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- Ngakho-ke kuyini ukusondelana ngokomzwelo?
- Amandla okusondelana ngokomzwelo
- 1. Ukuzinza
- 2. Inkululeko nokunikwa amandla
- 3. Ukugcwaliseka okujulile
Kunezicucu eziningi ezisebenza ngokubambisana ukwakha umshado omuhle, owanelisayo futhi onempilo. Uma lezo zingcezu zakha iphazili, ukusondelana ngokomzwelo kungaba yinto ephambili. Izingcezu okunzima kakhulu ukuzihlanganisa, kepha imvamisa ziyingxenye yombala futhi emuhle kakhulu yephazili. Ngaphandle kwabo, iphazili ibizoba buthuntu futhi ingaphelele. Ngabo, unengcezu yobuciko enhle. Ungaba nobudlelwano obungenakho ukusondelana okungokomzwelo okuncane, kepha ngeke kubekezeleleke ngokuphelele futhi kungabekezeleleki ngokuphelele.
Ngakho-ke kuyini ukusondelana ngokomzwelo?
Lawa magama amabili aphonswa kakhulu, kwesinye isikhathi incazelo ingalahleka ekuhumusheni. Ukusondelana ngokomzwelo kungachazwa njengemizwa yothando, ukwethembana, ukwamukelwa, nenhlonipho okudalwe ukuzimisela komuntu ngamunye ukwaba imicabango nemizwa yomuntu siqu nengavikelekile. Lapho umuntu ngamunye evuleka futhi esobala ngokwengeziwe ngenkathi egcina isimo esingahluleli futhi samukela ukuma komunye nomunye, ukusondelana okungokomzwelo kuyadaleka. Ukusondelana ngokomzwelo akwenzeki nje phakathi kwabantu ababili ebudlelwaneni bothando, kepha futhi kungenzeka nakwezinye izinhlobo zobudlelwano. Yize le bhulogi igxile ekusondelaneni ngokomzwelo emshadweni, ibalulekile kubo bonke ubudlelwano, hhayi phakathi kwabalingani abathandanayo kuphela. Ukusondelana ngokomzwelo kunamandla futhi kuyingxenye ebucayi yanoma yibuphi ubudlelwano obuguqulayo nomshado ohlala njalo.
Amandla okusondelana ngokomzwelo
Amandla okusondelana ngokomzwelo ukuthi aguqula ubudlelwano futhi adale ukuzinza, ukunika amandla, inkululeko nokugcwaliseka okujulile.
1. Ukuzinza
Lapho ukusondelana ngokomzwelo kudalwa ngaphakathi kobuhlobo kunikeza ukuzinza nokubekwa phansi komuntu ngamunye. Ukuze sikwazi ukwabelana ngokungavikeleki kwethu okujulile kanye nesikhathi esibuhlungu esidlule nomuntu, ongabaleki noma asivimbe, kunikeza ukuphepha okungakholeki. Iqiniso elilula ukuthi abantu abaningi abazimisele noma abakwazi ukukunikeza lokho. Sivame ukuzivikela ngoba sonke sihlangabezane nokwaliwa okubuhlungu esikhathini esedlule futhi sizama konke okusemandleni ethu ukukugwema lokho ngokugcina izinto zibukeka zilingana. Kwesinye isikhathi asihlanganyeli ngoba asifuni ukuxosha omunye umuntu.
Uma ukwazi ukwabelana ngalezo zinto ezijulile futhi kwesinye isikhathi ezibuhlungu, izingxenye zakho ngaphandle kokwenqatshwa noma ukushiywa, khona-ke lokho kukusondeza eduze koshade naye. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi wena noshade naye niqala ukubona ukuthi aniyi ndawo futhi nobabili nizimisele ukunamathela ndawonye noma ngabe kunjani. Lokhu kusondelana kukunikeza umuzwa wokuthula nokuphepha okwanelisa ngendlela emangalisayo futhi ngokungangabazeki okunzima ukukuthola.
2. Inkululeko nokunikwa amandla
Izinhlungu zethu ezijulile nokungazethembi kudume ngokusibamba. Mhlawumbe omunye wakho ukuthi ucabanga futhi uzizwe ukuthi uyisicefe futhi awunantshisekelo. Ukuzizwa ngaleyo ndlela kungakugcina ekufinyeleleni kubantu nasekuxhumaneni nabanye ngoba ucabanga ukuthi awunakho okuthokozisayo ongakunikeza. Uma ungeza ukusondelana ngokomzwelo kulokho kungavikeleki (oshade naye ozinika isikhathi sokukulalela nemicabango nemizwa yakho ‘eyisidina’ ngenkathi ungahluleli futhi wamukela) ungaqala ukubuza ukuthi empeleni uyisicefe futhi awunasithakazelo kangakanani. Ngiqonde ukuthi uma umuntu efuna ukuhlala nawe alalele okushoyo, lokho kuyaphikisana nenkolelo yokuthi uyisicefe futhi awuthakazelisi. Eqinisweni, kungasho ukuthi uwuhlobo lokubamba.
Leyo nqubo ikhulula futhi inika amandla. Ukusondelana ngokomzwelo kukunika isibindi sokwabelana ngokwengeziwe nokuziveza ngezindlela ongakaze ube nazo ngaphambili. Uma usudaliwe, imiphumela yawo ifinyelela kude kakhulu nomshado wakho futhi ithonya ulwazi lwakho emsebenzini, emndenini, noma ngabe wenza imisebenzi yakho yokuzilibazisa. Ukusondelana ngokomzwelo kungakusiza ubone ukuthi ubalulekile.
3. Ukugcwaliseka okujulile
Ukusondelana ngokomzwelo kuholela ekugcwalisekeni okujulile. Ukugcwaliseka, phakathi kwezinye izinto, uthando nokwamukelwa okusiguqulayo. Kuyenelisa futhi kuyaduduza ukwazi ukuthi othile unamukela nonke, hhayi izingxenye ezinhle kuphela. Futhi kuyinto engaqhubeka nokukhula ngaphakathi komshado. Lapho nizinikela kakhulu ekubeni sengozini futhi nivulelana izifuba, ngenkathi nizimisele ukulalelana nokwamukelana, uthando lwenu ngomunye nomunye luyakhula. Lokhu kungaba isisekelo somshado ohlala njalo futhi omunye wemizwa eyanelisa kakhulu nevuza kakhulu ongakaze ube nayo.
Kulula kakhulu ukukhukhulwa yimikhuba yethu yansuku zonke. Umsebenzi unendlela yokungenisa isikhathi sakho ongekho kuso, uhlu lwemisebenzi okudingeka uyenze alupheli, futhi ukugcina impilo yezenhlalo ngaphezu kwakho konke okunye kunzima, ukusho okuncane. Zonke lezi zinto zibalulekile, kepha ukuchitha isikhathi sekhwalithi noshade naye kubalulekile. Noma ngabe ukhetha ukuphuma nosuku noma unesikhathi senu ekhaya, sebenzisa leso sikhathi ukuze nihlanganyele omunye nomunye. Ungasebenzisi isikhathi ukwaba amaqiniso ngeviki lakho, kodwa nemizwa yakho ngezinto. Yiba nomunye komunye nomunye ngokwamukela, ukuphana emibonweni yakho, nangokuzimisela ukulalela. Njengoba uphelelisa inqubo, ungeza izinto eziphakathi kuphazili yakho. Kanye iphazili enezikhala ezingekho, kuzoba isiqeshana esihle sobuciko.