-Delile
Njengomeluleki wezempilo yezengqondo ezinganeni, ngibona izindlela eziningi ochwepheshe nabanakekeli bezama ukugqugquzela izingane zabo. Othisha baqhubeka nokusebenzisa amashadi ezitika, ukuhlolwa, nezinhlelo ezingeni, benethemba lokuthola isimilo abasifunayo. Abazali basebenzisa ukulandelela kokuziphatha, izibonelelo, nokufumbathisa ezansi kwesokudla, benethemba lokuqhubela izingane zabo empumelelweni. Ngize ngibone abelaphi basebenzisa uswidi ukugcina izingane zigxile futhi zisendleleni. Ukwaneliseka ngokushesha komvuzo ocwebezelayo kungasebenza esikhathini esifushane, kodwa kwenze lokhu okwangaphandle abagqugquzeli basiza izingane zethu ukuthi zithuthukise ugqozi futhi zisekele ubuhlakani bazo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi? Asifuni yini ukuthi izingane zize enkingeni ngenjabulo enkulu nokuziqhenya kokukwazi ukubhekana nokuzixazulula, kunokuba zithole umvuzo wangaphandle othile azinikeze zona? Sonke sizalwa sinalokhu okungaphakathi ukugqugquzela. Izingane zigqugquzelwa ukuthi ziphakamise amakhanda azo, zigingqike, zikhase, futhi ekugcineni zihambe; hhayi ngenxa yenhloso yangaphandle, kepha ngoba bashukunyiswa ngokwangaphakathi yisikhalazo sokuzikhandla! Ucwaningo lubonisa ngokunikeza isisusa sangaphandle, sibulala umoya wangaphakathi wokudala wezingane zethu, ukushayela, nokuzethemba ukubeka engcupheni. Ucwaningo luka-2012 olwenziwe nguLee noReve empeleni luthole ukuthi ugqozi lungavela ezingxenyeni ezahlukahlukene zobuchopho, kuya ngokuthi ngabe luyinto engaphandle noma engaphakathi yini. Isisusa sangaphakathi senza i-prefrontal cortex, lapho i-ejensi yomuntu siqu nemisebenzi yokuphatha yenzeka khona (ubuchopho bethu bokucabanga). Isisusa sangaphandle sixhunyaniswe nendawo yobuchopho lapho ukuntuleka kokulawulwa komuntu kugxile khona. Isisusa sangaphandle empeleni sinjalo okulimazayo empumelelweni ekuxazululeni izinkinga!
Isisusa sangaphakathi
Kungenxa yokhuthazo lwangaphakathi lapho ubuciko bezingane bukhula khona, ukuzimela nokuzethemba kuthuthukiswa, futhi izingane zifunde ukwenza phikelela. URichard M. Ryan no-Edward L. Deci benze ucwaningo olunzulu ngazo zombili izinhloso zangaphakathi nezingaphandle. Ngocwaningo lwabo, baqinisekisile Ithiyori Yokuzinqumela echaza ukuthi izingxenye ezisemqoka zokukhuthaza ugqozi lwangaphakathi zifaka ukufaka ikhono, ukuzimela, futhi ukuhlobana, noma engikubizayo ukuxhumana. Lokhu kubalulekile ekukhuleni kwengane. URichard Rutschman waseNorthern Illinois University ufundisa ukuthi ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zomuntu ngokwengqondo kukhulisa ugqozi lwangaphakathi, kuholele emicabangweni emihle, futhi kukhulise ukuhlanganiswa kwe-neural okuholela ekufundeni okuhle nasekuqiniseni okwengeziwe! Ngakho-ke phonsa lawo mashadi wezitika bese ulandela le mihlahlandlela yengane eqhutshwa kakhudlwana futhi ekhuthazwayo!
UNGENZI
- Nikeza imivuzo: Gcina uswidi kukhabethe! URutschman ugcizelela ukuthi "Ukunikeza abantu imivuzo engaphandle ngokuziphatha okukhuthazeke ngaphakathi kululaza isisusa sabo sangaphakathi ngoba kuthathwa njengokunciphisa ukuzimela kwabo."
- Linganisa: USolwazi wePsychology, uBeth Hennessey ubhala ukuthi ukugxila empumelelweni yengane yakho kungaholela ekutheni ingane yakho iyeke lapho kuhamba ubunzima. Ukuhlolwa kothisha kanye nokuqashwa kuvame ukweqisa isisusa sangaphakathi sengane. "Esikhundleni sokuncika empendulweni yothisha, abafundi kumele bafundiswe ukuqapha inqubekela phambili yabo."
- Dala ukuncintisana: Ngenkathi ukuncintisana kungaba nempilo futhi kujwayelekile kwezinye izindawo lapho umgomo wakhe ugqozi lwangaphakathi, gcina ingane yakho igxile ekukhuleni nasemakhono ayo. Ukuncintisana kungokwemvelo futhi imvamisa, umklomelo noma umklomelo ulinde owinile. Ukuzizwa unamahloni nokungafaneleki nakho kusengozini uma ingane yakho ingenzi ezingeni labanye.
- Vimbela ukukhetha: Ngokuthatha ithuba lengane lokuzikhethela, ususa imizwa yazo ukuzimela. Ukugxila kugxila kakhulu ekuqedeleni inhloso yakho futhi kuncane ngokufeza eyabo.
- Khawulela isikhathi: Isikhathi ingcindezi futhi sigudluza ikhono lengane yakho lokucabanga ngaphakathi futhi ligxile kokukhona manje. Ingane yakho ingahle ikhathazeke kakhulu ngewashi lokuthikha kunokuthi ingaphumelela kanjani ekuxazululeni izinkinga. Isikhathi esikhawulelwe sikhipha ama-hormone okuxineka angavimba empeleni amandla engane yakho okwenza ngokusemandleni ayo.
- I-Micromanage: Ukuzula nokugxeka kuyindlela yomlilo eqinisekile yokubulala ukuzethemba kwengane yakho nobuciko bayo.
- Qeda ukuphoqa: Umlayezo othi "Abekho Abavunyelwe Ukuvumela" ushintsha ukugxila kokugqugquzelwayo, ukujabulisa wena.
YENZA
- Vumela ukwehluleka: Xhuma nengane yakho futhi uzwelane nemizwa eza nokwehluleka. Ngemuva kwalokho, khuthaza ingane yakho ukuthi izame futhi, kaninginingi.
- Ncoma imizamo yengane yakho: njengoba uvumela ingane yakho isikhala nesikhathi sokubekezela. UDan Siegal wabelana encwadini yakhe ethi, The Developing Mind: How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are, “... akukhona konke ukuhlangana nezwe okuthinta ingqondo ngokulinganayo. Ucwaningo lukhombisile ukuthi uma ubuchopho buhlola umcimbi ngokuthi "unenjongo", kungenzeka ukuthi ukhunjulwe ngokuzayo ". Uma sinika izingane zethu i- isikhathi sokubekezela, impumelelo yabo izohlala isikhathi eside futhi ifakwe ezinkumbulweni zabo, ibenze bazethembe ngamakhono abo futhi babe sethubeni lokukhuthazeka emisebenzini yesikhathi esizayo.
- Khuthaza ukusebenzisana. Ukuba yingxenye yeqembu kukhuthaza izingane ukuxhumana nabanye, ukuzibandakanya ezingxabanweni, ukuxhumana, nokusebenzisana ukuze zixazulule inkinga. Izingane zishukunyiswa yisipiliyoni esabiwe kanye nemizwa yokufeza okuthile eqenjini.
- Nikeza ukukhetha: Khuthaza ukuzimela nokuzama ngokuvumela ingane yakho ukuthi yabelane ngokuthi ihlela kanjani ukufeza inhloso yayo. UBeth Hennessey ubhala esihlokweni sakhe esithi, “Nurturing Creative Mindsets Across Cultures-A Toolbox for Teachers”, ukuthi izingane “kumele zikhuthazwe ukuthi zibe abafundi abakhuthele, abazimele, abazethembayo emandleni abo okulawula inqubo yabo yokufunda.”
- Yamukela ukubekezela. Nikeza ingane yakho ikhono lokukhulisa ikhono elitholakala ngokuba nesikhathi sokuzicwilisa ngempela emsebenzini onzima noma enkingeni.
- Khuthaza ingane yakho ukuthi ixazulule izinkinga zayo: Siza ingane yakho ngokuba nelukuluku lokufuna ukwazi ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene angahlelela ngazo umsebenzi ongaxazululwa.
- Nikeza ingane yakho inkululeko yokuzama izinto ezintsha: Yebo, noma ngabe lokho kusho ukuthi uthole ukuthi ikarati ayipholile njengoba ayecabanga ekuqaleni ... mhlawumbe upiyano ukubiza kwenhliziyo yakhe!
Ngaphezu kwakho konke, lindela okulindelekile. Akekho umuntu okhuthazeka ngama-100% ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngisho nabantu abadala banezinsuku lapho ugqozi nokukhiqiza kuphansi. Izingane zethu zehlukile. Bafunda okubagqugquzelayo nokuthi yini okungabakhuthazi. Kubalulekile ukubanikeza isikhala nesikhathi sokusebenza futhi phumula lowo msipha oshukumisayo! Kuzoba nzima ukushintsha izindlela zakho ezishukumisayo ezingaphandle, futhi akekho umzali ophelele. Sebenzisa izikhuthazi ezingaphandle kancane futhi ugxile ebuhlotsheni bakho nakuxhumano lwakho ukukhuthaza ukukhula kwekhono lengane yakho nokuzimela. Maduze nje uzokujabulela ukubona ingane yakho isetha futhi iphusha imingcele yayo, ifinyelela izinkanyezi (ezingezona izitika)!