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- Khuluma ngokulindelekile
- Funda ukuthi ungaxazulula kanjani izinkinga
- Yakha futhi ugcine ukuxhumana okusebenzayo
- Xoxani ngezimali zomshado endaweni ephephile
- Vulela ngokwengeziwe ukwelashwa
- Phepha kunokuzisola
- Ukwelulekwa kwabantu abasanda kushada kubalulekile emshadweni ojabulisayo
Usuku lomshado ngolunye lwezinsuku ezijabulisa kakhulu empilweni yabashadikazi. Izinsuku nezinyanga ezilandela usuku lomshado nazo zigcwele injabulo nentokozo njengoba abashadikazi bejabulela isikhathi sangemva komshado.
Ukwelapha imibhangqwana yabantu abasanda kushada ngokuvamile kuyinto yokugcina ezingqondweni zabantu abashadayo maduze.
Imibhangqwana eminingi ibheka ukwelashwa kwezithandani njengesixazululo sokugcina lapho kunezinkinga zomshado. Kodwa-ke, ukwelashwa kwemibhangqwana kungavimbela ngempumelelo izinkinga zomshado uma kulandelwa ekuqaleni komshado.
Njengoba ungena emshadweni nalowo ozoba umlingani naye empilweni, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi yiziphi izingqinamba ongazidingida ekwelashweni kwezithandani nokuthi ungafunda kanjani ukwakha ubunye obujabulisayo nomlingani wakho yize kukhona ukungaboni ngaso linye, izinkinga, ukushintsha izindima nezibopho.
Qhubeka ufunde ukuthola ukuthi yini ukwelashwa kwezithandani ezisanda kushada okulondolozile.
Khuluma ngokulindelekile
Abasanda kushada bangaba nokulindela okungokomzwelo, okocansi noma kwezezimali. Uma kungakhulunywa, okulindelwe kuba ukungafinyeleli futhi ukudumazeka kuqala ukukhula.
Umlingani ngamunye ungena ebudlelwaneni nokulindelwe okuthile.
Ekwelashweni kwezithandani kwabasanda kushada, abalingani bangabelana ngokwabo okulindelwe esimeni sokungathathi hlangothi nokungachemi.
Inhloso yokwelashwa kwemibhangqwana yabantu abasanda kushada ukwenza umlingani ngamunye akhulume ngokulindelwe abebengeke bakwazi ukukuxoxa kalula bebodwa.
Ngenkathi enikeza iseluleko esisebenzayo sokweluleka ngomshado, umelaphi angasiza oshade naye ngamunye ukuqonda okulindelwe omunye umlingani.
Ukwelapha imibhangqwana yabantu abasanda kushada kunikeza ithuba kubo bobabili abantu abangena emshadweni, ukusetha okulindelwe okungokoqobo futhi bangazizwa bekhungathekile kamuva.
Funda ukuthi ungaxazulula kanjani izinkinga
Ukufunda ukuxazulula izinkinga emshadweni kungasiza kakhulu ekukhuleni kobuhlobo. Akungabazeki ukuthi izinkinga zizofika. Kuyinganekwane ukuthi umbhangqwana ojabulayo ngeke ube nezinkinga noma ukungaboni ngaso linye.
Ngezikhathi ezithile, nakanjani uzophikisana nomlingani wakho. Phakathi kokungezwani nokungqubuzana, imizwa iphezulu futhi intukuthelo ingakha udonga oluzovimba abashadikazi ukuthi baqhubekele phambili.
Ukwelashwa kwemibhangqwana yabantu abasanda kushada kungakufundisa wena noshade naye indlela yokubhekana nokungaboni ngaso linye futhi nifundise bobabili abalingani inqubo yokuthola isixazululo esiphumelelayo.
Iphinde idale ithuba lokufunda ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nemizwa yemvelo nokuthi ungalubonisa kanjani uthando kumlingani wakho ngesikhathi sokungezwani.
Yakha futhi ugcine ukuxhumana okusebenzayo
Izeluleko ezisemqoka zomshado kwabasanda kushada ukugcina ukuxhumana ngemishado okunempilo.
Ukukhulumisana okungafanele kuyisisekelo sezinkinga eziningi emshadweni. Izeluleko ezibalulekile kwabasanda kushada zifaka ukufunda nokwenza ngcono ukuxhumana komshado okusebenzayo.
Ukuxhumana okusebenzayo kudinga ukulalela nokuqonda okushiwo omunye umuntu. Ngeshwa, lapho imizwa iphakama, umlingani ngamunye uvame ukuba nentshisekelo yokuvikela intshisekelo yakhe futhi akakwazi ukuzwa ukuthi omunye uzama ukuxhumana nani.
Ekwelashweni kwezithandani ezisanda kushada, umelaphi anganikeza izithandani ezisanda kushada izeluleko ngomshado namathuluzi asebenzayo okuthi angaxhumana kanjani futhi anciphise isidingo sokulunga ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Xoxani ngezimali zomshado endaweni ephephile
Ukuntuleka kokuhambisana kwezezimali kungesinye sezibikezelo ezinkulu zezingxabano zomshado phakathi kwezithandani.
Ngesikhathi sokwelashwa kwemibhangqwana yabantu abasanda kushada, ungaxoxa ngemikhuba yakho yezezimali, uyeke noma ikuphi okubekiwe mayelana nezibopho zezezimali, wabelane ngezinhloso zesikhashana zesikhashana nezesikhathi eside, futhi wenze nemithetho eyisisekelo yokulinganisela ubunye nokuzimela ezindabeni zemali emshadweni.
Buka umphathi wezimali ekhuluma ngokwabelana ngezinhloso njengezithandani nokuthi nizihlanganisa kanjani izimali ngemuva komshado:
Vulela ngokwengeziwe ukwelashwa
Kwesinye isikhathi abantu emshadweni bayaphikisana nokwelashwa komshado. Ngezizathu ezahlukahlukene, oyedwa noma bobabili abalingani bayokwenqaba ukuya ekwelashweni lapho umshado ubhekene nezinkinga ezingaxazululeki.
Ngokujabulisayo njalo ngemuva kuthatha umsebenzi onzima onzima.
Bephethe izeluleko ezinhle impela kubantu abasanda kushada, imibhangqwana ingafunda ukugcina isibopho sothando phakathi kwabo, kungakhathalekile ukuthi kunaziphi izingqinamba eziphonswe indlela yabo.
Ngakho-ke, yisiphi iseluleko sokugcina sokuthi umbhangqwana osanda kushada uqale ngonyawo lwesokudla?
Esinye sezeluleko ezinhle kakhulu kubantu abasanda kushada ukuya ekwelashweni kwezithandani kwabasanda kushada ukuze bazazi bona kanye nabalingani babo kangcono. Lokhu kubenza bakwazi ukubhekana nezinselelo zezigaba ezehlukene zomshado, baqonde ukuthi ubudlelwane babo busengakhula kanjani lapho izingxabano zomshado zingena.
Umbhangqwana osanda kushada oqala umshado wawo ngokwelashwa uzokuthola kalula injongo nokubaluleka kule nqubo futhi uzobe evuleke kakhudlwana ukuwuphokophela phambili ebudlelwaneni lapho kudingeka.
Phepha kunokuzisola
Iseluleko esibalulekile somshado kubantu abasanda kushada ukuthi ngaso sonke isikhathi kungcono ukuphepha kunokuzisola nokuvikela kungcono kunokwelapha.
Ukwelashwa kwabantu abashadile kungalandelwa isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuba kuvele izinkinga zomshado futhi umshado uzoba nesisekelo esiqinile.
Ngesikhathi sokwelashwa kwezithandani, uzothola izeluleko ezinhle kakhulu zomshado kwabasanda kushada ngezimali zomshado, ukuzibophezela, ukulawula imizwa, kanye nezocansi. Ngesikhathi sokwelashwa kwezithandani, uzothola izeluleko eziwusizo emibhangqwaneni esanda kushada ukugwema noma ukunqoba noma yiziphi izinkinga ezingaba khona enkambweni ende yomshado.
Ukwelulekwa kwabantu abasanda kushada kubalulekile emshadweni ojabulisayo
Noma ngabe ufuna amathiphu omshado wabasanda kushada noma ufuna ukubuzana imibuzo ebalulekile mayelana nokukhulisa izingane ngokuzayo, umndeni, abangani, ukuxhumana, imithetho eyisisekelo yokuphatha ikhaya - ukwelashwa kwabashadikazi kukunikeza ibalazwe lomgwaqo lokwakha umshado onempilo.
Izinselelo zizohlala zikhona emshadweni wakho. Ungathatha isinyathelo sokubhekana nalezi zinkinga ngempumelelo ngokwelulekwa ngomshado kwabasanda kushada. Makube yithuluzi lakho lokugcina lokugcina ubuhlobo obunempilo.