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- Ukusondelana kuvela kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho ndawonye
- 1. Khumbula ukuthi kungani wathandana kwasekuqaleni
- 2 Yakhani isu lokuxhumana phakathi kwenu
- 3. Thuthukisa igama lekhodi lezikhathi lapho enye 'ingezwa' enye
- 4. Sebenza kanzima nsuku zonke ukuze ubekhona futhi utshale imali kumlingani wakho
- 5. Hlela ukuba nezinsuku zobusuku ezijwayelekile
- 6. Tshelanani njalo ukuthi niyabonga futhi niyathandana
- 7. Yakhani amasiko phakathi kwenu futhi ninamathele kuwo
Ukusondelana kuvela kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho ndawonye
Ukusondelana kuyinto evame ukudingeka ebudlelwaneni futhi engabanjwanga lapho ingekho. Kepha ukusondelana kobudlelwano akuyona into evame ukugxila kuyo, noma ebhekiswe ngokucophelela yimibhangqwana ebudlelwaneni nokwenza izinto zibe nzima kakhulu, ukusondelana nakho kungaqondakala kahle. Imvamisa kufakwa amabhokisi ezindabeni zocansi ngaphandle kokubhekisisa zonke ezinye, nezindlela ezibaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ukusondelana kwenzeka phakathi kobuhlobo.
Ukusondelana kobudlelwano kungaqala ukukhula kusuka ekuhehweni ngokobulili ezigabeni zokuqala ngoba yileyo ndlela owethula ngayo umuntu osengozini enkulu kulezo zigaba. Kepha njengoba isikhathi sihamba, ukusondelana kuvela kokuhlangenwe nakho kwenu ndawonye, ukuthi nihlela kanjani ndawonye, nasekuqondeni lawo ma-nuances amancane, nokuphendula okuvela kuphela kumuntu okwazi ngokuseduze.
Uma ufuna ukuthuthukisa ukusondelana kobudlelwano bakho, nazi izindlela ezimbalwa zokuthuthukisa nokugcina ukusondelana ebudlelwaneni bakho.
1. Khumbula ukuthi kungani wathandana kwasekuqaleni
Yenza iphuzu lokukhumbula njalo ukuthi kungani wathandana kwasekuqaleni, ukuze ngezikhathi zenkinga, ibanga, noma izingxabano nibe nethuba elingcono kakhulu lokusebenzisana ngayo. Ukushintsha nje isimo senu sengqondo sithandane futhi sazise omunye nomunye, kuzothambisa imiphetho yobudlelwano futhi kukusize nobabili ukuthi nihlale nizinikele komunye nomunye futhi nisondelane.
2 Yakhani isu lokuxhumana phakathi kwenu
Ukuxhumana kungaba yinselele kwabangcono kakhulu kithi, futhi kungaba yimbangela yebanga ebudlelwaneni njengoba kungaba ngumdali wobudlelwane obuseduze. Ukufunda ukuthi ukuxhumana kwethu kudidana, kuyacasula, noma kukhuthazana kanjani, kungasisiza ukulungisa ukuxhumana kwethu.
Kwezinye izimo kungavula phansi ukuthi kuxoxiswane ngokuthi kungani sixhumana njengathi, nokuthi kuthintana kanjani - okungahle kusakaze ezinye izimpikiswano. Ukufunda ukuxhumana omunye nomunye ngendlela enothando futhi esondelene kuzokhuphula ukusondelana kobudlelwano bakho namazinga ongakaze uwabone ngaphambili.
3. Thuthukisa igama lekhodi lezikhathi lapho enye 'ingezwa' enye
Kunezikhathi ebuhlotsheni lapho omunye umlingani angabheka omunye ukuthi ucasula ngokweqile, uyancokola, noma ubelesele ngodaba oluthile. Okubangela ukuthi banciphise isimo. Vele, uma omunye umlingani ebucayi lokhu kungaba yimbangela enkulu yokuxabana futhi kuhanjiswe ibanga lisondele kakhulu emibhangqwaneni. Ukuvumelana negama lekhodi eliyimfihlo phakathi kwakho kuzokuvumela ukuthi umake umlingani wakho ukuthi uzimisele kakhulu ngodaba. Igama lekhodi lingasetshenziswa ukwazisa omunye nomunye uma ezimisele ngokushiya umcimbi, noma ukusiza kubuciko bokuxoxisana.
Ukugcina amandla ezwi lekhodi, kufanele lisetshenziswe ezimweni ezibucayi kuphela, futhi lingakaze lisetshenziswe njengehlaya, noma ukuphoqelela intando yakho kwelinye iqembu. Uma isetshenziswe kahle, ithuthukisa ukusondelana kobudlelwano bakho ngoba nobabili niyazi ukuthi ninegama lekhodi ongalisebenzisa esimweni esibi kakhulu, noma esikukhungathekisayo. Cishe ikwenzela ingubo yokuphepha ukuze uzizwe ukhululeke kakhulu ekubeni sengozini nasekuthembaneni.
4. Sebenza kanzima nsuku zonke ukuze ubekhona futhi utshale imali kumlingani wakho
Uma nobabili nisebenza kanzima nsuku zonke ukubamba okuhle komlingani wakho engqondweni. Ukubasekela ngokomzimba, ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo, futhi nobabili nizinikele ekwenzeni lokhu, uzothola ukuthi ukwethembana nokusondelana ebudlelwaneni benu kuyakhula - ngoba nje ungathembela komunye umuntu ukuthi akufisele okuhle.
5. Hlela ukuba nezinsuku zobusuku ezijwayelekile
Kulula ukuthatheka ngempilo, ukuzilibazisa, umsebenzi kanye nomndeni. Nobabili niphila impilo yomuntu ngamunye kodwa nibuya ndawonye ekupheleni kosuku. Kulula ukukhohlwa ukuthi udinga ukuxhuma futhi. Ikakhulu uma kukhulunywa ngokugcina ukusondelana kobudlelwano bakho nomuzwa wokusondelana phakathi kwakho.
Ukwenza isikhathi sokuba nobusuku obujwayelekile bezinsuku uma ningabazali, noma ukwenza imizamo yokugqoka futhi niphume uma niyizithandani, ezisanda kuthola ukhululekile ngosofa! Lokhu ngeke kukusondeze ngokusondelana kuphela kodwa futhi kuzogcina inhlansi ivutha phakathi kwakho futhi ikwenze uzizwe kamnandi lapho ujabulela ubusuku obuhle obuhle.
6. Tshelanani njalo ukuthi niyabonga futhi niyathandana
Ukusondelana kudinga ukwethembana, hhayi ukuthembela nje ukuthi ungaba nomlingani wakho ngomhlane wakho, akuvikele noma uthembeke kuwe, kepha futhi udinga ukwazi ukuthi bakubambile ngokomzwelo, ukuthi bayakwazisa futhi bayakuthanda. Ngendlela efanayo, umlingani wakho udinga okufanayo kuwe futhi ngokwenza njalo, uzogcina ubudlelwane bakho buphila futhi ukusondelana kwakho kuyinto enhle kakhulu.
7. Yakhani amasiko phakathi kwenu futhi ninamathele kuwo
Ukwakha amasiko, njengokugubha ubusuku ohlangane nabo okokuqala, isikhumbuzo sakho, ubambe i-bbq yomndeni unyaka nonyaka. Ukubuyekeza indawo enhle ngempelasonto, noma ukubeka eceleni impelasonto eyodwa ngonyaka (noma ngaphezulu uma ungakwazi ukwelula kuyo) ukuhlola umhlaba. Ngisho namasiko amancane afana nozakwethu opheka kancane njalo enza umzamo wokupheka isidlo sasekuseni ngeSonto.
Mhlawumbe impelasonto ngayinye nijabulela ukuhamba okukhethekile ndawonye. Amasiko adala izinkumbulo ezingcwele, futhi amise amasonto engena eminyakeni. Ngakho-ke uma ungeyena ogubha imikhosi yendabuko, zenzele eyakho, imikhosi enenjongo futhi ubuke ukuthi okwenzekayo nezinkumbulo kukusondeza kanjani futhi kukhulise ukusondelana kobudlelwano bakho.