-Delile
- 1. Funda ukuthi ungayibona kanjani i-gaslighting
- 2. Hlala uzinikele kokungokoqobo kwakho
- 3. Khipha
- 4. Sukuma ekhanda lakho
- 5. Babulale ngomusa
- 6. Shiya
Ukukhanyisa ngegesi kuwuhlobo lokuhlukumeza ngokwengqondo lapho umhlukumezi enza ukuthi isisulu sibuze impilo yabo uqobo kanye neqiniso futhi bazibeke icala ngokuhlukunyezwa. Kuyinkohliso futhi kungaba nzima ukulwa futhi kuyisikhali esithandwa kakhulu ngumlweli.
Ukufunda ukuthi ungalwa kanjani nokukhanyiswa kwe-narcissist ngegesi kuyisihluthulelo sokusinda ebudlelwaneni nomlingani we-narcissistic.
Zama lezi zindlela ezi-5 zokulwa nokukhanyiswa kwe-narcissist
1. Funda ukuthi ungayibona kanjani i-gaslighting
Awukwazi ukulwa noma ukuphazamisa ukuziphatha uze ufunde ukuthi ungakubona kanjani.
Funda izimpawu zokuthi i-narcissist yakho ikukhanyisela igesi ngoba izokusiza ekufundeni ukuthi ulwa kanjani nokukhanyiswa kwe-narcissist
Lokhu kufaka phakathi ukukutshela ukuthi ukhumbula okuthile okungalungile noma uvele wakucabanga; ukukumangalela "ngokuzwela kakhulu"; ngizama ukukukhipha imizwa yakho ngoba "akufanele uzizwe ngaleyo ndlela" noma "angikusho lokho."
Abanye bama-narcissist baphonsa kumqondo oyindilinga naku "word salad". Amagama amaningi azwakala ehlakaniphile angasho lutho ngomzamo wokudida izisulu, futhi.
Abanye abakwa-narcissists baqamba amanga njengengxenye yokukhanyisa igesi, njengokuphika ukuthi bake basho okuthile noma benza okuthile isisulu esikhumbula kahle.
Futhi bazokhuluma amanga ukuze babuyele ekuphenduleni ngezenzo zabo nokwehluleka kwabo, ikakhulukazi lapho bekwazi ukukholisa isisulu ukuba sizisole ngokwaso.
2. Hlala uzinikele kokungokoqobo kwakho
Omunye wemiphumela emikhulu yokukhanyiswa kwegesi ukuthi kwenza isisulu sibuze umbono wabo ngeqiniso. Ukutshelwa njalo ukuthi ukhumbula kabi imicimbi noma ukuthi ayenzekanga nhlobo, noma ukuthi ucabanga izinto, kuyayilimaza ingqondo yakho.
Ukuhlala uzinzile eqinisweni lakho kukusiza ukuthi uzimise kulokho owaziyo ukuthi kuyiqiniso. Bhala izinto phansi uma kufanele, ukuze ube namanothi anemininingwane ongabuyela kuwo uma uqala ukubuza okuthile.
Thola umuntu noma iqembu ongakhuluma nalo ukuze uthole ukwesekwa futhi ube nabantu abangaqinisekisa i-akhawunti yakho yemicimbi.
Ukuzijwayeza ukukhuluma ngokwakho futhi uzikhumbuze ukuthi uyakwazi okwenzekile, uyazi ukuthi uzizwa kanjani, nokuthi imizwa yakho ivumelekile futhi kungakusiza ukuthi uhlale phansi.
3. Khipha
Kungaba nzima phakathi kweseshini yokukhanyisa igesi, kepha ibutho liyindlela eyodwa yokulwa nokukhanyiswa kwe-narcissist.
Okokuqala, ukuhlukanisa kungakusiza ukuthi ugweme ukucasulwa okungokwemvelo, okuphathelene nemizwa futhi kuklanyelwe ukuvusa ukuzivikela. Okwesibili, ukukhipha kunqamula amandla akho ekushintshaneni, okuncisha i-narcissist amandla awanikezayo.
Zijwayeze ukuhlukaniswa ngokuhlehla ngokwengqondo lapho kukhanya igesi kuqala.
Phatha ukushintshaniswa kube sengathi ubukele obukele, kunokuba ubambe iqhaza. Lokhu kuzokusiza ugcine uvikelekile emiphumeleni yokukhanya kwegesi. Umuntu osebenzisa izihibe naye angakhungatheka ngenxa yokushoda kwamandla aze ayinqamule ingxoxo.
4. Sukuma ekhanda lakho
Ngokufana ne-detachment, ukuqonda ukukhanya kwegesi kungakusiza ukuthi ulwe nakho.
Ukuqamba ukukhanya kwegesi kuvimbela impendulo engokomzwelo efuna i-narcissist.
Phendula kumnuzisi ngezitatimende eziqondile, eziqondile. Buza imibuzo eqondile. Yenza okusemandleni akho ukugcina imizwa ebusweni bakho nezwi lakho. Lokhu kuzokhungathekisa futhi kudidise umuntu osebenzisa izinto zobuciko. Lokhu kuhamba ibanga elide lapho uzama ukulwa nokukhanyiswa kwe-narcissist ngegesi
I-Intellectualizing ingakusiza nokuthi uhlale uzolile lapho kukhanyiswa i-narcissistic gaslighting, okungaba ithuluzi elibalulekile lokwenza izinqumo ezinhle mayelana nokuthi ungaphendula kanjani kumuntu obamba iqhaza okwamanje kanye nasesikhathini esizayo.
5. Babulale ngomusa
Into enama-narcissist ihlala iphathelene nabo.
AmaNarcissist ayachuma ngokunconywa, ukuqinisekiswa, nokuzwa ukuthi mahle kanjani futhi alungile.
Noma ungakukholwa ngempela, flip iskripthi engxoxweni yokukhanyisela igesi ngokujika ujikeleze ube mayelana ne-narcissist.
Banike ngokudumisa. Esikhundleni sokuzilwela, yenza ingxoxo nge-narcissist nokuthi yini okuhle kakhulu ngabo. Ungesabi ukungasebenzi kahle.
Ngokudabukisayo, ukulayisha ngokweqile i-narcissist ngokuningi kakhulu kwalokho abakufunayo kungabacindezela futhi kubenze bavale iseshini yokukhanyisa igesi. Lesi mhlawumbe akusona isixazululo sesikhathi eside esinempilo, kepha singasiza ngesikhathi lapho udinga ukuphazamisa ukukhanyisa uphethiloli njengoba kwenzeka.
6. Shiya
Le inzima kakhulu ukuyenza, kepha iphumelela kakhulu.
Lapho nje ubona ingxoxo ingena endaweni yokukhanyisa, yiqede. Isho okuthile okufana nokuthi, "Anginayo le ngxoxo" futhi unqamule ukuxhumana kube kufushane. Uma ungashiya indawo ebonakalayo, kungcono kakhulu.
Noma ngabe udonswe emdlalweni wokuxhumana nomuntu othanda izihibe, ungabeka amabhuleki nganoma yisiphi isikhathi. Ukusika ukuxhumana kuncisha i-narcissist ukunikezela, futhi mhlawumbe kuzobamangaza. Lokhu kubuyisela amandla ezandleni zakho.