-Delile
- 1. Ungakwenzi wedwa
- 2. Sijabulele nesikhathi sakho, nami
- 3. Zinakekele, ngokomzwelo
- 4. Zinakekele, ngokomzimba
- 5. Zinike (Nomshado wakho ube nekhefu)
Nobabili nikhulume izinto ebeningaziqondile. Ngenkathi uthuli seluxazululwe ukungqubuzana kwamagama kwenu kwakamuva, nabukana futhi nabona ukuthi umshado enawufaka nobabili ngenhliziyo ephelele ubusuyingxenye yesikhashana njengoba sekudlule isikhathi.
- Anisancomi omunye nomunye
- Anisizane
- Awukhulumi ngendlela ozizwa ngayo
- Awusaphelezelani
Okungaba ngcono kakhulu ukuthatha isinyathelo sokubuyela emuva- emuva emuva. Mhlawumbe uma beninikelana isikhala, nobabili nizobona ukuthi yini ebalulekile ngomshado eniwubonile uwohloka. Uma kunjalo, ukwahlukana kungaba yindlela engcono kakhulu kuwe. Lapho uthatha isinqumo sokwehlukana, kungaba ngesivivinyo noma unomphela, insimu engashayiwe ingasabisa.
Umuntu osuhlale naye nsuku zonke iminyaka hhayi kuphela akekho; abafuni ukuba.
Yize ukwehlukana kungaba yinto enempilo kunazo zonke ebudlelwaneni bakho, kungahle kungabi isenzo esihle kakhulu kuwe. Kubalulekile ukuthi uma uthatha isinqumo sokuhlukana noshade naye usisebenzise kahle leso sikhathi. Yisebenzisele ukusebenza kuwe, uthole umbono othile, futhi uzindle ngokuhle nokubi emshadweni wakho. Kuzoba ukwethuka okuncane ohlelweni lwakho, kepha ungakwenza kube okufanele imbangela ngokucabangela amathiphu angezansi.
1. Ungakwenzi wedwa
Lesi yisikhathi sokufuna abangane nomndeni ukuthi bakusize ngalesi sikhathi soshintsho. Sebenzisa lesi sikhathi ungekho koshade naye ukuthola isikhathi esithe xaxa nomshana wakho, noma hamba uvakashele ugogo wakho. Ukuphinde uxhumane nombuthano wakho wezenhlalo kubalulekile uma usanda kuba nengxenye enkulu yempilo yakho yomphakathi uphume ngomnyango.
Vumela laba bantu bakusekele lapho uzizwa ubuthakathaka, futhi ulalele lapho uzizwa uthanda ukukhuluma. Ukuba nohlelo lokusekelwa okuzungezile kubaluleke kakhulu njengoba usuka kokushadile kuya kokuhlukanisiwe. Xhumana nabangane bakudala, wenze okusha, futhi uzwe uthando oluvela kothile ngaphandle komuntu obumethemba.
2. Sijabulele nesikhathi sakho, nami
Akunandaba noma ngabe umshado wakho wawunempilo noma unempilo kangakanani, maningi amathuba okuthi uchithe isikhathi esihle nomlingani wakho. Kungenzeka ukuthi bekungenjalo ikhwalithi isikhathi, kepha isikhathi noma kunjalo.
Yamukela leli thuba elisha lokujabulela ukuba wedwa. Thola bese ulandela ukuthanda kwakho. Bhala kabusha umdlalo wokuzilibazisa ongawenzanga isikhashana. Lalela omunye umculo okwenza uzizwe uphila. Khuphuka usofa ubuke ama-movie usuku lonke. Ngemuva kokuchitha isikhathi esiningi uhlanganyela ikamelo noma ikhaya nomunye umuntu, jabulela iqiniso lokuthi ungenza noma yini oyifunayo, noma kunini lapho ufuna khona.
I-caveat eyodwa kulokhu, noma kunjalo: ungasebenzisi kabi isikhathi sakho wedwa bese usenza iphathi enesihawu. Ukuhlala nokucasuka izinsuku ekugcineni ngeke kukusize welaphe. Yebo, njenganoma yini enye, udinga isikhathi sokudabuka. Kepha qaphela ukuthi uzinika isikhathi esingakanani. Ungayidluli.
3. Zinakekele, ngokomzwelo
Lapho usinki wakho wephuka, ubiza u-plumber. Uma imoto yakho iphuka, ubiza umakhenikha. Lapho umshado wakho uchitheka, awucabangi ukuthi kufanele ulethe uchwepheshe ozokusiza ukulungisa ezinye izingcezu zakho eziphukile? Njengompompi nomakhenikha, abelaphi nabeluleki ngongoti abaqeqeshelwe ukukusiza. Ukuzama ukuxazulula nokuhlela imizwa yakho ngendlela "yokuzenzela" kungahle kube kubi.
Esikhundleni sokulinda kuze kube yilapho ushaya phansi, finyelela ngokuqinile kumelaphi ngokushesha lapho uthatha isinqumo sokuhlukana nomyeni noma unkosikazi wakho. Akunandaba ukuthi umile kangakanani, imizwa oyizwayo njengoba wenza lolu shintsho izosizwa iso eliqaphile lombono womelaphi.
4. Zinakekele, ngokomzimba
Impela, ukuzivocavoca umzimba kukulungele ukuqina komzimba wakho, kepha futhi kunezinzuzo eziningi zengqondo futhi. Okokuqala, zonke izinhlobo zokuzivocavoca umzabalazo odinga ukunqotshwa. Uma ugijima, ngegxathu ngalinye olithathayo nemayela ngalinye oligijimayo, uyazifakazela wena ukuthi ungakunqoba ukuhlala phansi. Uma uphakamisa izinsimbi, ulwa namandla adonsela phansi futhi uwunqoba ngokugcwalisa ngakunye. Uma ubamba iqhaza ekilasini le-crossfit, ulwa namandla adonsela phansi ngenkathi welula imikhawulo yendawo yakho yokunethezeka yemithambo yegazi. Njalo lapho uqedela uhlobo oluthile lokuzivocavoca, uzinikeza ubufakazi kuwe ukuthi ungaqedela umsebenzi onzima. Ungazikhombisa inqubekela phambili. Ungadala ushintsho. Ukunikeza lobu bufakazi kungakha unqenqema lwengqondo oluzokusiza njengoba ubheka ukunqoba ubuhlungu nokungakhululeki kokwehlukana.
Okwesibili, lesi sizathu sibe sesayensi kakhulu kunokwengqondo, ukuzivocavoca kukhipha ama-endorphin emzimbeni wakho. Lawa ma-endorphin asiza isimo sakho sezengqondo ngezindlela ezimbili: anciphisa ukuzwa kobuhlungu ebuchosheni bakho, kepha futhi aqala nokuvula impendulo enhle emzimbeni wakho. Ukuvivinya umzimba kungaba yinzuzo esimeni sakho sengqondo njengoba usebenza nendawo phakathi kwakho noshade naye.
5. Zinike (Nomshado wakho ube nekhefu)
Akekho ophelele. Kuyi-cliche, kepha kuyiqiniso. Uma wena nomlingani wakho ninquma ukuhlukana, akukhona ukuthi nobabili ningabantu abesabekayo. Mhlawumbe ukwenzela ukunikezana isikhala, kepha ekugcineni kuzokusebenza. Mhlawumbe selibheke ekuhlukaniseni. Noma ngabe yikuphi, ngoba abantu ababili abahambelani, akubenzi babe ngaphansi komuntu. Thatha umoya nje. Ukuzishaya ngakho ngeke kukusize uphole ekuhlukaneni ngeshwa, futhi ngeke kukubuyisele ndawonye. Uma wena noshade naye nizamile ukuwenza usebenze kodwa kwangasebenza, kulungile. Ukwahlulela okuncane osibeka esimeni kungcono.
Umshado uyinto emangalisayo lapho bobabili izinhlangothi bezibophezele futhi bebambisana phakathi kwalobo budlelwano. Ngalokho kusho, akusona isiqinisekiso sokuthi kuzosebenza. Uma wena noshade naye nithutha ngokuhlukana, ungasithathi kancane lesi sinqumo. Yibani nesikhathi senu ngokuhlukana futhi nisebenze kini. Mhlawumbe uzokhumbula ukuthi kungani wathandana kwasekuqaleni; mhlawumbe ngeke. Kunoma ikuphi, kuhlale kunendawo yokusebenzisa isikhathi sakho ngokuhlukana.