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- 1. Ukwamukela
- 2. Zizwe kahle
- 3. Zazise izikhathi ezinhle nezimbi
- 4. Qonda ukuthi ucansi luzoshintsha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi
- 5. Yamukela umehluko
- 6. Ukulungele ukubhekana nanoma iyiphi inselele
- 7. Hloniphanani
- 8. Ukuzwa okuphephile
- Ingoma yothando engunaphakade
- Isilinganiso sothando laphakade
Sonke siphupha ngothando olungunaphakade. Indaba yothando eya eminyakeni ezayo. Ukwethenjwa nomuzwa wokuba sothandweni kuhlala kukusha iminyaka neminyaka ezayo. Kodwa-ke, ababaningi abakwazi ukukufeza lokhu; abanye abazi ngisho nokuthi bakutholile.
Ngakho-ke, masigubhe uthando futhi sibheke incazelo yothando yaphakade, ezinye zezingoma ezinkulu kakhulu nezingcaphuno ezithile ezithinta inhliziyo.
Uthando ukuthanda nje. Akusho lutho ukulindela ukubuyiselwa noma yini. Kukwenza abanye bazizwe bekhululekile, bejabule futhi bezinzile noma kungenzekani. Uthando selungaze luthi uxolo. IHollywood isinikeze amanye ama-movie wezindaba zothando wesikhathi sethu njengeThe Notebook, PS Ngiyakuthanda phakathi kwabanye. Kuma-movie bakhuluma ngothando lweqiniso noma oluhlala njalo komunye nomunye, kepha wazi kanjani ukuthi ukulo thando 'lwangempela'? Ake sibheke ngokushesha ngaphambi kokuba siye phambili.
Wazi kanjani ukuthi usemathandweni angunaphakade?
1. Ukwamukela
Incazelo yothando laphakade ichaza kahle futhi ikhombisa ukuthi ungazi kanjani uma usothandweni. Uma usothandweni, othandweni laphakade, umamukela umuntu ngendlela ayiyo.
Awufuni ukubashintsha kancane; uyalishalazela uhlangothi lwabo olungeluhle, ngaphandle kokuthi uyabazisa bonke. Lokhu kwenzeka kuphela lapho ukwazile ukubona ngezinhliziyo zabo futhi wazi ukuthi bangabakho. Kubalulekile impela ukuba nothando oluhlala isikhathi eside. Lapho kungekho ukwamukelwa komuntu ukuthi ungubani, nakanjani kuzobakhona ukungqubuzana okuthile njengoba isikhathi sihamba.
2. Zizwe kahle
Ugcine nini ukuthola injabulo ehlala njalo lapho uthandana nomuntu othile? Akukaze kwenzeke.
Uma unothando, uhlala uphezulu futhi ujabule okwamanje bese kancane kancane uyaphela. Noma kunjalo, lapho-ke usemathandweni angunaphakade, ungazithola uzungezwe injabulo izinsuku, amasonto ngisho nezinyanga.
Izinto eziseduze kwakho zizoshintsha futhi ngokuzumayo uzokujabulela konke okuncane kosuku lwakho, nalowo muntu noma ngomcabango walowo muntu.
3. Zazise izikhathi ezinhle nezimbi
Sonke siyazi ukuthi ubudlelwano buya ngezikhathi ezithile naphansi kodwa ababaningi abakulungele ukukuthokozela lokhu futhi bakwamukele njengengxenye yempilo. Kodwa-ke, uma usemathandweni angunaphakade, uyazazisa zonke izingxenye zobuhlobo, ngisho nezimbi.
Ngakho-ke, ngokuzumayo uzithola usesimweni lapho amahla-ndla naphansi angathinti ukuqina kothando lwakho kumlingani wakho nakancane.
4. Qonda ukuthi ucansi luzoshintsha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi
Ucansi luyingxenye ebalulekile yanoma yibuphi ubuhlobo.
Kodwa-ke, ababaningi abaqondayo njengobudlelwano bakho, ngisho nobulili buhamba ngezigaba ezahlukahlukene. Kuyathandeka ekuqaleni bese kuthi ngemuva kokubeletha kuyeluleke futhi kamuva eminyakeni kwenzeka okungajwayelekile. Kodwa-ke, uma usemathandweni angunaphakade, uvame ukungakunaki konke futhi wazise zonke izigaba zocansi. Okwakho ukuba nomlingani wakho kubalulekile kunanoma yini enye.
5. Yamukela umehluko
Abekho abantu ababili abafanayo. Ngokudabukisayo, ababaningi abakwazi ukukuqonda lokhu lapho bethandana. Kodwa-ke, le nto yehlukile uma umuntu esothandweni laphakade. Bayakuqonda lokhu futhi bayemamukela umuntu noma ngabe banokungafani okuthile. Ukwehluka kubonakala kungabakhathazi nakancane. Basangene othandweni vele.
6. Ukulungele ukubhekana nanoma iyiphi inselele
Ubudlelwano buyindlela enezinkinga.
Kwesinye isikhathi kuba ilanga libalele futhi ezinye izinsuku zigcwele amafu amnyama. Uthando luvivinywa kaningi futhi umuntu osethandweni laphakade uhamba kalula kunoma iyiphi inselelo impilo ayiphonsayo. Balwa noma bathole isixazululo sezinkinga zabo ndawonye. Konke okubalulekile kubo ukuhlangana kwabo ekugcineni kosuku.
7. Hloniphanani
Inhlonipho ebudlelwaneni iza ngokuzenzakalela.
Akekho ofuna noma ophoqelelwe ukungena kuwo. Othandweni lwaphakade, kuza ngokuzenzakalela. Ubona izinto ezinhle kumlingani wakho futhi uyajabula ngokuba nabo.
Ungahle uzithole ukhuluma ngezinto ezinhle zomlingani wakho nakwabanye. Lokhu kukhuluma kakhulu ngawe nokuthi uthandana kangakanani nomlingani wakho. Noma kunjalo, awuziqhayisi ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngoba ekujuleni kwenhliziyo uyazi ukuthi umthanda kangakanani umlingani wakho.
8. Ukuzwa okuphephile
Lokhu kuzoba yinto yaphakade ebaluleke kakhulu. Ukuzizwa uphephile kubalulekile. Ukungabaza okuncane kungabuqeda nya ubudlelwano bakho. Ngakho-ke, othandweni laphakade, uzizwa uvikelekile kunakuqala. Uyazi, noma ngabe yini, umlingani wakho uzoba seduze kwakho ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Ingoma yothando engunaphakade
- Angifuni ukulahlekelwa uthando lwakho - John O'Banion
- Ulwandle Lothando - The Honeydippers
- Okuhle Kimi - Olivia Newton-John / David Foster
- Ngoba ungithandile - uCeline Dion
- Uthando olungapheli - uLionel Richie noDiana Ross
- Flame Eternal - Bangles
Isilinganiso sothando laphakade
- Izinkanyezi, leyo mvelo ilenga ezulwini futhi yagcwalisa izibani zazo ngamafutha angunaphakade, zinikeza ukukhanya okufanele kumhambi odukisiwe futhi onesizungu. - UJohn Milton
- Umphefumulo ungunaphakade, futhi ulwazi lwawo lokufunda luyimpilo ngemuva kwempilo
- Ngifuna wazi into eyodwa, ngiyohlala ngithembekile kuwe, futhi ngiyohlala ngithi kuwe, ngiyakuthanda. - I-Auliq Ice
- Uyizizathu zonke, wonke amathemba, namaphupho engake ngaba nawo. - UNicholas Sparks