngamakhono amahle obuzali, akunjalo? Ngokuya ngencazelo enhle yokuba ngumzali, unesibopho sokuxhasa ukukhula kwengane yakho ngokomzwelo, ngokwengqondo, ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo kusuka esigabeni sobuntwana kuya ebudaleni.
Iningi lethu lifise ukuba umzali ongcono kunabo bonke - opholile, umeluleki, umngane, kanye nesibonelo esihle ezinganeni ezinomusa nezifuna ukuvelela. Abazali bethu abakaze bathathe inkambo enjalo yokufunda ngamakhono amahle obuzali futhi siyazi ukuthi benze konke okusemandleni abo. Lokho, kumongo wayo, ngumqondo wokuba ngumzali - ukwenza konke okusemandleni.
Vele, kulesi sikhathi semininingwane naku-intanethi, sivezwa izitayela eziningi kakhulu zobuzali namakhono ahlukene okuba ngumzali.
Ngocwaningo oluncane, sizithola sizungezwe imininingwane ethe xaxa yokuthuthukisa amakhono wokuba ngumzali.Ngakho-ke sazi kanjani ukuthi iyiphi indlela engcono kakhulu yokuba umzali wengane? Kafushane nje, asikwenzi lokho. Inqobo nje uma ingane yakho iphilile, ijabule futhi igqugquzelwe ukuthi ibe yinguqulo engcono kunazo zonke, uyimbozile. Kodwa-ke, sifuna ukugqamisa amakhono amahlanu amahle wokuba ngumzali ongafuna ukuwaqinisa.
Qinisa ubudlelwano bakho nomlingani wakho
Ukungqubuzana kuphazamisa ingqondo yengane. Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi izingane ziyajabula futhi ziphumelele ekuhambeni kwesikhathi lapho zivela ekhaya elinodweshu oluncane.
Isehlukaniso nokuxabana kungaziveza ezinganeni zakho ngezindlela eziningi ezingezinhle, ikakhulukazi ngokukhathazeka, intukuthelo, ukwethuka nokungakholwa.
Omunye wabantu abathandwa kakhulu kwi-TV, uDkt Phil, ukhuluma ngezingane ezihlupheka ekhaya elinodlame olukhulu. Uthi, ephindelela, ohlelweni lwakhe lokuthi unemithetho emibili yokukhulisa izingane. Okokuqala, ungabathwesi ubunzima ngezimo abangakwazi ukuzilawula nezimbili, ungababuzi ukuthi babhekane nezinkinga zabantu abadala. Ukusho lokhu kubazali abahlala befaka izingane zabo ezingxabanweni zabo. Enye yezimfanelo zabazali abahle ukugcina izingane zabo endaweni enhle futhi ejabulayo.
Izingqondo zezingane zethu zisengozini kakhulu futhi zihlala zilolongwa ngabantu ezizungeze nabo. Kubalulekile ukuthi njengabazali, nenze konke okusemandleni ukudala indawo enothando nenakekelayo.
Ukushukuma komzimba komusa, inhlonipho, ukusekelana ngokomzwelo komunye nomunye akukhona nje okunempilo ebudlelwaneni bakho, nengane yakho ifunda kuwe. Esinye sezimpawu zamakhono amahle obuzali ukunweba uthando, imfudumalo nomusa koshade naye, ngakho-ke izingane zakho nazo zingalingisa indlela yazo yokuziphatha ngokubuka abazali bazo.
Imprint isiyalo ekhaya
Imisebenzi elula ekhaya ekugcineni isiza izingane zakho ukuthi zenze kangcono emisebenzini yeqembu elihlanganyelwe njengomuntu omdala.
Ukumane ube nomfundi wokwenza imisebenzi emakhaya abo kungaguqula izingane ezikhuthele zibe ngabantu abadala abaphumelelayo nabajabulayo. Ilungu ngalinye lomndeni kufanele lithwale umthwalo wemisebenzi yasendlini futhi liqinisekise ukuthi wonke umuntu uyabambelela ekuqedeni lokho.
Lokhu akugcini ngokuqinisa isibopho sakho njengomndeni kepha futhi ukhulisa izingane zakho ukuthi zibe ngabantu abanokwethenjelwa, abazimele.
UJulie Lythcott-Haims, umbhali we Ungamkhulisa Kanjani Umuntu Omdala, uthi “Uma izingane zingazihlambi izitsha, kusho ukuthi omunye umuntu uzenzela zona. Futhi ngakho-ke abathethelelwa umsebenzi kuphela, kodwa nokufunda ukuthi umsebenzi kufanele wenziwe nokuthi ngamunye wethu kumele anikele ekuthuthukiseni wonke. ”
Kungaba yinto enzima ukubuka ingane yakho igeza amapuleti ayo noma isetha itafula lesidlo sakusihlwa. Kodwa-ke, ingane yakho ayiyona imbali entekenteke kepha isiqu esincane esiqinile esilindele ukukhula sibe isihlahla. Ukubafundisa ukuziphendulela nokuziphatha besebancane kubalungiselela impilo yokuba ngabantu abadala.
Ukulwa nokucindezeleka kwakho kalula
Impilo izohlala iphonsa amabhola ajika kuwe.
Njengomzali, kuwumsebenzi wakho ukubhekana nabo ngqo bese ubekela ingane yakho isibonelo. Izingcindezi zingahluka kwezempilo, umsebenzi wakho, imfundo yezingane, ezezimali, noma izingxabano ezingaxazululeki ekhaya. Ukuba ngumzali uqobo kuyacindezela. Uma ukucindezeleka kungaphathwa ngokucophelela, ngeke kuthinte kuphela ukuzinza kwakho kwengqondo kodwa nezingane zakho.
Kubalulekile ukuthi sizinikeze umqondo ocacile ngokuthatha izinyathelo ezisebenzayo zokuhlunga ingcindezi.
Enye indlela yokwenza lokho ukukhipha izimbangela ezingezinhle isikhashana. Lokhu kungaba yizindaba, abantu abadelelayo, izindawo ezinomsindo, ukungcola nokunye. Kusho nokuzisika kancane. Imvamisa ungumgxeki wakho omubi kakhulu.
Ngokusebenza kuzinsuku zokugcina ezimfushane futhi uthathe okungaphezu kwamandla akho, uzilungiselela ukwehluleka. Lezi zinhlobo zokuziphatha zandisa amazinga akho okucindezeleka futhi zingathinti wena kuphela kodwa nengane yakho.
Ukubaluleka kokulala okungaphansi
Ukukhuluma ngokubamba isiyalo ngemisebenzi yasendlini nangokulwa nengcindezi, umuntu akanakukugwema ukukhuluma ngokubaluleka kokulala empilweni yakhe.
Njengabantu abadala, siyawazi umehluko ongalethwa ubuthongo obuhle ekukhiqizeni kwakho ngosuku olulandelayo. Kepha phakathi kwakho konke ukucindezeleka, isikhathi esinqunyiwe, amaphrojekthi esikole, ukungcola ekhaya, ngabe sithatha isikhathi sakho ukuthola ukuhlanzeka kokulala ezimpilweni zethu, ikakhulukazi ezabantwana? Ukuncishwa Ukulala kungadala umonakalo omkhulu, hhayi kuphela empilweni yomzimba kepha nasempilweni yezengqondo yezingane.
Ukuncishwa ubuthongo kungadalwa yizinto ezahlukahlukene ngakho-ke, kubalulekile njengabazali ukuthi babambe iqhaza elibonakalayo ekuqapheni indlela ingane yakho elele ngayo. Ezinye izimbangela zokuphuthelwa ubuthongo izinkinga zokulala, ingcindezi, umatilasi ongakhululeki, isikhathi esiningi sesikrini, ukudangala nokunye.
Kungaba nezinkinga ezincane ezifana nohlelo lokulala olubi. Abazali bangasebenzisa amathuluzi afana ne-Nectar's Sleep Calculator ukwenza amashejuli wokulala angaguquki bona nezingane zabo.
Ukubungaza inkululeko
Njengabazali, kungokwemvelo ukubhekisisa imisebenzi yengane yakho. Uma kunesidingo, ubungeke ukhathazeke ngokubenzela konke ukuze nje wenze impilo ibe lula. Lo mqondo ubizwa ngokuthi yi-helicopter parenting.
Kungaleso sikhathi lapho abazali bengagcini nje ngokuba ngodlame kepha kube yisigaxa esikhulu, lapho izingane ziba sengozini ebabazekayo endaweni yokududuza eyenziwe nguwe.
Ukukhuliswa kwezindiza ezinophephela emhlane kungavimbela lokhu kukhula enganeni yabo, kubenze bangaphazamiseki kakhulu emphakathini. Ukuvumela izingane zakho zenze izinqumo ezihambelana neminyaka, ukuziyeka zingaphumeleli, ukuzivumela ukuthi zibhekane nemiphumela yezinqumo zazo kukwenza ube ngumzali ongcono futhi zibe ngabantu abanokwethenjelwa nabazimele ngokwengeziwe.
Kwesinye isikhathi, ukuyekelela kuyikhono lobuzali elingcono kunokuncibilikisa.