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- Lithini ibhayibheli ngentukuthelo emshadweni?
- Ungabhekana kanjani nentukuthelo ebudlelwaneni
- Ukuthatha usizo lochwepheshe
- Ukubhekana nentukuthelo ebudlelwaneni: ukuphatha okubangela
- Ulaka lwami lonakalisa ubuhlobo bami, ngenzenjani?
- Ukuqonda okuthakazelisayo
Ngisho nemibhangqwana ejabule kakhulu ikhuthazelela izingxabano ngoba nje ukungavumelani kuyingxenye yobudlelwano obuhle kakhulu. Njengoba izingxabano nentukuthelo emshadweni wakho kuyinto elindelekile, kubalulekile ukuthi ufunde ukubhekana nakho ukuze ubudlelwano buchume futhi bukhuthazelele.
Into eyodwa edinga ukubhekelwa njalo emshadweni yintukuthelo. Kungasabisa, kepha intukuthelo ayibi njalo. Imvamisa kuyindlela nje yokukhanyisa izinkinga. Ngaphandle kwentukuthelo, izifo eziningi emhlabeni bezingeke zilungiswe noma zilungiswe.
Kunezindlela ezimbili ezingasebenzi kahle abantu ababhekana ngazo nentukuthelo. Abanye abantu bayaqhuma futhi baveze intukuthelo yabo ngenkathi abanye beyicindezela. Ukuqhuma kungaholela emazwini alimazayo angaholela ekulimaleni kobudlelwano besikhathi eside. Ngasohlangothini lwe-flip, ukucindezela intukuthelo emshadweni wakho kungadala ukucasuka, nakho okungalimaza ubudlelwano.
Lithini ibhayibheli ngentukuthelo emshadweni?
Kunezaga namahubo amaningi eBhayibhelini akhuluma ngokulawulwa kwentukuthelo. IzAga 25:28; I-29: 11 ikhuluma ngokwazi izingozi zentukuthelo ezingalawuleki ngenkathi iZaga 17:14 ithi "Ngaphambi kokuba kuqhume ingxabano, hamba". Ngakho-ke ngokuyisisekelo lapho nibona ukuthi ukungqubuzana phakathi kwenu nobabili kuphenduka impi, thatha nje ikhefu ukuze wehlise umoya futhi ucabange kabusha okungahambanga kahle kunokuthethisana
Uma ukukhathazeka kwakho kumayelana nokuthi “intukuthelo yami ilimaza ubuhlobo bami” khona-ke izAga 19:11 zibonisa indlela: “Ukuqonda komuntu ngokuqinisekile kubambezela intukuthelo yakhe.” Ngakho-ke zama ukuthola ukuqonda okuthile ngaphambi kokwenza iziphetho ngalesi simo.
Futhi, ngokusho kwabaseKolose 3: 13-14:
“Bekezelelanani futhi nithethelelane uma noma ubani kini enesikhalazo ngothile. Thethelela njengoba iNkosi yakuthethelela. Futhi phezu kwazo zonke lezi zimfanelo gqoka uthando, olubabopha bonke ndawonye ebunyeni obuphelele. ”
Ngempela, ukuphathwa kwentukuthelo ebudlelwaneni kudinga ukubekezela okukhulu kanye nokukwazi ukuthethelela umlingani. Ukubambelela entukuthelweni emshadweni wakho kwenza ubudlelwano bube muncu futhi kwesinye isikhathi kudala izingqinamba zentukuthelo ebudlelwaneni obungase bungalawuleki ngokuzayo.
Ungabhekana kanjani nentukuthelo ebudlelwaneni
Indlela enempilo yokulawula ulaka emshadweni wakho ukufunda ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nesizathu sentukuthelo yakho ngaphandle kokulimaza ubuhlobo bakho noma wena ngokwakho.
Intukuthelo ingazizwa sengathi iyimizwa engalawuleki, kodwa iningi lethu liyakwazi ukuyilawula. Wake wahlangabezana nesimo lapho wawuthukuthele kakhulu waze wazizwa sengathi ungaqhuma nganoma yisiphi isikhathi? Kwathi kungazelelwe, wathola ucingo luvela kothile ongahlobene nomthombo wentukuthelo yakho. Ngokumangazayo, kungakapheli umzuzwana ohlukene, ucingo luyakuthoba futhi intukuthelo yakho iyaphela.
Uma wake wazithola ukuleso simo, lapho-ke ungakwazi ukulawula ulaka lwakho - kungahle kube nzima, kepha usunamathuluzi athile. Uma ungeke ukwazi ukuhlobana nomphumela wokushaya ucingo okungahleliwe, khona-ke kungenzeka ukuthi unomsebenzi ojulile okufanele uwenze lapho uthukuthele. Ukubhekana nentukuthelo emshadweni akuyona into engenakwenzeka. Ukubekezela kuyisihluthulelo.
Ukuthatha usizo lochwepheshe
Ukuthatha usizo lochwepheshe ukuphatha ulaka nentukuthelo ebudlelwaneni kuyinto ongase ungayibheki ekuqaleni kepha ukuthatha usizo lochwepheshe akufanele kube yinto engabazeki. Kungaba wusizo olukhulu ukusebenza nochwepheshe oqeqeshiwe ukukusiza ufunde ukulawula intukuthelo yakho ngokweseka umshado wakho.
Ukunqoba ulaka nentukuthelo emshadweni kudinga umsebenzi omningi kubandakanya ukwenza ngcono ukuxhumana nokushintsha imikhuba ethile noma umbono womuntu ngezinto ezithile. Kwesinye isikhathi, umelaphi angasiza umbhangqwana ukufezekise kalula lokhu.
Ukubhekana nentukuthelo ebudlelwaneni: ukuphatha okubangela
Ukuze ubhekane nentukuthelo nentukuthelo emshadweni, udinga ukubheka kahle ukuthi yini ebanga oshade naye nokuthi yini ekucindezelayo. Ukususa noma ukubhekana nalezi zinto ezibangela intukuthelo emshadweni wakho kungakusiza ekunqobeni intukuthelo ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Kwabanye kungaba yinto elula njengemisebenzi yasendlini, ukuzihlalela nabangane noma okuthile okuyinkimbinkimbi njengokulawula ezezimali njengombhangqwana.
Kunoma ikuphi, ukulawula ulaka emshadweni kuyinto edinga ukubhekana nayo ngokushesha okukhulu. Ukubhekana nentukuthelo ebudlelwaneni nesiqingatha sakho esingcono, noma-ke, ukubhekana nezinkinga zentukuthelo kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo, kudinga ukuthi uzicabange usezicathulweni zomunye umuntu futhi babheke ndawonye isimo ukuthola isixazululo hhayi nje ukufakazela ukuthi ngubani olungile.
Ulaka lwami lonakalisa ubuhlobo bami, ngenzenjani?
Uma usuthole ukuthi intukuthelo yakho isiyinkinga enkulu ebudlelwaneni bakho, leso yisinyathelo sokuqala sokwenza ngcono. Izingqinamba zentukuthelo emshadweni zingalawulwa yibo bobabili abalingani kodwa ekugcineni kubila ekutheni ungakanani umsebenzi ozimisele ukuwenza nsuku zonke.
Uma ukuthukuthela emshadweni wakho kufaka ubuthi ebudlelwaneni bakho, kufanele bhekana namaphuzu akho abuthakathaka futhi uhlole ukuthi uthukuthelele yini oshade naye ngamaphutha abo noma awakho.
Intukuthelo yomyeni wami imosha umshado wethu ...
Uma ufuna isisombululo salesi simo, ungapheli amandla. Kunengqondo noma kungenangqondo, intukuthelo enjalo ingaba yingozi kakhulu kuwe ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Ukuhlalisana nomuntu ongena ebangeni elilinganayo noma okukhombisa intukuthelo ngendlela yokwenziwa kungaba nzima.
Manje iyiphi indlela engcono yokulawula ulaka lomyeni wakho? Ukubonisana naye kungenye into, ukuziguqula kungenye indlela yokuphatha intukuthelo emshadweni wakho. Kepha uma konke kwehluleka futhi izinto zingaphezu kwamandla, unganqikazi ukuthinta umuntu othembekile. Lokhu kungaba ngumuntu othile emndenini, umngane, umakhelwane noma owelapha.
Ukuqonda okuthakazelisayo
Ngokuya kwesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uDkt Herb Goldberg, imibhangqwana kufanele iphathe ngeziqalo ezinzima ebudlelwaneni ngoba iba ngcono kamuva. Ucwaningo lwaseFlorida State luyakusekela lokhu. Kutholile ukuthi imibhangqwana ekwaziyo ukuveza intukuthelo ngokusobala ekuqaleni kobudlelwano ihlala ijabule esikhathini eside esizayo.
Izinkinga zentukuthelo emshadweni zingalawulwa ngokuzisingatha ngendlela ebonakalayo ngenkathi nenza isikhathi esithe xaxa somunye nomunye futhi nithatha izimpi zenu ngokuhlakanipha. Akukho lutho uthando oluncane olungakwazi ukuluxazulula.