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- Ukungathembeki emizweni yakho
- Gxila ekwelapheni
- Thola umbono
- Letha ochwepheshe
- Ukukhipha ukungathembeki
- Kuzoba novalo
- Ungakunaki ukuzondla kwakho
- Gcina iso lakho likusasa
Ukungathembeki kwesinye sezenzakalo esibuhlungu kakhulu esingenzeka emshadweni.
Kungabaza zona kanye izibopho inyunyana yenu esekwe kuzo: ukwethembana, inhlonipho, ukwethembeka nothando olukhethekile oluthenjiswa lapho abantu ababili bethi "ngiyakwenza."
Akumangalisi ukuthi ukungathembeki kuvame ukuholela esahlukanisweni.
Uma lokhu kuyisimo sakho, nanka amaphuzu abalulekile okufanele ucatshangelwe kuwo njengoba uhlola ukuthi kufanele uhlale emshadweni noma uqhubekele ekufakeni isehlukaniso.
Ukungathembeki emizweni yakho
Oshade naye akathembekanga.
Ngemuva kwamuva nje, ungahle uzwe imizwa enhlobonhlobo: usizi, ukungakholelwa, umuzwa wokungabi ngokoqobo, ukushintsha kwemizwelo kusuka entukuthelweni kuya ekudabukeni okungabekezeleleki, ukuziphindiselela, ukubuzwa ukuthi ucabanga ukuthi wazi ngani ngomlingani wakho.
Konke lokhu kujwayelekile futhi ungalindela ukuthi uzizwe isikhashana njengoba ucubungula izindaba zokuthi umlingani wakho akathembekile. Ungenzi izinqumo ezinkulu ngenkathi uzizwa ngale ndlela. Awukwazi ukwethemba ubuchopho bakho ukuthi busebenze kahle futhi ungenza okuthile ozozisola ngakho kamuva.
Zinakekele ngalesi sikhathi esibucayi: phefumula kakhulu. Finyelela kubangani abathembekile futhi ubavumele ukuthi bakunakekele.
Uma ungahlela ukuthatha ikhefu emsebenzini, yenza kanjalo. (Noma, uma kusiza ukugcina ingqondo yakho ingathembeki, qhubeka nomsebenzi wakho nemikhuba yansuku zonke.)
Njengoba usebenza ngaleyo nqwaba yemizwa, ezinye izinto zizoqala ukucaca:
Gxila ekwelapheni
Okokuqala, zitshele ukuthi noma yisiphi isinqumo osithathayo — noma ngabe uzohlukanisa noma cha — ufuna ukuphuma kulesi simo ungumuntu ophelele, ophelele futhi ophilile ngokomqondo. Ufuna ukugcina ingqondo yakho igxile ekuphulukisweni kwakho.
Thola umbono
Lapho usubona ukukopela komlingani wakho, kungokwemvelo ukusho kuwe ukuthi le yinto embi kakhulu engenzeka kuwe. Qagela? Akunjalo. Okubi kakhulu kungaba ukuhlala iminyaka nomlingani wakho owenza ubuqili, efihla izindlela zakhe zokukopela futhi engalali nawe kuphela kodwa nomunye umuntu, noma abantu.
Okungenani manje usuyazi ukuthi ubhekene nani, kunokuba ukuthole emashumini eminyaka kamuva.
Letha ochwepheshe
Njengoba ubheka ongakhetha kukho — hlala noma hamba — finyelela kochwepheshe.
Impela, abangani bakho nomndeni wakho bangamabhodi wokukhala asabekayo futhi akhona ngawe, kepha akubona abantu abafanelekile ongaya kubo ukuthola izeluleko. Bangamzonda oshade naye futhi banikeze imibono ebandlululayo ngendlela engcono kakhulu eya phambili. Bangaphikisana ngokuqinile nesehlukaniso futhi benze izeluleko zabo zande futhi.
Okudingayo ngalesi sikhathi umeluleki wemishado; umuntu ongahlala naye futhi uchithe yonke imizwa yakho, imibuzo nokukhathazeka kwakho futhi onamakhono obuchwepheshe wokukusiza ukuthi uzikhiphe endaweni ephephile futhi eyimfihlo.
Bakubonile konke futhi bangakunika ukuholwa okungcono kakhulu nokusekelwa okungokomzwelo ukuze uzenzele isinqumo esihle ngenkathi ucubungula wonke ama-engeli wokuthi leso sinqumo sizoba namthelela muni ngekusasa lakho.
Ukukhipha ukungathembeki
Lapho usebenza nomeluleki wakho, uzofuna ukuhlola izici ezahlukahlukene zokungathembeki.
Lokhu kuzoba wusizo njengoba uthatha isinqumo sokubuyisana noma sokuhlukanisa. Imibuzo emihle okufanele ibuzwe ifaka phakathi: ngabe bekungokokuqala ukuthi angathembeki? Ingabe lokhu bekuyisiteshi sobusuku obubodwa noma into yesikhathi eside? Ingabe ukuvezile ukukopela ngokwakhe, noma wabanjwa?
Ngabe kukhona okuthile emshadweni okungenzeka okuholele ekungathembekini, noma bekungaphezulu kobuntu (ukulutha ngokocansi, ukuphoqelelwa, ukufuna injabulo)?
Kuzoba novalo
Njengoba uhlola izindlela ezimbili eziphambi kwakho — isehlukaniso noma ukuhlala ushadile — uzokwesaba. Lokhu kujwayelekile; yingqondo yakho ekugqugquzela ukuthi uhlale unake isimo.
Diliza lokho kwesaba. Yini esabekayo ngokuhlala: uzokwenza futhi? Ukwesaba ukuthi awusoze wakwazi ukwakha ukwethenjwa futhi? Yini esabekayo ngesahlukaniso: ukungashadi futhi? Umthwalo wezezimali? Ukukhulisa izingane ngaphandle komlingani? Kufanele ufunde ukuzulazula empilweni wedwa?
Lokhu konke kungukukhathazeka okusemthethweni futhi yikhona oyofuna ukuchitha isikhathi uzihlola, ngoba kuzokuholela esinqumweni esifanele.
Ungakunaki ukuzondla kwakho
Njengoba usebenza ngenqubo yokwenza izinqumo, kunento eyodwa okufanele uyigcine isishisi sangaphambili: ngokwakho.
Zihloniphe ngokuzinakekela. Lezi yizinsuku ezimnyama, impela, kepha ungasiza ukuhambisa kuzo ngokwenza ngokwakho kuqala.
Cishe wakudebeselela ukwenza kanjalo lapho ushadile; mhlawumbe ubeka inhlalakahle yomunye ngaphambi kweyakho. Manje yisikhathi sokwenza izinto obungazange uzenze ngenkathi umatasa kakhulu unakekela oshade naye.
Isikhathi sokuzindla. Isikhathi sokuzivocavoca umzimba. Isikhathi sokuthenga kancane ukuze uvuselele ikhabethe lakho futhi uzizwe muhle futhi ungowesifazane. Isikhathi sokubuka lokho ofuna ukukubuka ku-Netflix. Noma yini ekukhumbuza ukuthi ubiza igolide.
Gcina iso lakho likusasa
Noma ngabe unquma ini, themba ukuthi leso sinqumo yisona esifanele.
Khetha indlela uye phambili nethemba nokuqiniseka. Uma uthatha isinqumo sokuhlukanisa, bheka lokhu njengendlela yokuzinakekela, uzikhulule kumlingani owephule isibopho sokwethembana.
Zitshele ukuthi uzophinde uthande, futhi kulokhu nomuntu ofanele wena nakho konke okuletha ebudlelwaneni.