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Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo kwesinye isikhathi kunzima ukukuqaphela. Noma kunjalo lapho izinto eziningi zibandakanyeka, njengasemshadweni lapho kukhona imali ebanjiswayo, izingane, izinhlelo ezabiwe, umlando, umkhuba, nakho konke lokho. Futhi uma othile ebengakutshela ukuthi umyeni wakho angakuhlukumeza ngokomzwelo, ungahle usho izinto ezimbili: “Lokho akulona iqiniso, awumazi, empeleni ungumuntu omuhle kakhulu futhi ozwelayo” nokuthi “Kunjalo nje siyakhulumisana, bekunjalo kusukela ekuqaleni ”. Futhi ungahle ube okungenani ulungile ngokwengxenye. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi umuntu ohlukumeza imizwa uvamise ukuzwela, kepha ikakhulu kulokho abakubona njengokuzilimaza bona. Futhi bayazi ukuthi bangaba mnandi kanjani futhi babe nomusa lapho befuna. Futhi, amandla phakathi kwenu nobabili kungenzeka ukuthi abekiwe kusukela ekuhambeni. Ungahle ukhethe ngisho omunye nomunye ngokususelwa kukho, uyazi noma cha. Konke lokhu kwenza kube nzima kakhulu ukuthi umuntu avume ngokwakhe ukuthi yebo, kungenzeka ukuthi basemshadweni ohlukumezayo. Faka kulokhu ukuthi umyeni wakho akakuhlaseli ngokomzimba, futhi kungenzeka ungalokothi ubheke iqiniso emehlweni.
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Izizathu zokuthi kungani
Kunezindlela ezimbili eziyinhloko zezizathu zokuthi kungani abantu behlala emishadweni ehlukumezayo - esebenzayo nengokwengqondo. Yize, izazi eziningi zokusebenza kwengqondo zikholelwa ukuthi iqembu lokuqala lezizathu libuye linikeze umzamo wokungazi ukuthi ungabhekana nalokho okusesabisayo. Lokhu akusho ukuthi ezinye (uma kungezona zonke) zalezo zizathu ziyizimpikiswano ezivumelekile. Abesifazane abaningi abashadile abahlukunyeziwe, ngokwesibonelo, bavame ukuzithola besesimweni sokungasebenzi omama abahlala emakhaya abangahlangabezana nezingqinamba ezinkulu uma bezoshiya umyeni wabo owayemhlukumeza - bobabili nezingane zabo bathembele kuye ngemali, indawo yokuhlala bukhoma, njll. Futhi lokhu ukucabanga okunengqondo kakhulu. Noma kunjalo, abesifazane abaningi bazimele kakhulu futhi banamandla kunalokho. Yize mhlawumbe bebezoba nobunzima bokunakekela konke, ngokungazi bakusebenzisa lokhu njengezaba zokungangeni esikhungweni sokudivosa umhlukumezi. Ngokufanayo, abaningi bazizwa bephoqwa izinkolelo zabo noma amasiko abo ukuthi bahlale beshadile noma ngabe yini. Ngakho bayakwenza, noma ngabe kubalimaza bona nezingane zabo. Futhi ukuhlala ushadile ngenxa yezingane nakho kuyisizathu esivamile "esisebenzayo" sokungasuki kumhlukumezi. Noma kunjalo, ezimweni eziningi odokotela bengqondo bathi indawo enobuthi yomshado ohlukumeza ngokomzwelo ingaba yimbi kakhulu kunesehlukaniso somphakathi. Ngakho-ke, konke lokhu kuvame ukuba yizizathu ezizwakalayo zokuqagela kabusha ukuthi ngabe umuntu kufanele ahlale nomlingani ohlukumeza ngokomzwelo, kepha futhi kuvame ukusebenza njengesihlangu ethembeni elithusayo lokushiya inkundla ebuhlungu kodwa eyaziwayo yothando nokulimala.
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Umjikelezo wokuthwebula wokuhlukunyezwa
Okwesibili, okusobala futhi okunzima kakhulu ukubhekana nakho, izizathu eziningi zokuhlala emshadweni ogcwele ukuhlukunyezwa okungokomzwelo umjikelezo ovusa amadlingozi wokuhlukunyezwa. Iphethini efanayo ibonakala kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lobudlelwano obuhlukumezayo, futhi imvamisa ayipheli yodwa ngoba imvamisa, ngeshwa, iveza wona kanye umnyombo wobudlelwano. Umjikelezo, umane ubeke, uhamba phakathi kokuhlukunyezwa nezikhathi ze- "honey moon", futhi uvame ukufakazela ukuthi uyisithiyo esingenakunqotshwa. Ubuqili bukukungazethembi kwesisulu kepha futhi nokunamathiselwa kumhlukumezi. Abantu abahlukumeza ngokomzwelo benza kube nzima kakhulu kulabo abahlukunyezwayo ukuthi bazihlukanise nemiyalezo eyehlisayo nehlazisayo abayizwa njalo, kunecala nokuzisola kwabo. Umgomo ofanayo uyasebenza nasekuhlukunyezweni ngokomzimba, kepha lapho kulula kakhulu ukuqiniseka ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa kuyenzeka. Ekuhlukunyezweni ngokomzwelo, isisulu sikholwa ukuthi yibo abanecala lokuhlukumezeka ababhekene nakho, futhi bakubekezelela bethemba isikhathi senyanga yezinyosi lapho umhlukumezi ezoba mnene futhi abe nomusa futhi. Futhi lapho leso sikhathi sifika, isisulu sinethemba lokuthi sizohlala unomphela (akwenzeki) futhi sichitha noma ikuphi ukungabaza okungenzeka ukuthi wayenakho ngesikhathi sesigaba sokuhlukunyezwa. Futhi umjikelezo ungaqala yonke indawo, inkolelo yakhe kumyeni "omnandi nozwela" iqiniswe nakakhulu.
Imicabango yokugcina
Asikhuthazi isehlukaniso kusibonakaliso sokuqala senkinga. Imishado ingalungiswa, futhi imibhangqwana eminingi ikwazile ukwephula inqubo yamandla okuhlukumeza ngokomzwelo, ukuguquka ndawonye. Noma kunjalo, uma uhlala kulolu hlobo lomshado, ungahle udinge usizo kumelaphi ozokwazi ukukuqondisa wena nomndeni wakho ngenqubo yokwelashwa. Noma, mhlawumbe, umelaphi angakusiza ungabaze izisusa zakho zokuhlala kulo mshado futhi akusize ufinyelele esinqumweni esizimele noma ngabe ufuna ukuqhubeka uzama noma kunempilo kuwo wonke umuntu ukuthi akubize ngokuyeka.
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