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- 1. Yiba uhlobo lomuntu ofuna umlingani wakho abe yilo
- 2. Phendula futhi uqinisekise imizwa kazakwenu
- 3. Gxila ekuxazululeni izinkinga ndawonye
- UJustin Lioi, LCSW
- 4. Naka izingqinamba zakho zobudlelwano obukhona
- 5. Phatha umlingani wakho ngendlela owawenza ngayo ekuqaleni
- 6. Sebenzisa uNyaka Omusha ukubhekana nezinkinga ezindala zobudlelwano
- 7. Beka izinhloso zakho emgomweni obukade ungawunaki
- 8. Faka umlingani wakho ezinqumweni zonyaka wakho omusha
- 9. Susa ukunganaki futhi usebenzise izindlela zokuziphatha ezakhayo
- 10. Ukuqwashisa, ukucabangela nokucabangela
- 11. Thuthukisa ulwazi lwakho
- 12. Beka ezinye izici zobudlelwano bakho phambili
- 13. Khuluma nomlingani wakho ngezinhloso zenu ndawonye
- 14. Ukuzimisela ukubona ubudlelwano ukuthi buyini
- 15. Khombisa umlingani wakho ukuthi uyamkhathalela
- 16. Zithethelele futhi uyeke okwedlule
- 17. Faka imikhuba emihle yokuxhumana
- 18. Ithuba lokuzenzela uhlu olusha noluthembekile
- 19. Bamba izingxabano ezinempilo
- 20. Dedela uvalo
- 21. Yethula izinguquko ukwenza ngcono ubuhlobo bakho
- 22. Thola amandla ebudlelwaneni bakho
Ukuqala konyaka omusha kuletha umdlandla omusha, ugqozi nethemba elisha lezinguquko ezinhle empilweni yethu.
Siyazibophezela ukufaka izinto ezintsha nemikhuba ukwenza ngcono indlela yethu yokuphila, impilo yethu nokuba nenhlalakahle yethu. Siyayeka ukukhetha okudala nobuthi esakwenza esikhathini esidlule ukuze senze indlela yempilo entsha.
Kodwa-ke, ekubhaleni izinqumo zethu, sigxila kakhulu kithi.
Asikwazi lokho thina sisodwa ngeke senze izimpilo zethu zibe nempilo futhi zanelise; okusizungezile, abantu abasizungezile nabo banendaba, ikakhulukazi ozakwethu.
Ubudlelwano bethu, njengazo zonke ezinye izinto, budinga isikhathi nomzamo ukuze buqhakaze.
Kulo nyaka omusha, zimisele ukuba yinguqulo yakho engcono kakhulu uthathe izinyathelo zokuthuthukisa ubudlelwano bakho, unqobe izingqinamba zobudlelwano.
Futhi, bheka ukuthi izinguquko ezincane zingenza kanjani umehluko omkhuluce:
Thatha izinyathelo zoku khomba izinkinga zobudlelwano obufihlekile wena nomlingani wakho enilwa nazo futhi uthole izindlela zokuzinqoba.
Ochwepheshe baveza ukuthi ungazilungisa kanjani izingqinamba zobudlelwano obudala futhi uphefumulele impilo entsha ebudlelwaneni bakho.
1. Yiba uhlobo lomuntu ofuna umlingani wakho abe yilo
UCatherine DeMonte, LMFT
Abantu bahlala bethi ubudlelwano obuhle bungu-50- 50. Empeleni angivumelani. Kungu-100/100.
Lapho umuntu ngamunye eziletha ebudlelwaneni nge-100%, futhi engalindi ukuthi omunye enze isinyathelo sokuqala njengokuba ngowokuqala ukuxolisa, owokuqala othi “Ngiyakuthanda,” owokuqala ukuphula ukuthula, yilokho okwenza ukubambisana okuhle.
Bobabili abantu beletha okuhle kwabo etafuleni.
Unyaka omusha ungaba yisikhathi esimnandi sokwenza lokhu emshadweni wakho. Yiba uhlobo lomuntu ofuna umlingani wakho abe yilo. Okufaka ukukhanya kuyakhula. Thola izindlela zokuletha ukukhanya emshadweni wakho!
2. Phendula futhi uqinisekise imizwa kazakwenu
UPia Johnson, uLMSW
Uma wabelana ngezinkinga ebudlelwaneni, khuluma ngawe, izinyathelo ezingezinhle ozenzile, nokuthi yini ongayenza ngokuhlukile ngokuzayo.
Zama ukungasoli, ukugxeka, noma ukwenza kabusha izimo ezindala nomlingani wakho. Sebenzisa le ngxoxo njengethuluzi lokufunda ukupholisa amanxeba adlule, ukudala imiphumela emisha ezindabeni ezindala, futhi uthuthukise uhambo lwakho lokuphila ndawonye.
Ngokuya ngokuqinisekisa, hlonipha imizwa yomlingani wakho futhi umvumele ukuba abelane ngolwazi lwabo. Musa ukuzivikela bese ubalahla nge-tit yempi yempi.
Ukuqinisekisa kuyindlela yokubonisa ukuthi uyayazisa imicabango nemizwa kazakwenu njengoba zibabona.
Lokhu kuvumela ukuba sengozini okuphezulu, ukwethembana nokusondelana, okuzokwakha isibopho esiqinile ebudlelwaneni. Khumbula ukugxila esikhathini esizayo; lokhu kumayelana nokwakha uhlelo olusha loNyaka Omusha.
3. Gxila ekuxazululeni izinkinga ndawonye
UJustin Lioi, LCSW
Umsebenzi Wezenhlalakahle OnelayisenseYiziphi izinkinga obukade uzama ukuzixazulula wedwa eziyizinkinga zobudlelwano ngempela?
Mhlawumbe unesikhalazo ngento ongayenzi — okuthile okuzungeze indlu, embhedeni, ngomsebenzi wakho — futhi ususungule isu elihle lokuthi “ukulunge.”
Kuyamangaza ukuthi sizama kaningi kangakanani ukwenza izinguquko ezinkulu ezithinta ubudlelwane bethu sisodwa.
Masisebenzise uNyaka Omusha ukuncika komunye nomunye.
Hhayi kakhulu lapho ucela umlingani wakho ukuthi athwale umthwalo, kepha ngokwanele ukuze impumelelo yobudlelwano bakho ingekho emahlombe akho wedwa.
4. Naka izingqinamba zakho zobudlelwano obukhona
UVICKI BOTNICK, MA, MS, LMFT
Kuthiwani uma uqala unyaka omusha unikeza ubudlelwano bakho ukunakwa okuningi njengokhalweni lwakho noma imigomo yomsebenzi?
Iningi lezinqumo zethu liphathelene nathi, noma ngabe sinethemba lomzimba we-buffer noma ukuchitha isikhathi esincane sixhumene nezingcingo zethu.
Kepha uma sisebenzise ngisho nengxenye yalawo mandla kozakwethu, besizokwazi bheka izinkinga ezindala ngombono omusha bese uthola amandla avuselelwe okusebenza ezindabeni ezindala.
- Ungasithatha siphi isinqumo ukube ubudlelwano bakho bebubaluleke kakhulu kuwe?
- Lokhu kungakuguqula kanjani ubuzali bakho, isifiso sakho sobulili, ukuthanda kwakho impilo?
Ungakwenza lokhu nganoma iyiphi indlela oyifunayo, kusuka kokubi kakhulu kuya ekukhanyeni nasekujabuliseni. Mhlawumbe unganquma ukuthola umelaphi bese ekugcineni ubhekane namaphethini abanjwe isikhathi eside anidonsela phansi nobabili.
Noma esikhundleni salokho, ungafunga ukuthi uzononga uthando lwakho empilweni yakho.
Umbono owodwa ulula njengokuqala umsebenzi omusha ndawonye, njengesigaba sewayini nokudweba noma uhambo lokuqwala amatshe.
Noma imiphi yale mibono inganikeza ubudlelwano bakho umfutho futhi ikusize ukuthi ugxile komunye nomunye ngamandla avuselelwe.
Ukwenza izinqumo zobudlelwano kuyindlela esheshayo yokwandisa ukuxhumana, ukusondelana nenjabulo, okhiye abathathu bobudlelwano obuhlala isikhathi eside nobanelisayo.
5. Phatha umlingani wakho ngendlela owawenza ngayo ekuqaleni
U-Allison Cohen, MA, MFT
Wonke umuntu uzwile isisho esithi, “Unyaka omusha, wena omusha,” kodwa lokhu kungasebenza nakubudlelwano bakho.
Ukuqalisa kabusha kungenzeka nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, kodwa ithemba elivuselelwe lonyaka omusha kungaba yithuba elihle lokuzijwayeza ukuziphatha okudala, okukhohliwe nokwabelana ngokuzidela kwakho okuhle. Shayela ukuthi umphathe kanjani umlingani wakho ezinyangeni ezintathu zokuqala zobudlelwano futhi ngokushesha wakhe umgwaqo wendlela yokuxhuma kabusha nokuvuselela amandla.
6. Sebenzisa uNyaka Omusha ukubhekana nezinkinga ezindala zobudlelwano
UJulie Brams, MA, LMFT
Kuyaqabukela, uma kwenzeka, sisondela kuNcibijane ngengqondo yabaqalayo noma singalindelanga.
Esikhundleni salokho, sisondela kokusha ngalokhu esesivele sikwazi futhi silindele ukuthi kwenzeke futhi. Lapha kulele i-conundrum nempendulo yokubhekisa ezindala kokusha. Ngokuqondile, sifuna ukufunda ukubhekana nezinkinga zethu ezindala ebudlelwaneni bethu ngombono omusha, ngengqondo yabaqalayo.
Sifuna ukudala ushintsho kumbono wethu wakudala. Ngaphandle kwalokho, ubudlelwano bethu buzodlala ngokujwayelekile, noma nje lapho senza leso sinqumo sokwenza izinto ngokuhlukile kulo nyaka.
Isinyathelo sokuqala ukwamukela okulindelwe okudala, ngisho nangaphambi kokuba ungene ngokujulile ezindleleni zokulungisa izinkinga zobudlelwano noma ukuthi ungalungisa kanjani ubudlelwano obwehlulekayo.
Uma usubonile okulindelwe okudala, sicela uthathe isikhashana ukukhomba ukuthi yimaphi amanani akho ayisisekelo exhunywe kuwo.
Lapho izindinganiso zethu eziyisisekelo zingahlangatshezwa, siyakhathazeka, sidangele, noma siphikisane njengoba sizama ukwenza izidingo zethu ziqondwe nguzakwethu.
Ukuqonda amanani akho ayisisekelo, ngokwesibonelo, ukuphepha, ukunethezeka, noma isikhathi sekhwalithi, kungasiza ukwenza indlela entsha engxoxweni yakudala.
Hlola ukubona ukuthi amanani akho namanani ozakwenu ayahambisana yini.
Ungathola amanani aphikisanayo afana ne- isidingo sakho sokuba wedwa esiqhathanisa nesidingo somlingani wakho sesikhathi sokubopha.
Womabili amanani "alungile" kepha adinga ukuxoxiswana. Buzanani ukuthi ningaxazulula kanjani inkinga ndawonye ukuhlangabezana nezindinganiso zakho.
Ngokombono Wokucabanga, uNyaka Omusha usivumela ukuthi sihlangabezane nezinselelo ezindala zobudlelwano ngombono omusha noma uMqondo Wabaqalayo.
Yiba nelukuluku futhi mayelana nezidingo zomlingani wakho bese uvulekele ukuhlola izimpendulo zemibuzo, "ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nezinkinga zobudlelwano" noma "ukuthi ungaxazulula kanjani izinkinga zobudlelwano."
Ngaphandle kwalokhu kucabanga, ubudlelwano bethu buzodlala ngokujwayelekile njengoba senza leso sinqumo sokwenza izinto ngokuhlukile kulo nyaka.
7. Beka izinhloso zakho emgomweni obukade ungawunaki
ULauren E. Taylor, LMFT
Unyaka Omusha isikhathi esihle sokuqala kabusha nobudlelwano obuvuselelwe.
Lesi kungaba yisikhathi sokuzama okuthile okusha ndawonye okungabuyisa ukuxhumana kwakho futhi kulethe ithemba ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Sebenzani ndawonye ukusungula umdlalo wokuzilibazisa omusha, setha izinto ozibonayo ndawonye enhlosweni obukade uyibeka ku-burner yangemuva, noma uthathe isikhathi uhambe uyohlola indawo eseduze yokuhamba ngempelasonto. Noma yini eniyenzayo, sebenzani njengeyunithi ukuhlela ibhizinisi lakho elisha.
Lokhu kuhlela nobunye kuzokunika isikhathi nokuxhumeka okudingekayo ukuze uqhubekele phambili futhi ushise izinguquko ebudlelwaneni bakho. Lesi futhi yisikhathi esihle sokwenza thola ukwesekwa okuvela eceleni okungakusiza ngamunye uzulazule ebudlelwaneni ngendlela ekhuthaza ukukhula kwenu ndawonye.
Tshala imali kwezinye izikhathi zokwelashwa, ukuhambela ukuhlehla kwezithandani ngempelasonto noma ukuxhuma kabusha nomfundisi owahlangana nawe ealtare.
8. Faka umlingani wakho ezinqumweni zonyaka wakho omusha
U-Yana Kaminsky, MA, LMFT
Izinqumo zonyaka omusha zivame ukuthinta izinhloso zomuntu ngamunye, ngaphandle kukazakwethu. Ngakho-ke, faka umlingani wakho kufanele aqale uhlu.
Uma ubhekisa ezindabeni zobudlelwano bakho njengezakudala, shintsha ishuni; funa amandla akho: ingabe uyiqembu elihle?
Ungalokothi ubukele phansi amandla ezinto ezincane: ukuncoma, ukudla, isipho ngaphandle kwesenzakalo. Futhi ngethemba, ukwazisa namahlaya kuzohlala kukuwe njalo!
9. Susa ukunganaki futhi usebenzise izindlela zokuziphatha ezakhayo
UDkt Debra Mandel
Ukuqala konyaka omusha kuletha ugqozi nesithembiso soshintsho kubantu abaningi.
Kepha ukuze ubudlelwano bethu buthuthuke futhi bungasaqhubeki nezinkinga ezifanayo ezenziwe kabusha, kudingeka sazi ukuthi senzani ukudala ukunganaki ezimpilweni zethu futhi sebenzisa izinguquko ezisebenzayo nezakhayo zokuziphatha.
Ngokwenza kanjalo, umphumela ohlukile futhi ongcono uzokhula! Ngakho-ke qala ukutshala imbewu entsha manje!
10. Ukuqwashisa, ukucabangela nokucabangela
UTimothy Rogers, MA, LMFT
Yebo, kujule kangako.
Kodwa-ke, lokhu kungaba UNYAKA lapho ungakhona philisa emaphethini amadala okufunda wokuxhumana okungafanele, indawo yokuhlala engalungile yabanye (futhi unenzondo ngakho), kanye “Abantu abajabulisayo” noma abazama ukulawula abanye.
Kanjani? Ukuqwashisa. Ukuqaphela, Ukucabangela, Ukucabangela. Kepha hhayi kwabanye kuphela onobudlelwano nabo, BAKHO, okokuqala bese kuba abanye, ngaleyo ndlela.
Zonke izinkinga ebudlelwaneni bethu zinesici esisodwa esifanayo: Imizwa.
Ngiyazi, “duh!” Kepha cabanga ukuthi sethulwe kanjani nokuthi imizwa yethu nomsele wayo, imizwa iphathwe kanjani emndenini wethu wendabuko, izokutshela konke odinga ukukwazi mayelana nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kwamuva kanye nomlando wabantu abadala osemncane ebudlelwaneni kanye nobunzima obulandelayo bobudlelwano.
Ungasayiphathi kukhanyise kakhulu isimo samanje sezinkinga zakho zobudlelwano, okuzokusiza kukuholele ebudlelwaneni besikhathi esizayo obungakafiki.
Lapho nje usuyazi leyo mindeni ethintekayo eyimvelaphi yokuhlangenwe nakho ngemizwa namaphethini obudlelwano obungagculisi obulandelayo, uzokwazi kahle ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nokuphulukiswa nokulahlwa kwezinkinga zakudala, zobudlelwano obujwayelekile hhayi kulo nyaka kuphela kodwa nakwabanye wempilo yakho!
11. Thuthukisa ulwazi lwakho
UDeryl Goldenberg, PhD
Iningi lethu alinawo amakhono okuba nobuhlobo obufunayo futhi lisola omunye umuntu ngokungagculiseki kwethu.
Kunganjani esikhundleni salokho ubhekane nalolo hlobo lokuthambekela futhi ubheke ekuthuthukiseni ulwazi lwethu ngokwazi kanye namandla okwenza lokho phatha ukwenza kwethu kabusha futhi unqobe izinkinga ebudlelwaneni? Ukufunda i- Ulimi lokuba sengozini ngokomzwelo lusiza kakhulu.
12. Beka ezinye izici zobudlelwano bakho phambili
UDkt Mimi Shagaga
Kwabaningi, uNyaka Omusha unikeza ithuba lokuqala kabusha. Manje yenza isikhathi esifanele sokuxazulula izinkinga zobudlelwano.
Kwabashadikazi, kungaba yisikhathi sokwenza njalo bahlole baphinde babeke phambili izici zobudlelwano babo. Ukucabanga ngonyaka owedlule kungasiza imibhangqwana ukuthi ibone imikhuba yobudlelwano noma amaphethini abafisa ukuphuma kuwo. Bangabe sebenquma ukuthi iziphi izinguquko ezizokwenziwa futhi bazibekele imigomo ndawonye.
13. Khuluma nomlingani wakho ngezinhloso zenu ndawonye
UMarcie B. Scranton, LMFT
Ukuqala kukaJanuwari kungazizwa kungathi ukubuyela esimweni futhi kufane nesichilo seholide. Kepha futhi kumelela isileti esihlanzekile.
Esikhundleni sezinqumo, qala unyaka omusha ngokukhuluma nomlingani wakho ngezinhloso zakho.
Bona ukuthi balandelana kanjani, bathathe amasheya, futhi bafune usizo uma kudingeka ukuthola izeluleko ezengeziwe ezinkingeni zobudlelwano kanye namathuluzi afanele wokuthi ungaxazulula kanjani izinkinga zobudlelwano ngaphandle kokuhlukana.
14. Ukuzimisela ukubona ubudlelwano ukuthi buyini
UTamika Lewis, uLCSW
Njengodokotela wezengqondo, ngithola uNyaka Omusha ube yisikhathi sokuqala kwalokhu engikubiza ngokuthi “ukusula ikhabethe lakho lobudlelwano ngenkathi uxazulula izinkinga zobudlelwano.”
Ngiyasithanda isisho sika-Annie Dillard esithi, “Indlela esizisebenzisa ngayo izinsuku zethu, yindlela esisebenzisa ngayo izimpilo zethu.”Ngolunye usuku lokuphila ngemicabango nemizwelo evalekile kuvame ukuphenduka inzondo yokuphila kwakho konke. Ukhiye we ukususa imikhuba emidala ebudlelwaneni bakho uzimisele ukubona ubudlelwane ukuthi buyini. Qala ngokuzibuza le mibuzo elandelayo:
- Ngabe kukhona engikudingayo kulobu budlelwano engingakutholi?
- Ngabe ngikhulume ngezidingo zami ngendlela evulekile, ethembekile, neqondile?
- Ngikudele ukuthola okudingayo?
15. Khombisa umlingani wakho ukuthi uyamkhathalela
UDkt Gary Brown, Ph.D., LMFT, FAPA
Enye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu ongasiza ngayo ukulungisa izingqinamba zobudlelwano obudala ukuqala usuku ngalunye ngokubuza umlingani wakho lo mbuzo olandelayo:
"Yini engingayenza ukusiza ukwenza usuku lwakho lube ngcono namhlanje?"
Ukubuza nje lo mbuzo kukhombisa umlingani wakho ukuthi ungubani ngentshisekelo yangempela enhlalakahleni nasenjabulweni yabo.
16. Zithethelele futhi uyeke okwedlule
U-Elisha Goldstein, PhD
Unyaka Omusha a Isikhathi sokuzixolela ngesikhathi esidlulile, ulahle ithemba lokudlula okungcono, siphenya ukuthi imaphi amaphethini angasisebenzelanga ngakho-ke singafunda kubo, futhi sizimeme ngenhliziyo yonke ukuqala kabusha.
Ngokwenza lokhu, singafunda ukuthi singaphumelela kanjani futhi sijabule ebudlelwaneni bethu kulo nyaka!
17. Faka imikhuba emihle yokuxhumana
UDeanna Richards, uLMHC
Unyaka Omusha ungakusiza uphefumule impilo futhi uvuselele ubuqambi kubudlelwano bakho. Qala ngokuzibuza, “Yimiphi imikhuba esiyakhe, futhi isisiza kanjani ukuthi sixhumane ngokomzimba, nangokomzwelo, ngokocansi nangokomoya?”Yenza uhlu lwayo yonke imikhuba yakho bese usika lezo ezikususa kude nokuxhuma.
Yimiphi imikhuba emisha ongadinga ukuyenza ukukusiza ukuxhuma kabusha kulezi zindawo ezine? Mhlawumbe kwakha ubusuku bosuku.
Mhlawumbe, ufuna ukuba nokuhlangenwe nakho okusha ekamelweni, futhi umkhuba omusha kuzoba ukukhetha okuthile ohlwini lwakho lwe- "Ufuna Ukuzama" njalo ngenyanga. Umkhuba omusha kungaba ubusuku obubodwa ngesonto ulalele noma ufunda okuthile nomlingani wakho bese wabelana ngemicabango nemizwa yakho ngemuva kwalokho.
18. Ithuba lokuzenzela uhlu olusha noluthembekile
UJoanna Smith, MS, LPCC, RN
Ngabe uzama ngokuzimela ukushintsha noma ukulungisa lowo muntu empilweni yakho ngenkathi ungazinaki izidingo zakho?
Lo nyaka omusha uhlole ubudlelwano bakho nalezi zinto bese wenza okulungele wena nomlingani wakho.
Umuntu okuwukuphela kwakhe ongamshintsha nguwe futhi kuthatha umuntu oyedwa ukwephula amaphethini amadala!
Nikeza ubuhlobo bakho ukuqala konyaka omusha wokukhahlela - vula isibuko ungene ngaphakathi futhi ube ngumuntu ongcono kakhulu.
19. Bamba izingxabano ezinempilo
UDARLENE LANCER, LMFT, MA, JD
Kujwayelekile ukuba nengxabano ebudlelwaneni. Izifiso nezidingo zingqubuzana ngokungenakugwenywa. Zikhumbuze ukuthi ukuxhumana kungukuzwana, hhayi ukuthi kulungile. Funda ukuthi izimpikiswano zingaba kanjani yinto enhle ebudlelwaneni.
20. Dedela uvalo
USUSAN QUINN, LMFT
Ubudlelwano businikeza ithemba lekusasa elimangalisayo, futhi ngasikhathi sinye, bavusa ukwesaba okujulile ukuthi singalahlekelwa yinto esiyazisa kakhulu.
Lokhu kwesaba okujulile kusibangela ukuba senze okuthile ngokumelene nomlingani wethu futhi kungalimaza ubuhlobo.
Uhlobo lokwesaba esikusabelayo ukuthi luvela ezinkolelweni zethu eziyinhloko, ngakho-ke indlela yokuqeda le nkinga ukuthi shintsha izinkolelo zethu ezinomkhawulo ezigcinwe emqondweni ongazi lutho.
21. Yethula izinguquko ukwenza ngcono ubuhlobo bakho
UNATALIA BOUCHER, LMFT
Abanye bethu bathanda ukucabanga ngonyaka omusha njengesikhathi sokuqala kabusha nokwenza izinguquko ezithile.
Lesi futhi yisikhathi esihle sokucabanga ngezinguquko wena nomlingani wakho eningazisebenzisa ukwenza ngcono futhi nibe nobudlelwano obenelisa kakhulu.
Isinyathelo sokuqala ukudala uhlu lwamandla obuhlobo bakho, izinto ezenza ubudlelwano bakho bukhetheke, buhluke, futhi bubaluleke. Iningi labantu linezinkinga ngalolu hlu ngoba kuhlale kulula ukucabanga ngezinto ezingezinhle.
Lapho usudale uhlu, cabanga ngezinto ongathanda ukuzithuthukisa. Nalu uhlu lwemibono ...
- Ukuxhumana
- Izinkinga Zezimali
- Uxhumano
- Ukwazisa
- Ukuzinakekela
Ungabulungisa kanjani ubuhlobo? Cabanga ngokwelashwa.
Uma ubudlelwano bakho budlula ezikhathini ezinzima, unyaka omusha yisikhathi esihle sokuqala ukwelashwa kwezithandani.
Usizo olufike ngesikhathi ngohlobo lokwelashwa kwezithandani noma ukwelulekwa ngemishado kukusiza ukuthi ubone izinkinga zobudlelwano nezixazululo.
Uma umlingani wakho engazimisele ukuzibophezela emsebenzini wabashadikazi, ukwelashwa ngakunye nakho kuyasiza. Lapho umuntu oyedwa eguquka, omunye kuzofanela ajwayele, enze ushintsho kumandla ezithandani.
Jabulela izinguquko eziza ebudlelwaneni bakho kulo nyaka omusha!
22. Thola amandla ebudlelwaneni bakho
UCYNTHIA BLOORE, MS
Cabanga ngempumelelo yakho yobudlelwano - bekwenzekani, futhi ubenzani ngaleso sikhathi lokho bekusebenza?
Ukukhomba amandla akho ngaso sonke isikhathi kuyisiqalo esihle lapho wenza izinguquko noma uxazulula izingxabano. Ukugxila emandleni omlingani wakho kungaletha impilo entsha nothando ebudlelwaneni bakho ngenkathi unqoba izinkinga ezivamile zobudlelwano besikhathi eside.