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- Imikhuba emibi ithinta ukukhula kwengqondo kwengane
- Izindlela zokwenza ingane yakho ibe ngumcabangi onethemba futhi oqondile
- 1. Yamukela ushintsho ngokuqinisekile
- 2. Vuma ushintsho ngokuzethemba
“Awukwazi ukushintsha izimo, izinkathi zonyaka, noma umoya, kodwa ungazishintsha. Leyo yinto onayo ”- UJim Rohn.
Isibonelo -
Ehlathini, isilwane esikhulu sasiboshwe ngentambo encane emlenzeni wakhe wangaphambili. Umfana omncane wamangala ukuthi kungani indlovu ingagqashulile intambo futhi yazikhulula.
Ilukuluku lakhe laphendulwa ngokuzithoba ngumqeqeshi wendlovu owacacisa lo mfana ukuthi ngesikhathi izindlovu zisencane zazisebenzisa intambo efanayo ukuzibopha, futhi ngaleso sikhathi, kwakwanele ukuzibamba ngaphandle kweketanga.
Manje ngemuva kweminyaka eminingi basakholelwa ukuthi intambo iqinile ngokwanele ukubabamba futhi abakaze bazame ukuyigqashula.
Esinye sezeluleko ezibalulekile zokuba ngumzali lapha ukufundisa ingane yakho. Njengendlovu eboshwe ngentambo encane, nathi siboshelwe ezinkolelweni nasezinkolelweni zethu esezithathiwe okungezona iqiniso ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi ezingashintsha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Imikhuba emibi ithinta ukukhula kwengqondo kwengane
Imikhuba emibi izofaka isandla ekuthinteni ukukhula kwabo ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo.
Imikhuba emibi enjalo ifaka phakathi -
- Ukukhetha,
- Ukumunca izithupha,
- Ukugaya amazinyo,
- Ukukhotha izindebe,
- Ukwenza ikhanda,
- Izinwele zihluza / zidonsa
- Ukudla ukudla okungenamsoco,
- Ukubuka ithelevishini kakhulu, noma
- Ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi sesikrini kumakhompyutha, kuma-laptops, udlala imidlalo yevidiyo,
- Ukuqamba amanga,
- Kusetshenziswa ulimi oluhlukumezayo njll.
Njengoba kushiwo ngaphambili, le mikhuba idala umthelela omuhle ekukhuleni kwayo ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo.
Kwesinye isikhathi izingane zethu zikhululeka kakhulu ngezimpilo zazo kangangokuba noma yiluphi uhlobo lokulungiswa okuncane enkambisweni yazo yansuku zonke lubenza 'bangakhululeki'. Bathanda indlela izinto eziyiyo, noma ngabe kuyacasula.
Ngenhlanhla, lapho usemncane, ushintsho kulula ukwamukela, ululungiselele futhi ubhekane nalo. Ukufundisa izingane indlela yokuzivumelanisa nezimo akulula. Kepha kunezindlela zokubasiza ukuthi bamukele izinguquko ngokuqinisekile -
- Benze bazi ngomphumela.
- Mababhekane nokwehluleka kwabo, ukwaliwa, ukwesaba, njll ngaphandle kwecala.
- Ungakhathazeki ngokuthi abanye bazothini. Yinkinga yabo, hhayi eyakho.
- Baqeqeshe ukuthi bangahlaziya kanjani isimo esiguqukayo futhi bathole izixazululo ezifanele.
- Khohlwa okwedlule ugxile kokuzayo.
Ushintsho ukuphela kokuguquguquka njalo empilweni yethu.
Ngakho-ke sidinga futhi sibasize bamukele izinguquko njengoba kuyinqubo yokufunda eqhubekayo, eqhubekayo futhi ephindaphindwayo.
Izindlela zokwenza ingane yakho ibe ngumcabangi onethemba futhi oqondile
Nazi izindlela ezimbalwa ezifakazelwe esingazifundisa izingane zethu ukwamukela ushintsho ngenzuzo -
1. Yamukela ushintsho ngokuqinisekile
Ukwamukela ushintsho kusho ukuthi ungumfundi okahle ofuna ukukhula, zama izinto ezintsha, funa imininingwane engaphezulu bese udela okubi kokungcono. Ngakho-ke yamukela ushintsho futhi ufunde ukwamukela izinto ongeke uzishintshe noma uzame ukuguqula izinto ongeke uzamukele.
2. Vuma ushintsho ngokuzethemba
Ngokuhambisana nokubafundisa ukwamukela "izinguquko", kubaluleke ngokufanayo ukubaqeqesha ukuthi bazivume 'izinselelo' ngokuzethemba -
“Into ebaluleke kakhulu abazali abangayifundisa izingane zabo ukuthi bangaphila kanjani ngaphandle kwabo” - uFrank A. Clark.
Isibonelo 1 -
Nginesiqiniseko sokuthi sonke kumele ukuthi sizwile ngendaba ka "cocoon novemvane". Yeka ukuthi usizo oluncane oluvela kothile lwenze kwaba lula kanjani ukuthi uvemvane luphume emgodini kodwa ekugcineni alukwazanga ukundiza futhi lwafa ngokushesha.
Isifundo 1 -
Isifundo esikhulu kunazo zonke esingasabelana nezingane zethu lapha ukuthi imizamo eqhubekayo evela kovemvane yokushiya igobolondo layo yavumela uketshezi olugcinwe emzimbeni wabo ukuba luguqulwe lube ngamaphiko aqinile, amahle futhi amakhulu, okwenza umzimba wabo ukhanye.
Ngakho-ke uma bona (izingane zakho) befuna ukundiza, qiniseka ukuthi bafunda ukubhekana nezinselelo nobunzima empilweni ngokuzethemba.
Isibonelo 2 -
Kudala isalukazi sasedolobhaneni elincane saphelelwa iwashi epulazini laso. Wazama okuningi ukubathola kodwa kwaba nhlanga zimuka nomoya, ekugcineni wanquma ukuthatha usizo ezinganeni zendawo njengoba iwashi lakhe lalikhethekile kwazise laliphiwe yindodana yakhe.
Unikeze umklomelo othokozisayo wengane ezomthola izesekeli. Izingane ezijabule zizame kakhulu ukuthola leli washi kepha ngemuva kwemizamo ehlulekile eminingi iningi lazo likhathele, lacasuka futhi layeka.
Le ntokazi edumele nayo yawalahla wonke amathemba.
Lapho nje zonke izingane zihamba, wayesezovala umnyango lapho intombazanyana icela ukumnika elinye futhi ithuba.
Ngemuva kwemizuzu, intombazanyana ithole iwashi. Le ntokazi emangele yambonga yambuza ukuthi ulithole kanjani leli washi? Ubuye futhi engenacala ukuthi uthole ukuqondiswa ngomsindo oklabalasayo wewashi obekulula kakhulu ukuwulalela buthule.
Le ntokazi ayigcinanga ngokumvuza kepha iphinde yancoma nobuhle bayo.
Isifundo 2 -
Kwesinye isikhathi ngisho nesibonakaliso esincane sanele ukuxazulula ubunzima obukhulu empilweni. Kuyinhlonipho ukubalula umuntu engimthandayo okhuthazayo owagxumela ebunzimeni futhi wanqoba isiphazamiso esikhulu nesithiyo esikhulu empilweni.
Isibonelo 3 -
UHelen Keller, umbhali waseMelika, isishoshovu sezepolitiki, umfundisi kanye nomlweli wenkolo yabakhubazekile wayeyisithulu futhi engaboni.
UHelen Adam Keller wazalwa njengengane enempilo; kodwa-ke, eneminyaka eyizinyanga eziyi-19, wahlaselwa ukugula okungaziwa, mhlawumbe i-scarlet fever noma i-meningitis eyamshiya eyisithulu futhi engaboni.
Isifundo 3 -
Kumuntu wesifazane onesibindi nokuzimisela, izinselelo ziyizibusiso ezicashile. Waba ngumuntu wokuqala oyisithulu futhi ongaboni ukuthola iziqu zeBachelor of Arts kwaRadcliffe.
Wayengumsunguli we-ACLU (American Civil liberties Union), wakhankasela i-Women's Suffrage, amalungelo abasebenzi, i-socialism, i-antimilitarism, nezinye izimbangela ezahlukahlukene. Ngesikhathi sokuphila kwakhe, wayengumamukeli wemiklomelo eminingi nempumelelo.
Kuyakhuthaza ngempela! Abaphumelele njengaye nohambo lwakhe lokuphila olushukumisayo basiza ingane yethu ukunqoba izithiyo, ukuxazulula izinsizi nokuthola ukunqoba.
Enye yezingcaphuno zakhe ezinhle kakhulu, "Uma kuvalwa omunye umnyango wenjabulo, omunye uyavuleka, kepha imvamisa sibheka isikhathi eside emnyango ovaliwe ukuze singaboni lowo esivulelwe wona".