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- 1. Yiba nokubonga
- 2. Hlala kude nezinsolo
- 3. Ezinye izinto azidingi ukushiwo
- 4. Qaphela isikhathi
- 5. Sebenzisa isibuko
- 6. Hlala uxhumene - ngokoqobo
- 7. Cacisa ngalokho okufunayo
- 8. Zazise izinkumbulo zakho
- 9. Fundani okuthile okusha ndawonye
- 10. Thandaza ndawonye
Ingabe wena noshade naye senifikile esigabeni lapho ‘nazi’ ukuthi omunye uzothini ngaphambi kokuba bakusho?
Mhlawumbe uzithola ukhuluma kancane kunangaphambili, futhi unomuzwa wokuthi ukuxhumana kwakho nomlingani wakho kungenza ngesikhuthazo esincane.
Ngisho okungcono kakhulu imishado ingazuza ekuphakanyisweni kokukhulumisana komshado ngezikhathi ezithile, njengesiphuzo samanzi apholile ngosuku olushisayo.
Ngakho-ke, ungaxhumana kanjani ngempumelelo ebudlelwaneni? Noma ungaxhumana kanjani kangcono noshade naye?
Ukuphendula le mibuzo, nazi izeluleko eziyishumi ezisebenzayo nezethembekile zokuthuthukisa ukuxhumana ebudlelwaneni obungasiza kakhulu ekusizeni ukuxhumana ngokukhululeka nangokujabula noshade naye.
1. Yiba nokubonga
Uvame kangaki ukuthatha isikhathi sakho ukuqaphela zonke izinto okufanele ubonge ngazo ebudlelwaneni bakho noshade naye? Futhi lapho uqaphela, ingabe uyakukhuluma ngomlomo?
Ukuthi nje ‘ngiyabonga’ okulula kungasiza kakhulu ekuvuleni iziteshi zokuxhumana emshadweni. Futhi into enhle ukuthi lapho uqhubeka uzijwayeza ukubonga, kuzodingeka ukuthi ubonge kakhulu.
Sebenzisa ukubonga njenge- umsebenzi wokuxhumana imibhangqwana futhi wenze iphuzu lokubonga oshade naye okungenani kanye ngosuku ngalunye ngokuthile abakucebise ngakho impilo yakho.
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2. Hlala kude nezinsolo
Lapho kufika ukucasuka nokukhungatheka okuncane, zinike isikhathi sokuchaza kahle ukuthi uzizwa kanjani. Musa ukushesha ukhwelele oshade naye ngezinsolo ezithwetshulwe emgqeni wokuthi 'uhlala u ...' noma 'awukaze ...'
Izinsolo zingathinta ikhono lakho lokukhulumisana.
Isici esibalulekile sokuxhumana kwezithandani ukugwema ukwenza ukwahlulela kwezinhloso nezinhloso zoshade naye, ngoba kungenzeka ukuthi unephutha kakhulu.
Kunalokho khuluma uze uthole ukuthi kungani iyini futhi yini indaba yangempela. Ngale ndlela, ungakhuthaza ukuxhumana futhi nithole indlela eya phambili ngokubambisana.
3. Ezinye izinto azidingi ukushiwo
Ukubonisa ngale kunenzuzo yayo ku- ukuxhumana ngobudlelwano, kodwa kwesinye isikhathi ukuqonda kuyadingeka lapho amagama akho engadala umonakalo omkhulu kunokuhle.
Ukuze uthuthukise ukuxhumana emshadweni, ngaphambi kokukhipha yonke imicabango yakho engemihle ngomndeni womlingani wakho, zibuze ukuthi ngabe lokhu kuyadingeka yini ukusho, noma ngabe kufanele ugcine eminye yemicabango nemizwa yakho kuwe.
Ukuthi ufuna 'ukususa okuthile esifubeni sakho' akusho ukuthi kufanele ukulahle kumlingani wakho.
4. Qaphela isikhathi
Lapho uxhumana noshade naye, uma ukhuluma ngento elungile ngesikhathi esingafanele, ukuxhumana kwakho kungaphazamiseka kakhulu noma kwehliswe.
Mhlawumbe 'uyisikhova sasebusuku' esizizwa siphapheme kusihlwa ngenkathi oshade naye 'eyinyoni yokuqala' engakwazi ukuphaphama ngehora leshumi.
Ukuze ugcine ukuxhumana kahle emshadweni, kuzodingeka thola isikhathi esisebenza kini nobabili lapho ungaxoxa nganoma yiziphi izindaba ezibalulekile.
Futhi akukuhle ukuletha izingqinamba ezibucayi njengoba nje oshade naye egijimela emsebenzini. Lapho uzwela futhi unakekela ukukhetha isikhathi esifanele, ukuxhumana kwakho kungakhuliswa kakhulu.
5. Sebenzisa isibuko
Enye indlela yokwenza ngcono ukuxhumana ebudlelwaneni ukusebenzisa inqubo yokubukisa.
Isibuko sakho sokugezela singakusiza ukwazi ukuthi ubuso bakho bubukeka kanjani nokuthi usukulungele ukuthatha umhlaba noma cha. Ngendlela efanayo, oshade naye angakwazisa ukuthi uhlangana kanjani nokuxhumana kwakho.
Kwesinye isikhathi lokho esiqonde ukukusho kuyabonwa futhi kuqondwe ngabanye ngendlela ehluke ngokuphelele.
Ngakho-ke isibuko kungaba yikhono elibalulekile lokuxhumana kobudlelwano ukuze imibhangqwana ikhulise futhi icacise ingxoxo noshade naye njengoba ubuza imibuzo elula efana nokuthi "Usho ukuthini ngalokho?" noma "Lokhu engikuzwa ukukusho ngu ..."
6. Hlala uxhumene - ngokoqobo
Ukukhulumisana kwakho kungakhuthazeka kakhulu lapho nixhumana ngokomzimba, ukubambana ngezandla, noma ngokubeka ingalo yakho ngobumnene emahlombe akhe ngenkathi isandla sakhe sisemlenzeni wakho.
Lapho ninokungezwani noma ingxabano, ukusabela kwenu okungokwemvelo ukuhoxa futhi niqhelelane.
Esikhathini esizayo zama ukusondela ngamabomu bese ubona ukuthi kuyakusiza yini ukuba ukhulume ngendlela emnene futhi enothando.
7. Cacisa ngalokho okufunayo
Ebudlelwaneni obujwayelekile bomshado obunempilo, akunakwenzeka ukuthi ufunde ingqondo yomlingani wakho. Akulungile ukulindela ukuthi yena azi ukuthi yini oyifunayo noma oyidingayo ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Kunalokho vele ukhulume ngokucacile futhi ucacise ngalokho okudingayo. Khuluma ngokuthi ungabelana kanjani ngomthwalo ukuze omunye wenu angazizwa ethwele kanzima.
Futhi yazise omunye nomunye ukuthi hlobo luni lokuphatha noma ukuphuma kungakwenza uzizwe uthandwa futhi uthandwa. Ngemuva kwalokho unethuba elingcono kakhulu lokwanelisa okulindelwe omunye nomunye nokuthola ukwaneliseka emshadweni wakho.
8. Zazise izinkumbulo zakho
Thola izithombe zenu nobabili ezithathwe ngesikhathi seholide elikhethekile noma ngosuku enilithandayo bese nithola indlela yokulugubha.
Mhlawumbe ungene ku-scrapbooking noma mhlawumbe uhlela nje izinkumbulo zakho.
Kuthiwani ngokuzenza zikhuliswe futhi ziphrintwe kwindwangu yokulenga ezindongeni zakho? Noma mhlawumbe kumakethi we-mug, we-mousepad, noma wefriji lapho ungabona khona futhi ukujabulele nsuku zonke.
Ukuxhumana kwakho kuzokhuthazeka futhi, njengoba ukhuluma ngezikhathi ezimnandi enibe nazo ndawonye.
9. Fundani okuthile okusha ndawonye
Uma ufunda okuthile okusha, kuletha umuzwa wokwenza okusha nethemba empilweni yakho.
Ukwenza izinto ezintsha kanye noshade naye kunothisa ikakhulukazi njengoba ikunikeza uphethiloli omusha wokuxhumana futhi ikuvumela ukuthi ubone owakwakho ngokukhanya okuhlukile.
Uma nobabili ninemidlalo, kuthiwani ngokuthatha umdlalo omusha ndawonye. Noma ungathatha amakilasi okupheka futhi ujabulele ukudla ukudla okwenzile. Mhlawumbe uzizwa udala futhi ufuna ukufunda ukwenza ubuciko noma ubuciko ndawonye.
10. Thandaza ndawonye
Okunye kokuzivocavoca okuhle kakhulu kwezokuxhumana kwezithandani ukuthandaza ndawonye. Njengoba uletha izidingo zakho phambi koMenzi wakho, uzokuzwa ukuphepha nokuthula kokwazi ukuthi awulwa wedwa.
Njengoba nobabili nibheka ndawonye, nizokwazi ukuya phambili ngendlela engcono, nibambene ngezandla, futhi nixhumana njalo lapho nidlala.