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- Uyini umshado wesivumelwano?
- Imininingwane ebalulekile ngesivumelwano somshado
- Izindlela eziqinile zesehlukaniso
- Idivosi isavumelekile
- Izizathu ezingeziwe zokwehlukana
- Ukuguqukela Emshadweni Wesivumelwano
- Ukuzibophezela okusha emshadweni
- Imishado yesivumelwano yokuqinisa imishado nemindeni
- Izinzuzo
Uma ungowokudabuka e-Arizona, eLouisiana, nase-Arkansas lapho-ke ungahle ujwayelane negama lesivumelwano somshado kepha uma usanda kuthutha noma uhlela ukuthuthela kwesinye salezi zifundazwe, leli gama lingaba lisha kuwe. Isivumelwano somshado siphinde sethulwe eBhayibhelini kaningi njengendlela yokuchaza umshado ngakho-ke uhluke kanjani umshado wesivumelwano nomshado ojwayelekile sonke esiwaziyo?
Uyini umshado wesivumelwano?
Isivumelwano somshado ebhayibhelini sasiyisisekelo somshado wesivumelwano owaqala ukuguqulwa ngo-1997 owedlule yiLouisana. Kusuka egameni uqobo lwalo, linikeza inani eliqinile esivumelwaneni somshado ukuze kuzoba nzima ngemibhangqwana ukumane iqede imishado yayo. Ngalesi sikhathi, isehlukaniso besesivame kakhulu kangangokuba kungenzeka sinciphise ubungcwele bomshado ngakho-ke lena yindlela yabo yokuqinisekisa ukuthi umbhangqwana ngeke unqume ngokungazelelwe ukuhlukanisa ngaphandle kwesizathu esizwakalayo nesivumayo.
Incazelo yomshado wesivumelwano engcono kunazo zonke yisivumelwano somshado esiqinile lapho umbhangqwana uvuma ukusayina ngaphambi kokuba ushade. Kufanele basamukele isivumelwano somshado esithembisa ukuthi bobabili abashadile bazokwenza konke okusemandleni ukusindisa umshado futhi bayavuma ukuthi bobabili bazokwelulekwa ngaphambi komshado ngaphambi kokushada futhi uma kukhona abangahlangabezana nezinkinga, bazovuma ukuhambela nokubhalisela ukwelashwa komshado ukuze umshado usebenze.
Isehlukaniso asikhuthazwa neze emshadweni onjalo kepha kusengenzeka uma kubhekwa izimo zodlame, ukuhlukunyezwa, nokushiywa.
Imininingwane ebalulekile ngesivumelwano somshado
Olunye ulwazi olubalulekile ukuze ujwayele ngaphambi kokucabanga ngalokhu:
Izindlela eziqinile zesehlukaniso
Abashadikazi abazokhetha umshado onjalo bazovuma ukuboshwa yimithetho emi-2 ehlukile eyile:
o Abashadayo bazofuna ngokusemthethweni ukwelulekwa ngaphambi komshado nangasemshadweni uma kuvela izinkinga phakathi nomshado; futhi
Izithandani zizofuna kuphela isicelo sesehlukaniso sokungabi nalutho kwelayisense yabo yomshado wesivumelwano ngokuya ngezizathu ezinomkhawulo nezisebenzayo kuphela.
Idivosi isavumelekile
Isehlukaniso sivunyelwe ngesivumelwano somshado kodwa imithetho yabo iqinile futhi izovumela kuphela umlingani ukuthi afake isehlukaniso ngaphansi kwezimo ezithile:
- Ukuphinga
- Ikhomishini yecala elibi
- Ukuhlukunyezwa kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo kumlingani noma ezinganeni zabo
- Lo mbhangqwana uhlale ngokwehlukana isikhathi esingaphezu kweminyaka emibili
- Izidakamizwa noma okunye ukusetshenziswa kabi kwezidakamizwa
Izizathu ezingeziwe zokwehlukana
Imibhangqwana ingafaka futhi isehlukaniso ngemuva kwesikhathi esithile sokuhlukaniswa kanti abashadile abasahlali ndawonye futhi abakucabangi ukubuyisana eminyakeni emibili edlule noma ngaphezulu.
Ukuguqukela Emshadweni Wesivumelwano
Imibhangqwana eshadile engazange ikhethe lolu hlobo lomshado ingakhetha ukubhalisela ukuguqulwa ibe munye kepha ngaphambi kokuba lokhu kwenzeke, ngokufanayo neminye imibhangqwana ebhalisile, idinga ukuvumelana ngezimo futhi kufanele ihambele i-pre Ukwelulekwa ngomshado.
Qaphela ukuthi izwe lase-Arkansas alikhiphi okusha isitifiketi somshado wesivumelwano imibhangqwana eguqukayo.
Ukuzibophezela okusha emshadweni
Izifungo zomthetho wesivumelwano nemithetho kuhlose into eyodwa - lokho kumisa inkambiso yesehlukaniso lapho yonke imibhangqwana ehlangabezana nezilingo ikhetha isehlukaniso njengomkhiqizo othengwe esitolo ongabuyela futhi uwushintshe. Lolu hlobo lomshado lungcwele futhi kufanele luphathwe ngenhlonipho enkulu.
Imishado yesivumelwano yokuqinisa imishado nemindeni
Ngenxa yokuthi kunzima ukuthola isehlukaniso, bobabili abashadile maningi amathuba okuba bafune usizo nokwelulekwa okwenza bakwazi ukulungisa noma yiziphi izinkinga emshadweni. Lokhu kubonakale kusebenza ngempumelelo njengoba inani lemibhangqwana ebhalise ngalolu hlobo lomshado lahlala ndawonye isikhathi eside.
Izinzuzo
Uma ubuzwa ukuthi ngabe ufuna ukubhalisela inketho yomshado ojwayelekile noma umshado wesivumelwano, ungazithola udidekile ngomehluko futhi-ke, ungafuna ukwazi izinzuzo zalolu hlobo lomshado. Nawa amaphuzu okufanele ucatshangelwe:
- Ngokungafani nemishado yendabuko, le mishado idikibala isehlukaniso ngoba kuwukungahloniphi okusobala esivumelwaneni somshado. Sonke siyazi ukuthi lapho sibopha ifindo likasofasilahlane, lokhu nje asikwenzi ngenxa yobumnandi nokuthi uma ungasathandi okwenzeka emshadweni wakho ongasifaka ngokushesha isehlukaniso. Umshado awulona ihlaya futhi yilokhu izinhlobo ezinje zemishado ezifuna ukuthi izithandani zikuqonde.
- Uthola ithuba lokulungisa izinto zibe ngcono. Ngisho nangaphambi kokuba ushade, usuvele kudingeka ukuthi uye kokwelulekwa ngaphambi komshado ukuze wazi vele ukuthi uzifaka kuphi. Izeluleko ezimbalwa ezinhle zokwelulekwa ngaphambi komshado sezingakha isisekelo esiqinile sempilo yakho yasemshadweni.
- Lapho ubhekene nezinkinga nezilingo, esikhundleni sokukhetha isehlukaniso, lezi zithandani zingenza konke okusemandleni azo ukulungisa izinto. Ngabe lowo mshado awukona nje ukuzama ukuthola okuhle kakhulu kumlingani wakho? Ngakho-ke ohambweni lwakho lomshado, unikezwa ithuba lokuba ngcono ndawonye futhi nibone ukuthi ungakhula kanjani nomlingani wakho.
- Ihlose ukuqinisa imindeni. Kuhloswe ukufundisa imibhangqwana eshadile ukuthi umshado ubumbano olungcwele futhi noma ngabe izilingo zinzima kangakanani, wena noshade naye kufanele nisebenzisane ukuze nibe ngcono nina nomndeni wakho.
Ukuqonda umshado kubaluleke kakhulu. Umshado uyisivumelwano esingcwele esakha ubumbano lwesikhathi sokuphila phakathi kwendoda nenkosikazi lapho izilingo zinqotshwa khona ngokuxhumana, inhlonipho, uthando nomzamo. Noma ngabe ukhetha ukubhalisela umshado wesivumelwano noma cha, inqobo nje uma wazi ukubaluleka komshado futhi ngeke usebenzise isehlukaniso njengendlela elula yokuphuma, lapho-ke usukulungele ngempela impilo yakho yomshado.