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Ukungabi nezimali- Ukuphumelela kwezemfundo
- Ukuzenyeza
- Iphethini yokuziphatha
- Imiphumela emihle
- Amathiphu okukhulisa izingane ongayedwa
Umndeni - leli yizwi elivusa izinkumbulo zezikhathi ezimnandi.
Ukwabelana ngokwenzekile usuku lonke esidlweni sakusihlwa, ukuvula izipho ngoKhisimusi, nokuba nomdlalo wokumemeza nomfowenu omncane; zonke lezi zinto zibonisa ukuthi unesibopho esingenakuhlukaniswa namalungu omndeni wakho.
Kodwa akubona bonke abantu ababusiswe ngomndeni ojabulayo.
Kulesi sikhathi sesimanje, sibona inqwaba yabazali abangabodwa bezabalazela ukondla izingane zabo. Kunezizathu eziningi zalokhu kwanda kwenani lezingane ezikhuliswa ngabazali abangabodwa.
I- izimbangela ezivame kakhulu zokuba ngumzali ongayedwa ukukhulelwa kwentsha, isehlukaniso, kanye nokungathandi komlingani ukwabelana ngemithwalo yemfanelo.
Ezimweni ezinjalo, yizingane zomzali ongayedwa ezihlupheka kakhulu lapho imibhangqwana ingazinikele ekwenzeni ubuhlobo bayo busebenze.
Izingane ezikhuliswe ekhaya elinabazali ababili zijabulela izinzuzo ezingcono zokufunda nezezezimali.
Imiphumela emibi yokuba ngumzali oyedwa enganeni ingathinta ukukhula kwengane kwezenhlalo nangokomzwelo.
Lo mbhalo ukhuluma ngezinkinga ezithile zokukhulisa izingane kanye nezibopho ezungeze umthelela wemindeni enomzali oyedwa ekukhuleni kwengane.
Buka futhi:
Ukungabi nezimali
Enye yezinkinga ezivame kakhulu zomzali oyedwa ukungabi khona kwemali.
Abazali abangabodwa babhekene nenselelo yemali elinganiselwe ngoba yibo bodwa umthombo wokuthola imali. Umzali ongayedwa kungadingeka asebenze amahora amaningi enwetshiwe ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zezezimali zokuqhuba ikhaya ngesandla esisodwa.
Ukushoda kwemali kungasho ukuthi izingane zingaphoqeleka ukuthi ziyeke izifundo zokudansa noma iligi yezemidlalo njengoba umzali ongayedwa ehluleka ukuhlangabezana nezindleko ezingeziwe.
Uma kunezingane eziningana endlini, kusho ukuthi kunjalo kungaba inselele enkulu ukufeza zonke izidingo zezingane.
Ingcindezi yezezimali yokuhlala sisuka emlonyeni kuya kwenye ingcindezi eyengeziwe kumzali ongayedwa, engabonakala kalula ezinganeni.
Ukuphumelela kwezemfundo
Omama bavame ukuphatha amakhaya anomzali oyedwa. Ukungabikho kukababa, kanye nobunzima bezezimali, kungakhuphula ubungozi bokungenzi kahle ezifundweni yilezo zingane.
Ngokufanayo, imiphumela yengqondo yokukhula ngaphandle komama ingalimaza ingane.
Uma kungekho ukuxhaswa kwezezimali kobaba, omama abangabodwa kufanele basebenze kakhulu, okusho ukuthi abakwazi ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi nezingane zabo.
Kungase kudingeke baphuthelwe yimicimbi yesikole ekhethekile futhi kungenzeka bangabikho ekhaya ukubasiza ngomsebenzi wabo wesikole.
Lokhu ukuntuleka kokugadwa nokuholwa kungaholela ekusebenzeni kabi esikoleni ngokuqhathaniswa nezingane ezinokuxhaswa ngokomzwelo nangokwezimali kobaba.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, lokhu futhi kunezela ezinkingeni omama abangabodwa ababhekana nazo emphakathini njengoba abantu bejwayele ukubahlulela njengomzali onganele.
Ukuzenyeza
Ingane ithola umuzwa wokulondeka ekhaya, okuthinta indlela ezihlangana ngayo nezwe langaphandle.
Ukulindela okuphansi kubantu ababazungezile ngomunye umphumela wokukhuliswa ngumzali ongayedwa. Bangase bangakwazi ukugcina impilo yomshado ejabulisayo nenempilo njengoba bengakaze babone ukuhlala nabazali bobabili.
Isizathu esiyinhloko sokuzethemba okuphansi ezinganeni ezinjalo kususelwa eqinisweni lokuthi abatholi ukunakekelwa nezeluleko ezanele kumzali wabo okuwukuphela kwakhe, okungathiya kanzima ukukhula kwabo ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo.
Kubalulekile uku khombisa ukuthi uyaziqhenya ngempumelelo yengane yakho ngokubeka ikhadi lakhe lokubika esiqandisini noma ngokubaklomelisa ngokwenza imisebenzi yasendlini.
Izingane ezinomzali ongayedwa nazo zingazizwa zinesizungu uma zichitha isikhathi esiningi zodwa, okwenza kube inselele kuzo ukuxhumana neqembu labo leminyaka.
Bangase bahlupheke ngezinkinga zokulahlwa futhi bangaba nenkinga yokuxhumana nabantu abadala ngenxa yokungazethembi.
Uma bezwa ukuthi abazali babo ababathandi, lapho-ke balwela ukuqonda ukuthi omunye umuntu uzobathola kanjani befanelekile. Izinkinga ezinjalo zingakhuliswa lapho ingane ikhula inomzali ongayedwa.
Imiphumela yokuba umzali ongayedwa ezinganeni ingaba nzima kakhulu, njengoba kunikezwe umgcini oyedwa kuphela obheke izinto abazithandayo.
Iphethini yokuziphatha
Imindeni yabazali abangabodwa ivame ukuba nokushoda kwezezimali, okungaba nemiphumela engokomzwelo ezinganeni, njengokukhungatheka okukhulayo nentukuthelo kanye nengozi eyengeziwe yokuziphatha ngokobudlova.
Bangathola imizwa yokudabuka, ukukhathazeka, isizungu, ukulahlwa, futhi unenkinga yokuzijabulisa.
Ukuhlangana kwabazali abangabodwa nabalingani abahlukene nakho kungashiya umthelela omkhulu enganeni. Lezi zingane ezinomzali oyedwa nazo zingaba nesibindi sokuzibophezela.
Imiphumela emihle
Kunemiphumela embalwa emihle yokuba ngumzali ongayedwa ezinganeni, kepha bathembele kakhulu kumasu okukhulisa izingane nezinhlobo zobuntu.
Ucwaningo lwakamuva lukhombisa ukuthi izingane ezineminyaka engaphezu kwengu-12 azibonisi zimpawu ezingezinhle zokuba umzali ongayedwa ekukhuleni kwazo kwezemfundo, ngokwengqondo nangokomphakathi.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, okunjalo izingane zikhombisa amakhono anamandla okuzibophezela njengoba umthwalo wemisebenzi yasendlini nemisebenzi yasekhaya yehlela kubo. Izingane ezinjalo zakha isibopho esinamandla nabazali bazo njengoba zincikene.
Izingane ezikhuliswe ngabazali abangabodwa nazo zakha ubudlelwano obuqinile nomndeni, abangane, noma amalungu omndeni akhulisiwe abe yingxenye eyimpilo yazo.
Amathiphu okukhulisa izingane ongayedwa
Ukukhulisa ingane ngaphansi kwanoma yisiphi isimo kuwumsebenzi onzima; ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuba ngumzali ongayedwa kuletha kuphela ingcindezi nengcindezi eyengeziwe.
Kodwa-ke, ngenkathi ujimela ukuphatha wena, izingane zakho, nekhaya lakho, kukhona okuqinisekile izinto ongazenza kubazali bonke abangabodwa ngokuyimpumelelo.
Nawa amanye amathiphu wokuthi uphathe indlela yakho ngokusebenzisa up and down's of single parenting futhi ulwe nemiphumela emibi yokukhuliswa ngumama noma ubaba ongayedwa:
- Beka isikhathi eceleni nsuku zonke ukuxhumana nezingane zakho, ukuthola ukuthi benzani, futhi ubabonise uthando nokunakekela kwakho.
- Yiba nenqubo ehlelekile, ikakhulukazi yezingane zakho. Izingane ziyachuma lapho zinamathela enkambisweni, futhi kuyazisiza futhi ukugxilisa imikhuba emihle.
- Zinakekele. Ukuze ukwazi ukukhulisela izingane zakho endaweni enempilo, udinga ukuqinisekisa ukuthi uphilile ngokwanele. Vivinya umzimba noma nini lapho ungadla khona futhi udle ngendlela enempilo. Lokhu kuzophinde kukhuthaze izingane zakho.
- Ungazisoli, futhi uhlale unethemba. Ngisho neRoma ayakhiwanga ngosuku, ngakho ukudala ikhaya nomndeni omuhle wena nezingane zakho kungathatha isikhathi esiningi nokubekezela okuzokudinga ukuthi uhlale unethemba.
Isiphetho
Yize ungeke ukwazi ukulawula indlela ubudlelwano bakho obungahamba ngayo, ungazama ukwenza okusemandleni ezimweni ezinjalo.
Ukwazi ubunzima obungabhekana nengane ekhulela ekhaya elinomzali oyedwa kungakusiza uqonde isimo sayo sengqondo futhi ube ngumzali oyedwa ongcono.