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- 1. UKULINDELA: Umlingani wami uyangiqedela! Bayingxenye yami enye!
- Iqiniso: Ngingumuntu ophelele ngedwa
- 2. UKULINDELA: Kufanele ngibe isikhungo somhlaba womlingani wami
- Iqiniso: Mina nomlingani wami sinempilo ephelele, egcwalisa eyethu
- 3. UKULINDELA: Ubudlelwano obunempilo kufanele bube lula ngaso sonke isikhathi
- IQINISO: Impilo iba nezikhathi ezinzima nezimbi, kepha mina nomlingani wami siyakwazi ukubhekana nazo
- 4. UKULINDELA: Uma umlingani wami engithanda bebengashintsha
- Iqiniso: Ngiyamthanda umuntu engithandana naye ukuthi bangobani nokuthi baba ngobani
Siphila emphakathini obeka kakhulu ukugxila ekutholeni ubudlelwano bezothando "obuhle". Kusuka kumamuvi kuya kuthelevishini kuya ezingomeni zezingoma, sihlaselwa yimilayezo yokuthi uthando kufanele lubukeke kanjani, ukuthi yini okufanele siyilindele kozakwethu, nokuthi kusho ukuthini uma ubudlelwano bethu bungaphumeleli kulokho okulindelwe.
Kepha noma ngubani oke waba sebudlelwaneni uyazi ukuthi iqiniso livame ukubukeka lehluke kakhulu kulezo zindaba zothando eziphelele esizibonayo nesizizwayo nxazonke zethu. Kungasishiya sizibuze ukuthi yini esinelungelo lokuyilindela nokuthi ubuhlobo bethu buhle yini futhi bunempilo nhlobo? Futhi kubalulekile ukuba namaqiniso ngokulindelekile vs iqiniso ebuhlotsheni uma sinethemba lokwakha ubudlelwano bezothando obunempilo.
Funda ukuze ufunde kabanzi mayelana nokulindelwe okukhulu kakhulu noma okungokoqobo ebuhlotsheni obungaqondakali ebudlelwaneni nokuthi kungani kubalulekile ukukukhipha.
1. UKULINDELA: Umlingani wami uyangiqedela! Bayingxenye yami enye!
Kulokhu kulindela, lapho ekugcineni sihlangana “noyedwa,” siyozizwa siphelele, siphelele futhi sijabule. Lo mlingani ofanelekayo uzogcwalisa zonke izingcezu zethu ezingekho bese enza ukushiyeka kwethu, futhi nathi sizokwenza okufanayo kubo.
Iqiniso: Ngingumuntu ophelele ngedwa
Kuzwakala kukuhle, kepha awusoze wamthola umuntu ofanele ongamthanda uma ungaphelele. Lokhu akusho ukuthi awunazo izingqinamba noma umsebenzi ongawenza kuwe, kepha kunalokho ukuthi ubheka wena ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zakho ezibaluleke kakhulu.
Awuthembeli komunye umuntu ukuze uzizwe uvumelekile futhi ufanelekile - ungathola lo muzwa kuwe nasempilweni ozakhele yona.
2. UKULINDELA: Kufanele ngibe isikhungo somhlaba womlingani wami
Lesi yisisekelo se-flipside sethemba lokuthi “bayangiqedela”. Kulokhu kulindela, umlingani wakho ushintsha impilo yakhe yonke ukugxila kukho konke ukunaka nezinsizakusebenza zakho kuwe.
Abadingi abangane bangaphandle, izintshisekelo zangaphandle, noma isikhathi sabo - noma, okungenani, badinga lezi zinto ngamanani alinganiselwe kakhulu.
Iqiniso: Mina nomlingani wami sinempilo ephelele, egcwalisa eyethu
Nobabili beninempilo ngaphambi kokuthi nihlangane, futhi nidinga ukuqhubeka nibe nalezo zimpilo yize nindawonye manje. Akekho kini odinga ukuthi omunye aphelele. Kunalokho, nindawonye ngoba ubudlelwane buthuthukisa izinga lempilo yenu.
Umlingani olindele ukuthi ulahle zonke izintshisekelo zangaphandle nobungane ukuze ugxile kubo nguzakwethu ofuna ukulawula, futhi lokhu akuyona into enempilo noma yothando!
Esikhundleni salokho, ebudlelwaneni obunempilo, abalingani basekelana izintshisakalo zangaphandle nobungane njengoba nje bakhe impilo ndawonye.
3. UKULINDELA: Ubudlelwano obunempilo kufanele bube lula ngaso sonke isikhathi
Lokhu kungafingqwa ngokuthi "uthando lunqoba konke." Kulokhu kulindela, ubudlelwano "obulungile" buhlala bulula, bungabi nezingxabano, futhi buntofontofo. Wena nomlingani wakho anikaze nivumelane noma kufanele nixoxisane noma nivumelane.
IQINISO: Impilo iba nezikhathi ezinzima nezimbi, kepha mina nomlingani wami siyakwazi ukubhekana nazo
Akukho lutho empilweni olulula ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi ebudlelwaneni. Ukukholelwa ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho buzolahlwa ngophawu lokuqala lobunzima noma izingxabano lubeka wena engozini yokuqeda ubudlelwano obungakulungela wena! Yize udlame nokuxabana ngokweqile kungamafulegi abomvu, iqiniso ukuthi kubo bonke ubudlelwano kuzoba nokungaboni ngaso linye, izingxabano, nezikhathi lapho kufanele nivumelanise noma nixoxisane.
Akubona ubukhona bengxabano kodwa indlela wena nomlingani wakho eniyisingatha ngayo enquma ukuthi ubuhlobo benu bunempilo kangakanani.
Ukufunda ukuxoxisana, usebenzisa amakhono amahle wokuxazulula izingxabano, nokuyekethisa kubalulekile ekwakheni ubuhlobo obunempilo, obuhlala isikhathi eside.
4. UKULINDELA: Uma umlingani wami engithanda bebengashintsha
Lokhu kulindela ukuthi singakhuthaza umuntu esimthandayo ukuthi aguquke ngezindlela ezithile nokuthi ukuzimisela kwabo ukwenza lokho kukhombisa ukuthi luqine kangakanani uthando lwabo.
Kwesinye isikhathi lokhu kuza ngendlela yokukhetha umlingani esimthatha “njengephrojekthi” - umuntu okholelwa noma owenza izinto esizithola zinenkinga, kodwa esikholwa ukuthi singamguqula abe inguqulo “engcono”. Kunezibonelo zalokhu kuwo wonke amasiko we-pop, futhi abesifazane ikakhulukazi bayakhuthazwa ukuthi bakhethe abesilisa abangakwazi "ukukuguqula" noma ukubalinganisa abe nguzakwethu ofanele.
Iqiniso: Ngiyamthanda umuntu engithandana naye ukuthi bangobani nokuthi baba ngobani
Abantu bazoshintsha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lokho kuqinisekile. Futhi kubalulekile ukusekela ophathina bethu ekwenzeni izinguquko empilweni ezizozithuthukisa futhi ziqinise ubudlelwano bethu.
Kepha uma ungakwazi ukuthanda umlingani wakho njengoba besemzuzwini othile, futhi esikhundleni salokho ukholelwe ukuthi ukubathanda kakhulu kuzozenza bashintshe ngokuyisisekelo, uzodumala.
Ukwamukela umlingani wakho ukuthi bangobani kuyinto ebalulekile yokwakha impilo.
Ukulindela umlingani ukuthi aguquke "njengobufakazi" bothando - noma, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukulindela ukuthi bangaze bakhule futhi bashintshe - kuyisicefe kumlingani wakho, ebudlelwaneni bakho nakuwe uqobo.