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Lapho abantu ababili basekuqaleni kobudlelwano babo, awusoze wababona befuna izeluleko kubantu abashadile ukuthi bangagcina kanjani izinto ziqhubeka. Kodwa-ke, kunjalo ekuqaleni kobudlelwano lapho wonke umuntu kufanele anikeze izimiso ezimbalwa eziyisisekelo ngokucabangisisa futhi asebenzise izeluleko zobudlelwano emibhangqwaneni. Ngoba, uma wehla unyawo olungalungile, imvamisa kuyindaba yesikhathi lapho ubudlelwano buzoncibilika khona. Kungakho le ndatshana izokukhumbuza izisekelo zobudlelwano obuyimpumelelo, futhi, mhlawumbe, isisekelo somshado omuhle.
Thembeka
Noma ngabe kusobala kanjani ukuthi lesi seluleko sobudlelwano semibhangqwana, sinzima kakhulu ukusilandela. Kuzwakala kuqondile impela, kepha uma ama-nuances abo bonke ubuhlobo eqala ukudlala, kuyacaca ukuthi kunzima kanjani ukulinganisa yonke into. Kepha, ake siqale ngokusobala. Ngokufanelekile, wena nomlingani wakho anisoze nazibophezela kunoma yini enizolingeka ukuba niqambe amanga ngayo. Okufanelekile, awusoze wangathembeki, isibonelo.
Kodwa-ke, ngokungathembeki, njenganoma iyiphi enye into, uma kwenzeka, ungagwegwesi ngakho. Abantu abaningi abaphingayo basabathanda abalingani babo. Futhi ngenxa yalokhu, bavame ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa yibo. Futhi abafuni ukubalimaza. Yingakho abantu abaningi beqamba amanga ebudlelwaneni. Kodwa-ke, ekuphingeni njenganoma isiphi esinye isiphambeko, akufanele uzithathe kuwe ukunquma ukuthi kufanele bazi noma cha.
Ngamanye amagama, uma wenze okuthile okholelwa ukuthi kuzolimaza umlingani wakho noma kubathukuthelise, masivume - akufanele uthole ukuthi yini elungele bona. Futhi ngokungabatsheli iqiniso, ubathatha njengengane, njengomuntu ongakwazi ukubhekana namaqiniso anzima ngempilo. Awuhloniphi umlingani wakho, futhi bakufanele ukuhlonishwa. Ngakho-ke, noma yini oyenzayo, vele uthembeke (ngokuzwela) ngezifiso zakho, izidingo zakho, imicabango yakho, nezenzo zakho. Yiyo kuphela indlela ubuhlobo obenza ngayo umqondo.
Qiniseka
Sivele sichaze inkambo elandelayo yanoma yibuphi ubuhlobo obuphumelelayo, futhi lokho ukuxhumana okuhle. Kuyini ukuxhumana okuhle? Ukuzethemba. Ngokuqina, uziphatha wena nomlingani wakho ngenhlonipho. Uhlonipha ilungelo labo lemizwa nemibono yabo, futhi awucindezeli eyakho.
Abantu bazalwa benenkani. Bheka nje izingane. Bazohlala bakwazisa ukuthi bafunani ngesikhathi abasifunayo, nokuthi kubi kangakanani. Ngendlela yabo engafundisiwe, yebo, kepha bazoveza ukwaneliseka nothando, nokungaphatheki kahle kanye nesidingo ngokuqondisa okulinganayo. Kuze kube baqala ukufunda izindlela zomphakathi, okuyi, ngeshwa, ikakhulukazi ezincindezela ukuqiniseka.
Ebudlelwaneni, njengakwezinye izingxenye zempilo, abantu banolaka noma bayazivikela, kunokuqina. Kepha, noma ngabe kunemishado ehlala amashumi eminyaka lapho abalingani besesilinganisweni esingenampilo sozakwethu ovelele futhi ongenzi lutho, akuyona indlela okufanele uhambe ngayo. Uma ufuna ubudlelwano bakho buchume, kufanele ufunde ukuthi ungaba kanjani oqinisayo esikhundleni salokho. Ngamafuphi, lokhu kusho ukuthi uhlala uveza imizwa nezidingo zakho, ngenkathi ungathathi ilungelo elifanayo nakumlingani wakho. Lokhu kusho nokuthi ungasebenzisi imisho noma ithoni yokusola, kunalokho ukhuluma ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho. Kusho ukuphakamisa izixazululo, hhayi ukuzicindezela. Futhi, kusho ukuziqonda wena uqobo, nakho.
Yiba nozwela
Yiba nozwela kumlingani wakho. Lesi yiseluleko sobudlelwano esibaluleke kakhulu semibhangqwana. Ngokukhuluma iqiniso, inhlonipho, nokuzethemba nakho kuza nozwela. Ngoba lapho ungagxili ekufezeni izinhloso zakho zobugovu ebudlelwaneni, uqala ukubona ukuthi umlingani wakho akayona indlela yokuthola injabulo yakho. Sethemba ukuthi uzakwenu uzokulethela injabulo enkulu empilweni. Kepha, ababekelwanga kulo mhlaba ukukwenzela lokhu. Banemizwa yabo, imibono yabo, kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi lokho wena nomlingani wakho enihlangabezana nakho kuzohluka kakhulu. Kepha, kulapho ukuzwela kweqiniso kothile omthandayo kudlala khona.
Umlingani wakho kwesinye isikhathi, kungenzeka, akwenze uhlanye. Bazodabuka ngento ongeke uyiqonde. Bazohoxa ngezikhathi ezithile noma bahlasele abanye. Lokhu akuyona into esezingqondweni zakho uma usanda kuthandana. Kepha yilezi zikhathi ezenza umehluko phakathi kothando lweqiniso nokuthatheka. Ngoba udinga ukuba nozwela kumlingani wakho noma ungavumelani nabo. Yilokho okwakha ubudlelwano obuqinile bedwala.