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- 1. Ukuzinakekela kahle kubalulekile
- 2. Zisize ngokuzizwa umkhulu
- 3. Cabanga ukuxhumana kwakho kahle
- 4. Akukho kubhalwa komphakathi!
- 5. Ukuqhubekela phambili kusho ukuqhubeka
- 6. Chitha ubhontshisi
- 7. Imijikelezo yokubusa
- 8. Gcina ingqondo ehlanzekile
- 9. Ekuqhubekeni
Igama elinovalo D liyinto okungekho muntu ofuna ukuyamukela, kepha ezimweni eziningi isehlukaniso siyadingeka. Noma ngabe uqale inqubo yesehlukaniso, noma uphoqelelwe ngumkakho, uzodinga usizo oluthile ukuhlela izinyanga ezizayo.
Akunamahloni okuthola usizo oluncane kwesinye isikhathi, futhi kulo lonke idivosi yakho, noma ngabe ubulifuna, noma cha, uzodinga usizo oluncane endleleni. Ukunaka ukweluleka okuzokusiza ekuhleleleni kwakho isehlukaniso sabesilisa kuphela, kuyindlela ephelele yokuqinisekisa ukuthi isehlukaniso sakho sibushelelezi ngangokunokwenzeka.
Ngakho-ke sibhale amanye amathiphu abaluleke kakhulu futhi asebenzayo ekuhlelweni kwesehlukaniso samadoda lapha.
1. Ukuzinakekela kahle kubalulekile
Uma ungasikholelwa, udinga kuphela ukubheka isigaba esibizwa ngokuthi yiMaslow's Hierarchy of Needs, esithi ezingeni lethu eliyisisekelo sidinga ukudla, indawo yokuhlala, ukuphumula nokuphepha.
Amadoda asanda kwehlukana nabafazi bawo ajwayele ukuba mpofu ekuzinakekeleni ngale ndlela. Kodwa ukungazinakekeli kahle kuzokushiya ubuthakathaka, usengozini futhi ungenampilo.
Ngakho-ke esikhundleni sokwenza isimo sakho sibe sibi kakhulu, qala njengoba uqonde ukuqhubeka nokuzinakekela, ukupheka, noma ukufunda ukupheka ukudla okunempilo bese uzama ukuthola indawo ezinzile nephephile yokuhlala ngokushesha okukhulu.
Noma kungebona ubukhazikhazi obajwayele.
2. Zisize ngokuzizwa umkhulu
Kubalulekile futhi ukugcina ukunakekelwa okuhle komuntu phezulu ohlwini lwakho lwezinto ezibalulekile, kubalulekile.
Ngeke uzizwe kahle kakhulu uma unganakekeli izidingo zakho eziyisisekelo njengokugeza, ukushefa nokugunda izinwele. Lesi yisikhathi lapho ungeke uzizwe kangcono ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo, ukunezela emthwalweni wakho ngokungazizwa kahle kuzohlanganisa inkinga futhi kwehlise inhlalakahle yakho.
Ziphushe ukuze ugcine ukunakekelwa kwakho noma ngabe ungazizwa uthanda ngakho futhi ungeze ukuthintwa kwe-cologne ngenxa yaso. Iphunga lenza izimanga ngengqondo.
Lesi ngesinye sezeluleko ezibaluleke kakhulu kepha ezibalulekile zokuhlela isehlukaniso sabesilisa futhi uma ungakwenzanga lokhu ngaphambi kokuqala inqubo yesehlukaniso, manje yisikhathi sokwenza ushintsho lwakho lokuqala oluhle ngekusasa.
3. Cabanga ukuxhumana kwakho kahle
Zama ukuqala ukucabanga ngendlela osebenzisana ngayo nalowo ozoba ngumdala wakho. Ungamvumeli ukuthi acindezele izinkinobho zakho, ungakhombisi intukuthelo yakhe, ukukhungatheka noma uthando. Zonke zingaholela ezimeni ezinamathelayo ongazidingi njengamanje.
Ukuhlanza ungagcina ukuxhumana kwakho kube ngcono kuwe esikhathini esizayo. Noma kufanele uthathe umgwaqo ophakeme ngezikhathi ezithile.
4. Akukho kubhalwa komphakathi!
Dala izehlakalo zokuqinisekisa ukuthi UNGALOKOTHI ubhale noma yini nge-social media, i-imeyili, noma incwadi. Qiniseka ukuthi uyama bese uyacabanga. Noma umzuzwana wamahlaya okubhuqa ezokusiza uzizwe ungcono isikhashana esifushane, kuzokwenza isehlukaniso sibe lula uma ungawubasi umlilo.
Uma udinga ukuziveza ngale ndlela, bhala wedwa, ngasese bese uyakushisa uma usulungile.
I-Passive banter enobudlova ayisoze yasiza isimo sakho ikakhulukazi uma kunezingane ezihilelekile futhi kuyithiphu elibalulekile lokuhlelela amadoda isehlukaniso.
5. Ukuqhubekela phambili kusho ukuqhubeka
Yeka ukuthembela ku-ex yakho maduze, ngakho-ke, noma yini.
Lokho kusho ukuthi ungamsebenzisi njengomelaphi wemizwa yakho, noma indawo yokulahla intukuthelo yakho, ukudabuka, ukwesaba, necala.
Uma udinga ukuphuma, thola ezinye izindlela ngokusebenzisa umngani othembekile noma ilungu lomndeni, ngokubhala (ngasese), noma ukukushisa ngokugijima, ukuhamba, ukuhlanza, ukulungisa (izinto zakho hhayi unkosikazi wakho).
Ungavumeli umuntu wakho wakudala ukuthi athembele kuwe ngendlela efanayo.
6. Chitha ubhontshisi
Ungakugcini kuwe okwenzeka empilweni yakho yangasese. Tshela umndeni wakho nabangane, futhi ucabange nokwazisa umphathi wakho. Ngale ndlela bangaqonda, babe nodlame lapho kudingeka khona (okuyinto ozoyazisa ngezikhathi ezithile), bakunakekele futhi bakusekele.
Ngeke wazi, ungahle uthole ukudla okumbalwa okunempilo nakho.
7. Imijikelezo yokubusa
Zenzele isimiso esisha se-asap.
Qiniseka ukuthi kufaka ukudla okunempilo, ukuzivocavoca umzimba, ukuzinakekela, imisebenzi yasendlini, ukulala, ubusuku obuthile okungenani nabangane bakho nomndeni wakho (mhlawumbe hhayi ubusuku obuphuzwayo obuphuzwayo) qiniseka ukuthi unamathela kukho.
Siyazi ukuthi ayizwakali imnandi kakhulu, noma ilusizo, kepha imizila isindisa impilo lapho izikhathi zinzima. Sithembe.
8. Gcina ingqondo ehlanzekile
Uma uzizwa uthanda ukuphuza noma ukusebenzisa izidakamizwa njengendlela yokuvimba izinkinga zakho, ungazenzi!
Lowo ngumgwaqo osheshayo ongena enhlekeleleni.
Esikhundleni salokho, gcina ikhanda lakho licacile ukuze ukwazi ukuzikhethela kahle ngesikhathi sehlukaniso futhi uhlale uphilile.
Uzozuza kulo mzamo uma ungakolunye uhlangothi lwesehlukaniso ngoba ukubuyela kwakho esimweni esijwayelekile namandla okuqhubekela phambili kuzoba lula kakhulu ngoba ngeke kudingeke uchithe unyaka noma emibili ulungisa umonakalo okungenzeka ubewudalile wena.
Uma uthola izinto zinzima futhi ulingeka ekuthambekeleni kwe-hedonistic, sekuyisikhathi sokufuna umeluleki noma umeluleki akusize ukukuqondisa.
Kepha-ke, ukushaywa ngezikhathi ezithile nabangane obathembekile kulungile (inqobo nje uma ungaxhumani nomkakho noma uzame ukuziphindiselela ekuziphatheni kokudakwa).
9. Ekuqhubekeni
Ekugcineni, ungaziphoqeleli ukuthi ungene ebudlelwaneni obusha ngokushesha kakhulu.
Ungazithola usesebudlelwaneni obungafanele, futhi kungahle kuphazamise izinhlelo zakho zesehlukaniso.
Abantu bakuxwayisa ngobudlelwano obubuyayo ngesizathu. Usengozini!
Zibheke njengobuthakathaka, futhi uzothatha izinqumo ezinhle.
Kunomhlahlandlela oncoma inyanga eyodwa yokungashadi unyaka nonyaka womshado, okuyindlela esebenzayo nesebenzisekayo yokuzivimbela ekujaheni ukuhlangana nomuntu futhi ezokunikeza isikhathi sokujwayela impilo yakho entsha, uzithole futhi ubhekane nemizwa yakho futhi izimali kahle.Ukuze lapho uhlangana nomuntu omusha uzobe usendaweni ekahle ukuheha umuntu ofanele futhi ujabulele ubudlelwano obuhle.