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- Ukukhetha ukwamukela
- Ukwamukelwa kuyingxenye engenamibandela yothando olungenamibandela
- Uwafunda kanjani amakhono okwamukela ebudlelwaneni?
- Ukwamukela umuntu ukuthi unobudlelwano nobani
Imibhangqwana efuna usizo lokwelulekwa imvamisa icela usizo ngamakhono ayo okuxhumana.
Ngibaqondisa kabusha ukuze baqale ukuthuthukisa amakhono okwamukela ebudlelwaneni. Yini ekhulisa futhi igcine ubudlelwane obuseduze bothando ukufunda ukuxoxa ngokwamukela esikhundleni sokwahlulela.
Uvalo oluyisisekelo lokuthi akwanele "_______" kimi yilokho okwenza ukwahlulela, amahloni, ukusola nokugxeka ukuze kuzame ukuguqula isimo sakho noma esinye ukuze kube nokuningi "_______" kwami.
Le ndlela ixosha uthando esikhundleni sokuyithuthukisa.
Uthando nokwamukelwa ebudlelwaneni kuthuthukisa ubude besikhathi sobudlelwano futhi kwakha ubudlelwane obuqine obungabhekana nanoma iziphi izivunguvungu. Uthando lweqiniso ukwamukela umuntu njengoba enjalo.
Ukukhetha ukwamukela
Ukwamukela nokwamukela umlingani wakho yikho okuqeda impi futhi kukubuyisele ekuxhumaneni usuka endaweni yokuzola. Ukuzola nokuzola kukuvumela ukuba uxoxisane ngezinguquko ezidingekayo komunye nomunye ngaphandle kokuzizwa uhlaselwe.
Le ndlela yokwamukela neyokungabi nacala yokuphatha futhi yenza kube lula ukungagodleli noma ukugcina izimfihlo komunye nomunye. Ukuzibeka engcupheni ngivumela isiqu sami uqobo siphathe engikujwayele ukukunika umlingisi wami uqobo, kungibuyisela eqinisweni lami elisengozini kunokuzivikela.
Lapho sikwenza ngokwengeziwe ukuzemukela emazingeni ajulile kakhulu, kulapho siqina khona futhi siphephe ngokwengeziwe lapho sikhuluma ngokusuka endaweni eyiqiniso, eneqiniso futhi esengozini.
Ukwamukelwa kuyingxenye engenamibandela yothando olungenamibandela
Ukwamukelwa empeleni kuzoletha lokho ijaji noma umgxeki abazama ukukuletha kubo nakubudlelwano.
Isinyathelo sokuqala ukuqala ngawe. Njengoba uzijwayeza ukwamukela yonke imizwa yakho nazo zonke izingxenye zakho ubuncane bokuzama ukubulala izingxenye ezimbi zomuntu siqu futhi ugcizelele, izingxenye ezinhle zokuziyeka ziyeke ukuzihlukanisa kabili bese uqala ukusebenzisa ukusebenzisana esikhundleni sokuba ngumphikisi.
Ukubambisana kuphumelela kakhulu kunomzamo womuntu ngamunye. Ukuzibona njengelungu leqembu kuvumela ukubambisana okwengeziwe bese isimo sokuwina singahle senzeke.
Uwafunda kanjani amakhono okwamukela ebudlelwaneni?
Nazi izixazululo ezintathu ezingenza ubudlelwane bakho bube buhle ngempela futhi zisize ekwakheni ubudlelwano obuqinile.
1. Qhamani nezixazululo ndawonye njengezithandani
2. Ukuzijayeza ukuyekela izindaba ezincane
3. Yazisa ubuhle obunikezwa impilo yansuku zonke
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Ufuna amanye amathiphu wokuthuthukisa amakhono okwamukela ebuhlotsheni? Nakhu ukuthi ungamamukela kanjani umlingani wakho ukuthi ungubani.
- Akudingeki ukuthi ubhalisele uhlelo olufanayo lokukholelwa njengolomlingani wakho, futhi nakanjani unelungelo lokulandela uhlelo lwakho lwamavelu. Kepha kufanele bavume imibono yabo futhi bafunde ukungavumelani ngenhlonipho.
- Ubudlelwano yinto ejulile futhi kufanele ufunde ukuyenza wamukele amaphutha nokungapheleli komlingani wakho ngaphandle kwemibandela njengoba wamukela izici zabo ezinhle.
- Ungaphoqeleli imibono yakho kumlingani wakho ukubaphoqa ukuthi babe yilokho ongathanda babe yibo. Yiba yisiqondiso esimnene, usebenze endaweni yokubekezela nomusa. Hlonipha umehluko wakho.
- Uma izinqumo zabo zikudida noma uthola ukungahambelani phakathi kwezinhloso zakho nabo, zama ukuqonda ukuthi zivelaphi. Awunayo i-kowtow noma uvumelane nabo, beka ithemba labo emandleni abo okwenza izinqumo.
- Yiba ovuthiwe futhi ungenzi iphutha lokuqhathanisa ngokungafanele. Into ebuhlungu kakhulu ongayenza kumlingani wakho ukuqhathanisa nabantu abaseduze kwakho noma abantu ohlangane nabo esikhathini esedlule. Yamukela futhi ubonge ubuntu bomlingani wakho.
- Ungaphindi futhi ukhonze izono zesikhathi esedlule somlingani wakho kubo, usuku nosuku, esidlweni sasekuseni, sasemini noma sedina. Thethelela, dedela uqhubeke. Ukuthethelela akusho ukubekezelela ukuziphatha okuhlukumezayo noma okunobuthi. Kepha uma ukhethe ukuxolela okunye kwakho okuphawulekayo futhi bashintshele kokungcono, ungavumeli amaphutha abo esikhathi esedlule achaze okwamanje.
- Phatha umlingani wakho njengomlingani wakho olinganayo. Gwema ukwehlisa isithunzi noma ukululaza umlingani wakho bese ulwela ukudala ubuhlobo obuhlala isikhathi eside nokulingana noshade naye.
- Yize kumnandi ukwenza izinto ndawonye, yamukela ukuthi nobabili nizoba nezintshisekelo ezithile ezihlukile eningaziphishekela ngawodwana. Ukuhlonipha izifiso nezintshisakalo zomuntu ngamunye ebudlelwaneni akuyona into exoxwayo ebudlelwaneni benjabulo.
Ukwamukela umuntu ukuthi unobudlelwano nobani
Uthando ukwamukela nokuthanda umuntu ngokugcwele nangokungenamibandela ngalokho abayikho.
Ukuthi ubudlelwano bungaqina kanjani, ukwamukelwa okunamandla ebudlelwaneni kungasiza ukukhulisa inhlonipho, uthando, ukunakekelwa nokukhula ebudlelwaneni. Indlela enhle yokuthuthukisa amakhono okwamukela ebudlelwaneni ukuziqhenya ngezimpawu zomlingani wakho ezifinyelelwe, ezinkulu noma ezincane.
Yazi ukunqoba kwabo esidlangalaleni, yamukela ubunzima bohambo lwabo, futhi ubancome ngobuntu babo, ukumamatheka, ukucabangela, ububele, nezinye izinto eziningi ezibenza bakhetheke.
Ngokungagxili emaphutheni ophathina wakho nokufunda ukuwamukela njengoba enjalo ebudlelwaneni uzoletha injabulo yangempela ezinsukwini zabo ezingenampilo, ubakhuthaze ukuba bakhule babe ngabantu abangcono.
Ukwamukela thina, ukuzijezisa nokuzwakalisa ukubonga kumlingani wakho ngokuba lapho empilweni yakho njengokuthi bangobani, nokuthi bangobani, kuzonika amandla amandla akho obudlelwano. Khumbula ukuya ebudlelwaneni bakho njengobambiswano lwangempela lokulingana okumbili.
Ngisebenza ne-EMDR, i-NLP, ukuzindla, ukuphefumula kanye nezingxoxo ezikhuthazayo ukuqinisa bobabili abantu ukuze ubudlelwano buguquke ngokuphelele. Funda ukuzithanda futhi esikhundleni sokuzama ukushintshana, yamukela umlingani wakho ngendlela abayiyo.