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- 1. Ukwamukela nokuvuma
- 2. Nqamula ukuxhumana kuwe ex
- 3. Yenza ukuthula nesikhala
- 4. Khuluma nabangane abaseduze nomndeni
- 5. Cha ‘kuthiwani uma’
- 6. Yamukela ukuthi nisathandana
- 7. Qala ukuzithanda
- 8. Joyina iqembu lokusekela
Abantu bavame ukukhuluma ngobuhle bokuba sebudlelwaneni, kepha ababaningi abakhuluma ngokuthi ungaqhubeka kanjani ukusuka ebudlelwaneni.
Sonke sihlose ukuba nobuhlobo obuhlala isikhathi eside, noma kunjalo, izinto azihlali njalo njengoba siphupha, akunjalo? Kufika isikhathi lapho umuntu enobudlelwano obunobuthi noma obubi.
Kubalulekile ukuthi usuke ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi bese uqala impilo kabusha.
Akulula neze ukudlulela ebudlelwaneni obubi uma usuthuthukise ubuhlobo bomunye umuntu. Okubalwe ngezansi ezinye zezindlela ezibalulekile zokuhamba usheshe kusuka ebudlelwaneni.
Ungamukela kanjani futhi uqhubekele phambili usuka ebudlelwaneni?
1. Ukwamukela nokuvuma
Lapho isimo sifika ekuqhubekeni nobudlelwano obudlule, iningi labantu lehluleka ngoba lenqaba ukwamukela nokuvuma ukuphela kothando phakathi kwabo.
Ngokushesha ukwamukela ukuphela kobudlelwano, kuzoba lula kakhulu ukuthi uqhubeke. Awukwazi ukuqala into entsha ngaphandle kokuthi ubeke ukuphela okufanele ebudlelwaneni obudlule.
Ngakho-ke, yamukela ukuphela kobudlelwano. Beka umthwalo bese uhlela inkambo yakho elandelayo yokusebenza. Khumbula, impilo ayipheli ngokuhlukana, kuthatha ikhefu nje. Kunokuningi okusazokwenzeka.
2. Nqamula ukuxhumana kuwe ex
Uma ucabanga ukuthi ungaba umngane ne-ex yakho, ngabe wenza iphutha.
Akulula njengoba kubonakala. Ngaphandle kwalokho, lezi zimo zibukeka zizinhle ezikrinini ezinkulu. Empilweni yangempela, ukuba ngumngane we-ex kuyiphutha elikhulu.
Indlela enhle yokuqhubeka empilweni nokungcwaba okwedlule ngukuqeda isahluko, ngokuphelele. Ngakho-ke, sika ukuxhumana kwakho ne-ex yakho bese ugxila ezintweni ezibalulekile kuwe. Okwamanje uqala ukugxila ezintweni ezibalulekile, uzobona izinkumbulo ezedlule ziphela.
3. Yenza ukuthula nesikhala
Ukuqhubeka nobudlelwano besikhathi eside kubuhlungu. Ekufuneni ukuthi ungaqhubeka kanjani nobudlelwano, umuntu kufanele afunde ukugcwalisa isikhala ngento ethile yokudala nebalulekile.
Uma uhlala nomuntu isikhathi eside, ukungabikho kwakhe kuzoshiya umthelela ojulile empilweni yakho. Nakanjani uzizwa ungekho futhi kuzokukhathaza uma ungawuthathi esikhundleni somsebenzi othile noma umkhuba osanda kwakhiwa.
Ngakho-ke, ukuqhubekela phambili, yenza ukuthula nokungabi nalutho, kwamukele, futhi ukugcwalise ngemikhuba ethokozisayo neyashintsha impilo.
4. Khuluma nabangane abaseduze nomndeni
Iphutha elivame ukwenziwa umuntu ekutheni aqhubeke kanjani nobudlelwano bagcina imizwa yabo igcwele ngaphakathi.
Lokhu akuyona into efanele ukwenziwa. Uma udabukile noma uzizwa ukhungathekile ngokomzwelo, khuluma. Kubalulekile ukuthi wabelane ngemizwa nemicabango yakho nabangane bakho abaseduze, noma nomndeni wakho.
Lapho uzokhuluma ngokuwohloka kwakho kwemizwa, ubuyozwa ukukhanya ngaphakathi. Lokhu kuzokhipha noma imiphi imicabango emibi ejwayelekile eza ngemuva kokuhlukana.
5. Cha ‘kuthiwani uma’
Ukuhlukaniswa kokuthunyelwe, kujwayelekile ukuthi usibuyekeze kabusha sonke isimo.
Ngemuva kwalokho, kufika isikhathi lapho umuntu angena kumodi ethi 'kuthiwani uma'. Kule modi, kungenzeka ukuthi uphinde ubuke sonke isiqephu bese ucabanga ngazo zonke izixazululo ezingaba khona ezingamisa ukwahlukana noma ebezishintshe inkambo yobudlelwano.
Lokhu kuyaphazamisa futhi kushiya umthelela omubi ohlala isikhathi eside, kungavumeli umuntu ukuthi abheke izinketho zokuthi aqhubeke kanjani nobudlelwano. Ngakho-ke, yeka ukuhlola isimo kabusha futhi uyeke ukucabanga ukuthi 'kuthiwani uma'.
6. Yamukela ukuthi nisathandana
Uthandile umuntu ngokujulile ngakho kuzoba nzima ukulungisa konke; empeleni akunakwenzeka ukonakalisa lezo zinkumbulo ezinhle. Ukuqhubeka nobudlelwano lapho usathandana nomlingani wakho yisimo esinzima kakhulu.
Isixazululo sokuqala sendlela yokululama ukwamukela ukuthi usathandana nabo. Kamuva, lamukele iqiniso lokuthi abasakuthandi.
Yenza ukuthula nesimo lapho ubudlelwano bakho nabo bungeke bukhule futhi kuhle ukuthi uyiqede.
7. Qala ukuzithanda
Lokhu kuzwakala kulula kepha kunzima impela. Yonke le minyaka ububeka ukubaluleka kumuntu omthandayo.
Lapho ngokuzumayo sebephumile empilweni yakho, ubuyozwa ubuhlungu bese uqala ukuzibeka icala ngayo yonke into. Ungaqala ukungazinaki futhi ungaba uhlobo olubi kakhulu ngokwakho.
Esikhundleni salokho, qala ukugxila kuwe bese uvela njengomuntu ohlukile.
Zinakekele ngokuphelele ubuntu bakho nokubukeka kwakho. Lokhu kuzogcina ukuzethemba kuphila futhi uzozithola usesimweni esingcono kunangaphambili.
8. Joyina iqembu lokusekela
Uma ufuna isisombululo sokuthi ungaqhubeka kanjani nobudlelwano, ukujoyina iqembu lokusekelwa kuyasiza.
Kunabantu abadlule esimweni esifanayo esikhathini esithile empilweni yabo futhi bazikhipha ngempumelelo kuso. Uma ucabanga ukuthi ubandakanyeka ngokujulile kuyo, iqembu lokusekela lizokusiza kakhulu.
Kukhona abantu abanomqondo ofanayo nokuzizwa futhi nakanjani bazokusiza ukunqoba lokhu kubuyiselwa emuva.