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- Ubudlelwano obungasebenzi kahle buqeda ukuzethemba komuntu
- Ubudlelwano obungebuhle budala izinkinga zempilo yomzimba nengqondo
- Ucwaningo lwesimo sabashadikazi lapho umsebenzi uphazamisa ubudlelwano babo:
- Ucwaningo lwesimo sezithandani ezimali zazo ezidala imizwa emibi phakathi kwazo:
- Ubudlelwano obubi buba nomthelela empilweni yakho engokwenyama nengokwengqondo
Ubuwazi ukuthi ubudlelwano obungebuhle bukhipha i-aura engemihle ethinta wonke umuntu oseduze? Imizwa engemihle iyathathelana. Wake wangena egumbini eligcwele abantu wezwa ukungezwani emoyeni? Amandla amabi aqinisa wonke amandla okuzungezile futhi akushiye ukhathele. Ngakho-ke, ubudlelwane obubi benza into efanayo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuvikela ingqondo yakho kanye nokuzikhethela kwakho ngokomoya kusuka kumsele wamandla ngenxa yabantu ababi.
Ubudlelwano obungasebenzi kahle buqeda ukuzethemba komuntu
Isidingo esikhulu somuntu wonke kufanele samukelwe. Ukuphazamiseka kobuntu kukhula kusukela emizweni yokungamukelwa nokusekelwa ngabantu oye wazibophezela ngokujulile ngokomzwelo, ngokusondelana.
- Ucabanga ukuthi ukugxekwa okwakhayo ngoshade naye kwehlisa isithunzi futhi kukhombisa ukuzizonda kwabo?
- Ngabe ukungathembeki komlingani wakho kukubangele ubuhlungu obukhulu, amahloni nokudumala?
- Ngabe ufuna injabulo kubangani bakho, emndenini, nasezinganeni ngoba uyekile ukukuthola lokho nomlingani wakho?
- Imibhangqwana idala izinkumbulo ezizisekelayo ngezikhathi ezinzima. Ingabe izinkumbulo zakho ezinhle ziqine ngokwanele ukwenza lokho?
Ubudlelwano obungebuhle budala izinkinga zempilo yomzimba nengqondo
Ukudabuka kwenhliziyo kudala ulaka, ingcindezi, isifo senhliziyo, umfutho wegazi ophakeme nokuphazamiseka kokuzivikela komzimba. Iningi labantu liphendukela ekukholweni okungokomoya, kubangani, nasemalungwini omndeni ukusiza ukuthola ukunganaki nemiphumela yako.
Kodwa-ke, abanye abantu bake baba sebudlelwaneni obungebuhle isikhathi eside, bakwamukele ukungalindeli uthando, ukwesekwa nokuhlonishwa. Bakholelwa ukuthi ayikho kubo. Bakholelwa empeleni ukuthi abakufanele ukuthanda futhi bahlala ebudlelwaneni ukufakazela ukuthi bayakufanelekela.
Ucwaningo lwesimo sabashadikazi lapho umsebenzi uphazamisa ubudlelwano babo:
UJudy 33, inkampani yezokuvakasha, ushade nesithandwa sakhe sobuntwana, uThomas, umphathi wezinkampani iminyaka eyi-12. Iminyaka emihlanu edlule ibinzima. Inkampani kaThomas inciphisa umsebenzi. UThomas ukhononda ngokuthi umoya osebenzayo uncintisana kakhulu kangangokuthi ngeke akwazi ukumelana nawo. Akacabangi ukuthi angawuthola omunye umsebenzi omuhle njengalo onawo ngakho-ke ulenga lapho. Usuku ngalunye lubi kakhulu kunayizolo. UThomas ubuyela ekhaya enesimo esibi nsuku zonke. Ubuntu bakhe buguqukile ekubeni buthandeka baba nguMnu. Nasty. UJudy ucabanga ukuthi uyamkhetha ngoba umphathi wakhe umenza lokho usuku lonke.
UThomas uvame ukukhathala kakhulu ukuxhumana futhi ajabule naye. Ukuqala komndeni kunwetshiwe futhi. Njalo kusihlwa ngemuva kokudla kwakusihlwa, uThomas uhlala phambi kwe-TV ephethe isiphuzo ngesandla aze alale. UJudy ucabanga ukuthi inkampani kaThomas isebenzisa amaqhinga okuncintisana kwabasebenzi ukuthola umsebenzi omningi kubasebenzi babo. Umsebenzi abangawukhokheli. Sekuphele iminyaka emihlanu. UJudy uselahle ithemba ngomshado ophilayo. Uhlala ngoba emthanda uThomas. Uzithola enethemba lokuthi uzoxoshwa. UJudy useqale ukusebenza isikhathi sokuphuza futhi uphuza utshwala.
Noma kunjalo, kukhona usizo olutholakalayo. Abantu abasebudlelwaneni nezidakamizwa, utshwala, ukugembula, abayimilutha yomsebenzi badinga izikhathi eziyishumi nambili lapho befunda khona ukuthi kunemingcele wonke umuntu okudingeka ayibeke ebudlelwaneni. Kunezinhlobo eziningi zamaqembu okweseka umphakathi atholakalayo anika amandla ukuzihlonipha nokuthola inhlonipho nokuthula kwengqondo.
Lawa maqembu ahlinzeka ngezinhlelo zokwenziwa zalezo zinhloso. Lezi zinhlelo zinikeza amathuluzi okuxhumana ukubhekana nabantu abaletha imizwa engemihle kanye nobudlelwano empilweni yakho. Uma abantu ohlelweni lwakho lokwesekwa beqala ukuthi kuwe, "Kungani usekhona uma ungajabule kangako ngalo muntu?" Okwamanje ukwelulekwa ngokomsebenzi noma iqembu lokusekelwa komphakathi alikwazi ukulimaza.
Ucwaningo lwesimo sezithandani ezimali zazo ezidala imizwa emibi phakathi kwazo:
UJames 25, umakhenikha wezimoto, uthanda uSherry, unkosikazi wakhe weminyaka emibili. Banomfana ononyaka owodwa, uJohn.
Lapho uJames ehlangana noSherry, wayelithanda iqiniso lokuthi wayekhathalela ukubukeka kwakhe. Kodwa-ke, akazange azi izindleko zokugcina lokho kubukeka baze bashade. USherry unomsebenzi futhi ucabanga ukuthi unelungelo lokuthola izindleko zakhe zobuhle ngoba wayenazo ngaphambi komshado. Okwenzayo ukuzithola yilokho okufanele ukwenze ukuzigcina, akunjalo?
UJames ufuna ukonga imali yokunakekela izingane nokunakekela izingane. Ufuna uSherry anamathele kwisabelomali esifanelekile futhi angabi isondlo esiphakeme kangako. Izimali yiyona kuphela into abalwa ngayo futhi ibilokhu irounda nxazonke. Manje, uSherry useqale ukufihla ukuthenga kwakhe kepha uyakhohlwa ukufihla amarisidi. UJames ukhungathekile ngoba lezi zimpi zithinta impilo yabo yezocansi. Ubuye futhi abe nezinhlungu esifubeni nekhanda. Akusizi lapho abangane bakhe bemtshela ukuthi, "Ngikutshele kanjalo".
UThomas welulekwe yilungu lesonto ukuthi afune ukwelulekwa ngemishado esontweni, kumahhala. Futhi, udadewabo womngani wakhe omkhulu ngumphathi wezezimali. Ucabanga kahle. Kwesinye isikhathi wonke umuntu udinga usizo oluncane. Yena noSherry abakwazi ukuxazulula le nkinga bebodwa ngoba abalalelani futhi abazimisele ukuyekethisa. Imishado eminingi ichitheka ngenxa yezinqumo zemali nezindlela zokuphila. Lesi yisihloko okufanele ukhulume ngaso ngaphambi komshado.
Ubudlelwano obubi buba nomthelela empilweni yakho engokwenyama nengokwengqondo
Miningi imizwa engemihle eqeda ubudlelwano nemishado ngoba idiliza ukuzihlonipha, inhlonipho, nokwesekwa kwababandakanyekayo. Ukufuna ukwelulekwa okusekelwe okholweni, amaqembu okusekela umphakathi, abeluleki bezezimali, nabeluleki abangochwepheshe yizisombululo okungafanele zikhishwe uma ukunganaki ebudlelwaneni kubulala umlingani ngamunye. Ubudlelwano cishe bungasindiswa ngosizo lochwepheshe abaqeqeshiwe.