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“Akangilaleli!”, “Uhlala eqinisile!” Lezi yizinhlobo zezimo ezibambekayo ezivame ukubhekana nemibhangqwana engqubuzanayo. Kukhona umuzwa wokubambeka futhi ungenalusizo, ungazi ukuthi uzizwe kanjani uzwakala, uqondwa futhi ududuzwe ngoshade naye noma umlingani wakho lapho nixabana ngokuthatha izinqumo - noma ngabe isiphi isikole ingane yethu eya kuso, noma sikuphi sizoya eholidini lethu elilandelayo noma okunye okufana nokujwayelekile, indlela efanele yokulayisha umshini wokuwasha izitsha.
Kodwa-ke, uma sihlolisisa lezi zimo, sithola ukuthi ukubambeka kubangelwa wukukhathazeka okuthi, “uma ngivumelana yena noma uvume ukuthi ngiyaqonda wakhe iphuzu lokubuka, lapho-ke uzokucabanga lokho bona baqinisile futhi Mina nginephutha. Ngaleyo ndlela, imizwa yami kanye nezidingo zami ngeke kubonakale ”. Ngakho-ke, imibhangqwana ijwayele ukumba izithende zayo futhi ibhikishe ngamandla ngethemba lokuthi imizwa yabo iqinisekisiwe. Ngeshwa, lapho zombili izinhlangothi zifuna ukuzwakala kuqala, akekho olalelayo!
Akudingi ukuthi kube buhlungu kanjena. Ngingathanda ukunikeza abashadikazi izinyathelo ezi-3 eziphumelelayo zokubasiza bakwazi ukusabalalisa izingxabano ebudlelwaneni babo, futhi babe nengxoxo enhle futhi exhumanayo ngokomzwelo, ebasondeza komunye nomunye.
1. Ithoni
Noma ini usho izinto, kubaluleke ngokufanayo ukunaka Kanjani uveza umbono wakho. Ithoni idlulisa imizwa - ukucasuka, ukungabekezeli noma ukunakekelwa kwangempela noma uzwelo. Ithoni ibuye inikeze umlingani wakho ukuqonda kunqubo yakho yokucabanga. Isibonelo, ithoni ecasukile iletha umcabango, njengokuthi "Angikholwa ukuthi ukhohliwe ukuthatha izingubo kubahlanzayo futhi!".
Lapho umlingani wakho ezwa ukuthi uyamsola noma ukhungathekile, ubuchopho bakhe bube sebuthola ubungozi bese buya kumodi yokulwa indiza ukuvikela usongo olubonakalayo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, lapho ithoni yakho imnene futhi inozwelo, ubuchopho buthumela isignali ukuze uphumule futhi uvumelane namazwi ozakwenu ngaphandle kokwesaba.
Ngakho-ke, lapho uzithola uthukuthela futhi ungaphumuli okwamanje, thatha umoya ojulile bese uzikhumbuza ukugcina ithoni yakho inhle, izolile futhi ikhululekile.
2. Ukulawulwa kwemizwelo
Ngokuphikisana nalokho imibhangqwana engakholelwa kukho, akuvamile ukuthi isinqumo yezinkinga okungumgomo oyinhloko wezingxabano eziningi, kepha i- ukuqinisekiswa yemizwa nokuhlupheka kwabo okwamanje. Kodwa-ke, kunzima kakhulu ukwazisa imizwa nezidingo zomlingani wakho uma ungalawuleki kwemizwa yakho futhi uzizwa ukhokhiswa kakhulu futhi ususwe engxoxweni yezingxabano.
Enye indlela yokwenyuka usuka ezingxabanweni futhi ikusize uphathe futhi ulawule imizwa yakho ukwenza isiko 'lokuphelelwa isikhathi'. Yebo, uzwe kahle! Ukuphela kwesikhathi akusikho okwezingane kuphela. Inhloso yangempela yesikhathi sokuphumula ukusiza iqembu ngalinye elibandakanyekayo ukuqoqa imicabango yabo, imizwa kanye nezidingo zabo futhi bakwazi ukulawula izingqinamba zabo ezingokomzwelo.
Uma uzithola uxakekile engxoxweni nomlingani wakho, yiba nohlelo lokuhlanganyela lokuthatha okungenani imizuzu engama-20 ukwenza isiko lokuphumula. Thola ikhona elithulile endlini ngayinye lapho ungathulisa khona izinzwa zakho, bese wenza lezi zinyathelo ezilandelayo -
1. Phefumula kancane, bese uthwebula umzimba wakho ukuze ubone noma yikuphi ukuqina nokungakhululeki bese uqaphela lapho ubambe khona ingcindezi nezinkathazo zakho.
2. Zibuze, "ngizizwa kanjani njengamanje?", "Yiziphi izidingo zami ngalesi sikhathi?", "Yini engifuna ukuthi umlingani wami azi futhi aqonde ngami ngalesi sikhathi?".
Isibonelo, ukuzindla kwakho kungabukeka kanjena, “Ngizizwa ngikhathazekile njengamanje; Ngidinga ukuthola isiqinisekiso sokuthi ngibalulekile kuwe; Ngifuna uqonde ukuthi kulo mzuzu ngilwa nomuzwa wokungenzi kahle, ngoba angikhumbulanga umsebenzi owawungicele ukuba ngiwenze ”Lokhu kuvivinya umzimba kusiza ekuchitheni imicabango, imizwa kanye nezidingo zakho ngendlela ecacile, bese uyibopha okwamanje. Ngakho-ke, isifiso sokuphinda ubheke izinkumbulo ezindala namanxeba siyaphazamiseka futhi sisiza ekwehliseni kakhulu ukwenyuka, lapho abalingani bekwazi ukuhlanganyela futhi baxoxe ngenqubo yabo yangaphakathi ngemuva kokuzivocavoca.
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3. Ukwamukelwa
Isinyathelo esilandelayo ukuthi umlingani ngamunye aqinisekise, azise futhi avume imizwa yokuba sengozini okuvezwe ekuzibandakanyeni kabusha ngemuva kokuphuma kwesikhathi. Ukwamukela kusiza ekunciphiseni nasekunciphiseni ukukhathazeka komlingani ngamunye, futhi bangaqala ukwehla ukuzivikela kwabo njengoba ubuchopho babo buyeka ukuthumela izimpawu eziyingozi. Lolu hlobo lokusebenzisana lwakha inhlonipho, ukwethembana nokuzethemba ebudlelwaneni.
Lapho imibhangqwana yamukela ubuhlungu nezidingo zomunye nomunye ekuxabaneni, empeleni ukukhipha ngaphandle inkinga, nokubona ukuthi bobabili baseqenjini elilodwa. Bayakwamukela lokho wena akuyona inkinga; i inkinga inkinga. Bangabe sebeqala ingxoxo yokuthuthela ezixazululweni ezakhayo.
Lapho umlingani ngamunye ebudlelwaneni ekwazi ukulinganisa ithoni yabo yokuxhumana, alawule futhi ehlise ukuphendula kwabo okuqinile ngokomzwelo, futhi bakwazi ukufinyelela futhi bazwakalise komunye lokho ababhekene nakho ngesikhathi sokuxabana kwabo, kuyabasondeza futhi kwenza ubudlelwane babo busondele kakhulu.