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- Ukuthumela imiyalezo kulungile
- Umphumela empilweni yengqondo
- Izindlela eziyi-9 zokufuna ukuzithethelela
- 1. Yazise inkinga
- 2. Yiba nesineke nozwela
- 3. Xolisa ngephutha lakho
- 4. Musa ukunamathela kuma-clichés
- Cubungula imizwa yakho
- 6. Funa ukwelashwa, izeluleko, nokusekelwa komphakathi
- 7. Zijwayeze ukuzeluleka nokuzithanda
- 8. Lungisa ubudlelwane bakho
- 9. Sebenzela ukuthula kwangaphakathi
Kudinga isibindi nesibindi ukulungisa ingqondo yakho ukuthi uzithethelele.
Ukuthethelela kungubuciko, inqubo ehamba kancane nohambo oluya ekusindisweni komuntu lokuthola ukuthula kwengqondo.
Kuyikhono odinga ukulazi njengoba uhamba kumephu wempilo yakho futhi ubhekene nezikhathi ezinzima, izikhathi ezinqumayo nezimo ezibucayi.
“Ujabule kangakanani yena ongakwazi ukuzixolela.” ~ Publilius Syrus
Ukuthumela imiyalezo kulungile
Ngaphandle kokuxolelwa, umuntu ubengazilimaza impilo yakhe futhi afake imizwa emibi ngaphakathi kwesifuba sakhe ize iqhume futhi imenze alahlekelwe yikho konke.
Ukubamba icala, ukuba yisisulu semiphumela nokuba sengozini yama-clichés kulula, kepha kudinga isibindi ukuqhubekela phambili, ukubambelela ethembeni, ukwenza kabusha futhi uqambe kabusha izenzo zakho ukulungisa ubudlelwano obuphukile.
“Umuntu uxola ngokwezinga alithandayo.” ~ UFrancois de La Rochefoucauld
Umphumela empilweni yengqondo
Intethelelo isusa ubunzima obukhulu bengqondo futhi ikuqondise empilweni enempilo nengqondo nengokomzimba ngenkathi ikhulisa isimilo sakho. Kukufundisa ukuthi uzwakalise uzwela nomusa kuwe nakwabanye.
Kuyisu elisebenzayo ukubhekana nengcindezi elihlanganisa imigomo yothando nomusa kanye negiya eliqala uhambo lokuya empilweni.
"Yiba mnene kuqala kuwe uma ufisa ukuba mnene nabanye." ~ Lama Yeshe
Izindlela eziyi-9 zokufuna ukuzithethelela
Izindlela ezahlukahlukene ezenziwa emhlabeni wonke ezikukhomba ekuzithetheleleni zinemininingwane engezansi:
1. Yazise inkinga
Isinyathelo sokuqala ukukhomba nokwazisa inkinga ekuhluphayo. Yazi ukuthi nguwe, futhi nguwe kuphela, ongazisindisa.
Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuthi ubheke izindawo odinga ukusebenzela kuzo ukuze ungaphindi iphutha lakho ngokuzayo.
2. Yiba nesineke nozwela
Uzwela luyimpande yomusa nobuntu.
Thina, njengabantu, siyizidalwa ezinamaphutha ngokuphelele ezifuna ukuphelela kukho konke. Ngeshwa, yona kanye imicabango yokuphelela isenza sikhathazeke ngoba sikwazi ukwenza okuhle kuphela, hhayi ukuphelela.
Singaphumelela ngokufunda, sithuthukise futhi sihlale sizibekezelela.
3. Xolisa ngephutha lakho
Lapho usenze iphutha, alikwazi ukuhlehliswa.
Kepha, ithuba lokusebenzisa isenzo sokulungisa esingahle senze kabusha, sihlehlise noma sinxephezele inkinga sihlala sinjalo. Zazise wena nabathandekayo bakho ukuthi uxolile ngokujulile futhi ngobuqotho futhi uyaxolisa ngomonakalo obhekene nawo.
Qiniseka ukuthi uzoqaphela futhi wenze ngokuziphendulela ngokuzayo.
4. Musa ukunamathela kuma-clichés
Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi impilo iyaqhubeka phakathi kwazo zonke izinxushunxushu nezinkinga.
Ukuphela kwendlela yokuqhubekela phambili ukuboleka ukholo oluncane, uphinde ufunde futhi uqhubeke nokukhula. Izenzo zakho ezedlule azichazi wena uma ufundile kuzo.
Ngakho-ke, ngesikhathi esizayo lapho uhlangabezana nomcimbi ofanayo, ungakhetha ukwenza ngendlela ehlukile futhi ngaleyo ndlela unikele ngokuqinisekile.
Cubungula imizwa yakho
Thatha ikhefu kukho konke ukuze uzijwayeze. Lapho wamukela amaphutha akho, ugaya ukuzisola, ukuzisola, nokuba necala ngakho bese uguquka ube yisidalwa esinengqondo.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kusiza imizwa yakho ukwehlisa umoya ukuze ukwazi ukucabanga okunengqondo. Ukucubungula imizwa yakho kungathatha isikhashana kepha kuyathembisa ngokwanele.
6. Funa ukwelashwa, izeluleko, nokusekelwa komphakathi
Ngezikhathi ezibucayi, lapho kungekho okunye okukusebenzelayo futhi ugcina uzisola futhi uzibeka icala, kuyadingeka ukuthi wabelane ngemicabango yakho futhi uveze isimo sakho sengqondo kubathandekayo bakho.
Thola ukwelashwa, zindla, uthandaze futhi ufune usizo lomphakathi ukukusiza uzibuyise.
7. Zijwayeze ukuzeluleka nokuzithanda
Ukwelulekwa ngokwengqondo kuyasiza lapho ukhathele oxhumana nabo emphakathini futhi akukho okubonakala kungasiza.
Ukuzinakekela nokuzeluleka ngokwakho kuyindlela yokuzisiza okuletha ukuzethemba nokuzethemba kuwe futhi kukusize ukuqapha impilo yakho kahle.
8. Lungisa ubudlelwane bakho
Wonke umcimbi uletha izifundo empilweni yakho.
Ukwazi ukuthi kungukufunda okukusizile ekutholeni ukuhlakanipha nomuzwa wokuba nomthwalo ofanelekile ukulungisa ubuhlobo bakho obuphukile.
Ubudlelwano budinga isikhathi, ukunakekelwa nokwethenjwa, futhi bungalungiswa uma uxolisa ngobuqotho komunye umuntu, zisebenzele wena bese uqhubeka nokuzama.
9. Sebenzela ukuthula kwangaphakathi
Ungakuthola ukuthula kwangaphakathi ngokuhlala uqaphile futhi uzilolonge kuhlobo lwakho oluhle kakhulu.
Qiniseka ukuzindla, ukuzivocavoca umzimba, usebenzise isikhathi sekhwalithi nabangane bakho nomndeni wakho futhi ugcine ibhalansi yomsebenzi / yokudlala empilweni.