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- 1. Ufuna ukwenzani?
- 2. Angisakwazi ukulinda ukuba nawe!
- 3. Ubudlelwano bethu yibo obubaluleke kakhulu enginabo kulomhlaba!
- 4. Ngiyabonga!
Isihluthulelo somshado ojabulisayo ‘ungathathi oshade naye kalula‘. Lapho sitsala umuntu othile, senza konke okulungile futhi senza konke okulungile, kepha ngandlela thile, ngemuva kokushada, ngokuzumayo kubonakala ngathi senza konke okungahambi kahle.
Lokho kungenxa yokuthi imisebenzi yethu iyashintsha kusuka ekuheheni umlingani omkhulu iye ekuthatheni njengokunikezwe kukho konke okunye okuqhubekayo empilweni. Unkosikazi uthatha indoda njengendoda, indoda ithatha umfazi njengenhlonipho futhi ngaphambi kokuthi sazi, i- ubuhlobo buphela emjikelezweni wokungazi.
Ezinye izinhloso zethu zibaluleke kakhulu, futhi sivame ukwenza njalo buthathe kalula ubuhlobo. Siqala ukunganaki kangako umuntu obaluleke kakhulu empilweni yethu.
Into embi kakhulu ongayenza kumlingani wakho ukungabanaki futhi ubathathe kalula. Ukuthatha oshade naye kalula kuyinto embi kakhulu kunokumgxeka. Uma uthatha umlingani wakho njengendoda encane usishaya indiva isidingo sabo sokubonakala nokwaziswa ngamagalelo abo ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uma ubudlelwano bufinyelela esimweni sokugcwala noma sokuma, imibhangqwana iqala ukuthatha oshade naye njengobungenacala. Ukucabanga ukuthi wazi yonke into ngoshade naye kuholela embonweni wokuthi abasakwazi ukuba nemicabango yoqobo.
Injabulo nempumelelo yobudlelwano incike ekwazini ukuthi ungamthathi kalula kanjani umlingani wakho. A inhloso enhle ayanele ngokwanele, kuthatha izinyathelo ezibonakalayo ukubonisa ukuthi umkhathalela kangakanani umlingani wakho.
Inhloso ukugxila ezintweni ozithandayo nozazisayo ngomlingani wakho futhi uvikele ukufinyelela lapho naqala khona ukuthathelana phansi.
Ngakho-ke uyazibuza ukuthi kungani umkami engithatha kancane noma kungani umyeni wami engithatha kancane ngaleso sikhathi, nazi izinto ezine ongazisho ezizokhombisa oshade naye ukuthi usabakhathalele futhi uwunakile umshado wakho.
1. Ufuna ukwenzani?
Ngemuva kokuchitha isikhathi nomlingani wakho, uthola ukwazi ukuthi yini abayithandayo nabangayithandi, ukuthi bathanda ukwenzani nokuthi bavame ukukugwema ini. Lokhu kwenza izinto zibe lula lapho ufuna ukuhlela okuthile ndawonye, kepha ungakhohlwa buza oshade naye ukuthi bafuna ukwenzani - okungenani kwesinye isikhathi!
Lokhu kugcina bobabili ukuzibandakanya kwakho emisebenzini yakho futhi kwazisa umlingani wakho ukuthi uyakhathala ngombono wabo.
Ebudlelwaneni lapho umyeni wakho ekuthatha kalula noma uma uzizwa uthathelwa phezulu emshadweni kungenxa yokuntuleka kokuxhumana phakathi kwabantu abashadile.
Ukuqonda ukuthi umlingani wakho ufuna ukwenzani kuqala ngokubuza ngakho. Enye yezinto zokuqala ongaqala ngayo ukubuza ukuthi bacabanga ukuthi izinto zihamba kanjani ebudlelwaneni bakho. Gcina umbuzo uvulekile futhi zama ukuqonda umbono wabo ngomqondo ovulekile ngaphandle kokufaka noma iyiphi ingcindezi.
Ngokufanayo, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi oshade naye uzizwa kanjani ngezinye izici zobudlelwano bakho. Babuze ukuthi yini abangafuna ukuyilungisa noma ukuyithuthukisa ebudlelwaneni bese uzama ukuthola ukuthi kungenziwa kanjani lokho.
Thola ukuthi umlingani wakho ubona ini mayelana nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kocansi komunye nomunye futhi bangaba nentshisekelo yokuzama ezinye izinto.
Qiniseka ukuthi ubuza nomlingani wakho ukuthi yini esebenza kahle ebudlelwaneni bakho ukuze hhayi ukugxila okuxekethile ezingxenyeni ezifanele.
2. Angisakwazi ukulinda ukuba nawe!
Ukulangazelela yikho okugcina ubudlelwano buphila. Mhla uyeka ukulangazelela umuntu usuku ubuhlobo bakho bubukeka buhle kuphela ephepheni noma kumqondo. Uma ulangazelela othile, udinga ukumazisa lowo muntu.
Akuthathi okungaphezu kwale nkulumo elula ukukhombisa ukuthi ufuna ukuba nomuntu oshade naye. Ngakho-ke ungathathi kancane oshade naye.
Ukuthinta okukhulu akudingekile ngaso sonke isikhathi ukukhumbuza umlingani wakho ukuthi ufuna kangakanani empilweni yakho. Izenzo ezincane zothando ezenziwe ngokungaguquguquki zibaluleke kakhulu futhi ingxenye enhle kunazo zonke ukuthi iningi lazo kungathatha imizuzu emihlanu esimisweni sakho ukwenza.
Zijwayeze ukuyala okulula njengokuqabula nokugona ngaphambi kokuba umlingani wakho aye emsebenzini. Bingelelanani ngamazwi amnandi, nibashiyele amanothi wothando endlini. Bafonele emsebenzini, ubabuze ukuthi usuku lwabo luhamba kanjani ubatshele ukuthi ucabanga ngabo.
Ukuhlanganyela ekubuyiseleni ngothando njalo kungakusiza ukuthi unyuse umdlalo wakho futhi uthuthukise nempilo yakho yezocansi. Yenza izinto ezincane oshade naye azithandayo njengokuzithengela izimbali, ukubambana ngezandla esidlangalaleni noma nokuhlukanisa imisebenzi yasekhaya nabo.
3. Ubudlelwano bethu yibo obubaluleke kakhulu enginabo kulomhlaba!
Ngemuva kokuthi lonke uthuli seluhleli emshadweni wakho, ukuba nezingane, nanoma yikuphi okunye okuphazamisayo okungena nokuphuma empilweni yakho, kufanele kube khona umuntu oyedwa kuphela ofuna ukuba naye kuze kube phakade. Umuntu owashada naye ubaluleke kakhulu empilweni yakho, futhi nomshado wakho kufanele waziswe.
Khombisa ukuthi wazi kahle ukuthi kwenzekani emshadweni wakho. Ngokuvamile amadoda abizwa ngokuthi 'angenalutho' ebudlelwaneni, ngakho-ke zama ukukwazi kakhudlwana okwenzekayo okuzungezile futhi uxhumane nowakwakho njalo ukuze wazi ukuthi bazizwa kanjani nokuthi bazizwa kanjani.
Umshado wesikhathi eside udinga ukuqinisekiswa okuningi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Qinisekisa umkakho noma umyeni wakho njalo ukuthi uyathanda ukubahlonipha. Isiqinisekiso siyithuluzi lentambo yokuvuselela ubuhlobo obudala.
Ubudlelwano bakho nenhlalakahle ye oshade naye kufanele eze kuqala kuwe. Ukuvikela oshade naye noma ukuma kowakwakho kubaluleke kakhulu futhi kubonisa ukuthi nibakhathalelana kangakanani.
Ukukhulisa ubudlelwano bakho noshade naye kuyizindlela ezimbili futhi kusebenza kahle lapho wena nomlingani wakho nibeka phambili omunye nomunye ngaphambi kwanoma yini enye.
4. Ngiyabonga!
Ngiyabonga akuyona imikhuba emihle nje kuphela; ibuye iveze injabulo, ukubonga nokwazisa okuthile. Kusukela ekwenzele ukudla kwasemini kuya ekuhleleni kabusha isicathulo sakho, noma yini owakwenzayo kufanele ithokozelwe kakhulu.
Kwazise oshade naye nganoma yikuphi nakho konke, kungabonakala ngokweqile kepha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uzokwazi ukuthi uzikhetha kanjani izikhathi zakho. Impendulo enhle iya kude futhi lowo owamukelayo angazikhandla akwenzele okuningi.
Futhi cha, ukucabanga ukuthi “ngiyabonga” akubalulekile - isho phezulu! Oshade naye akazi njalo ukuthi uyabonga. Zibandakanye emjikelezweni wokwazisa ebudlelwaneni bakho futhi ungathathi kalula oshade naye.