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Iqiniso. Akufanele kube nzima ukwamukela ngoba kuyiqiniso eliphelele.
Ama-80% emibhangqwana e-United States of America asebudlelwaneni obungasebenzi, ayinampilo, futhi mhlawumbe ngeke iguquke.
Siyini isizathu sokuqala salokhu?
Eminyakeni engama-30 edlule, umbhali, umeluleki kanye nongqongqoshe wokuqala othengwa kakhulu uDavid Essel bebelokhu besiza abantu nabashadikazi ukuthola ukuthi kungani ubudlelwano busabeka kangaka, nokuthi kungani lo mkhuba uqhubeka nanamuhla.
Ngezansi, uDavid wabelana ngemicabango yakhe ngalokho okumele sikwenze ukuguqula izibalo ezimbi zobudlelwano bethu obungasebenzi.
Isizathu
"Wake wezwa lapho abantu bethi, ngemuva kobunye ubudlelwane obuhlulekile," Kumele ngibe nomcoshi omubi "?
Kukhishwe iphoyisa. Kuneqiniso elincane kukho, kepha ikakhulukazi ukukhishwa.
Ngakho-ke yisiphi isizathu sokuqala sokuthi siqhubeke nokuya ebudlelwaneni obungasebenzi?
Nayi impendulo, noma ngabe ufuna ukuyizwa noma cha.
Akuhlangene ngalutho "nomcoshi wakho wobudlelwano"
Akuhlangene nalokho okushiwo abantu abaningi ukuthi abesifazane bafuna ukuxhaswa ngezimali nje, kanti abesilisa bafuna ucansi kuphela.
Kepha kuhlangene nalokhu: siyenqaba ukwehlisa ijubane, sibuke esibukweni, futhi sibheke amaphethini ebesilokhu siwaphinda mhlawumbe kusukela osukwini lwethu lokuqala, angakaze asisebenzele.
Ingabe lokho kunengqondo?
Isizathu sokuqala esenza sigcine ku- ubudlelwane obungasebenzi kahle. Ingabe thina!
Akukhona ukuthi asikwazi ukuthola abesilisa noma abesifazane abalungile, noma asikwazi ukukhetha abesilisa noma abesifazane abalungile, noma isiphetho sothando asikho ngakithi.
Kungenxa yokuthi sinqena ukusebenzisa isikhathi, umzamo nemali ukubheka esibukweni bese sithola ukuthi senzani okungalungile kaninginingi.
Ngiyayithanda leyo nkulumo, “nguwe wedwa ojwayelekile kubo bonke ubudlelwano bakho obungaphumelelanga obuhle”
Kuliqiniso, futhi akekho ofuna ukukuvuma.
Bukela ividiyo emfushane kaDavid Essel ukuthi wenzeni uma usebudlelwaneni bothando obungasebenzi.
Amaphethini wobudlelwano angasebenzi neze
Encwadini yethu ethengisa kakhulu, "Izimfihlo zothando nobudlelwano Lokho wonke umuntu adinga ukuzazi!" Siya emininingwaneni emikhulu echaza ukuthi izindlela zokuziphatha ezingasebenzi kahle namaphethini esiqhubekela phambili empilweni, kuzosibikezela ukuthi singaba kubudlelwano obungasebenzi ngokuzayo.
Amaphethini, asethwe emqondweni ongazi lutho, asisusa ekufuneni iqiniso, asisusa ekubukeni esibukweni, futhi asiphazamisa ekuqasheni ochwepheshe abanjengami, ukusisiza ukuthi sifinyelele kuzizathu eziyinhloko zokuthi kungani ubudlelwano bothando buncela.
Amaphethini ungawanikwa kusukela ebuntwaneni, ngokungazi kufakwe kusazela sakho njengoba ubuka umama nobaba wakho belwa, bephikisana, nibe nobudlova komunye nomunye, nithembele kwabanye, futhi nilulaze omunye komunye.
Noma mhlawumbe ubunabazali abangakhombisi ukuthintwa ngokomzimba, abangenalo uthando lomzimba, futhi abanawo amazwi okuvuma.
Hhayi-ke, amathuba okuthi uzophuma kuleso sikhathi bese uphinda eyodwa noma zombili izimfundiso zomzali wakho, futhi konke lokhu kufakwe engqondweni enganakile.
Khumbula, sondla okungazi ngokuhlala ezindaweni ezingenampilo.
Ngakho-ke uma uke waba kubudlelwano bokungasebenzi kahle obubodwa, obubili noma obuyishumi futhi awukaze uye kumeluleki futhi wasebenza kuzo ukuthola ukuthi yini isivumelwano sakho, amaphutha akho ayini, lawo maphethini ahlala abambelele kokungazi lutho, futhi uzoziphinda.
Kepha ngomsebenzi nomeluleki noma umelaphi noma umqeqeshi wezobudlelwano, ungaqala ukubona ukuthi amaphethini owaqhubekisela phambili kusuka ebuntwaneni kuye ebusheni bakho noma mhlawumbe nezinsuku zakho zasekolishi zilimaza ubudlelwane obuhle.
Ukushintsha iphethini
Akekho ofuna ukwehlisa ijubane futhi athathe ikhefu ngemuva kokwehluleka kobuhlobo obungasebenzi ukuze abone ukuthi indima yethu iyini nokuthi ngiphuma kanjani kuphethini lobudlelwano obungasebenzi.
Kungcono sikhombe umunwe sikwenze kubukeke sengathi kuyiphutha lomunye umuntu, bese sihamba siyokuphinda futhi izinto ezimbi!
Noma ngubani angakwazi shintsha amaphethini engqondo enganakile ngosizo lochwepheshe ofuna ngokweqiniso.
Ngakho-ke uma ulungele uthando olujulile, lungela ukuthatha okungenani izinyanga eziyisithupha, ungathandani nhlobo, futhi usebenze nochwepheshe ukuze ufike emnyombweni wezinkinga zakho.
"Uma usula izingqinamba zakho, uvula umnyango ukuze uThando aqhakaze."
Umsebenzi kaDavid Essel uvunyiwe kakhulu ngabantu abanjengoWayne Dyer ongasekho nosaziwayo uJenny Mccarthy, "UDavid Essel ungumholi omusha wenhlangano ecabangayo."
Umsebenzi wakhe wokuba ngumeluleki nongqongqoshe uqinisekiswe yiPsychology Today neMarriage.com ukuqinisekisile uDavid njengomunye wabeluleki abaphambili nochwepheshe bezobudlelwano emhlabeni.
Ukuze usebenze noDavid kusuka noma yikuphi ngocingo noma ngeSkype ukubuyisa impilo yakho yothando, mvakashele ku-www.davidessel.com.