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- Kungani kufanele ube nengxoxo ngocansi
- Kungani kunama-taboo nobunzima obungaka?
- 1. Vele ukwenze
- 2. Kubeke kahle futhi uzwakalise ukubonga
- 3. Kubhale phansi
- 4. Thola okubonakalayo ngombukiso bese utshela
- Okufanele ukwenze lapho umlingani wakho engafuni ukukulalela
- Ngena ebhizinisini!
Besingabiza le ndatshana ngokuthi “Yenza le nto eyodwa ebudlelwaneni bakho ukuyisindisa” kepha lokho bekungathathwa ngokuthi yi-‘cbabait ’.
Esikhundleni salokho, besicabanga ukuthi kungahle kube nemibhangqwana embalwa enenkinga yokuzama ukwenza le nto eyodwa futhi esikhundleni salokho yakhetha isihloko leyo mibhangqwana engayichaza; ukuthi ungaba kanjani nengxoxo ngocansi ubudlelwano bakho obungabudinga kakhulu!
Iqonde ngqo futhi ayikho ubuqili - isibonelo esihle sokuthi ingxoxo yakho nomlingani wakho mayelana nezimpilo zakho zocansi kufanele ibe kanjani.
Kule ndatshana, sikhanyise ngokuthi kungani kubalulekile ukuthi imibhangqwana ibe nengxoxo ngezocansi nokuthi ingayenza kanjani ngendlela efanele.
Ukwabelana ngokusondelana ngocansi kungenye yezinto ezijabulisa kakhulu emshadweni. Izitho zethu zobulili esizinikwe uNkulunkulu zinamandla amakhulu; basishayela ekuthokozeni lapho senza i-orgasm nokuxhumeka esingakwazi ukuzizwa ngenye indlela. Kodwa-ke, umthombo wayo yonke le njabulo uvame ukubhekwa njengesono.
Kungani kufanele ube nengxoxo ngocansi
Ukuqala ingxoxo ngocansi nomlingani wakho kungenye yezindlela ezinhle zokuqinisa amazinga akho okusondelana.
Ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside, abesilisa babheka ukwaneliseka kwezocansi komlingani wabo njengokuthile okubanelisa ngokwabo, kuphinde kuqinisekise ubudoda babo, futhi kukhulise nokuzethemba kwabo.
Ngaphandle kwezinzuzo ezinhle zokukhuluma ngezocansi ebudlelwaneni, umphumela wokuhlola abantu abangaphezu kwe-1 000 abavela e-US nase-Europe bathole ukuthi abantu abahloliwe nje abakhulumi neze ngempilo yabo yezocansi.
Kungani kunama-taboo nobunzima obungaka?
Kucwaningo olufanayo, izizathu ezijwayelekile zokuthi kungani abantu bengakhulumi ngempilo yabo yezocansi bezikhona.
- “Bengingafuni ukulimaza imizwa yozakwethu.”
- Nganginamahloni kakhulu. ”
- "Bengisaba umphumela wengxoxo."
Isizathu esiphezulu sikukhumbula kahle okunye, kepha-ke, lapho omunye esothandweni, akufanele yini kube nezinga lokuthembana elisungulwe yizithandani?
Lokhu kulahlekelwa ukwethembana ngandlela thile kuvela futhi ngesizathu sesithathu sokuthi kungani imibhangqwana ingabi nezingxoxo ngezocansi futhi isizathu sesibili sibonakala njengesibonakaliso sokushoda kokuxhumana phakathi kwezithandani.
Ukwenza ngendlela efanele
Uma ukhuluma ngezindaba zocansi ezikukhathazayo, kunezindlela eziningana zokwenza ngempumelelo (ayikho ipun ehlosiwe!):
1. Vele ukwenze
Lesi yisiqubulo esidume ngophawu lwezemidlalo oludumile, okuyiqiniso, oluyisililo esikhulu sempi.
Ukufuna ingxoxo engagunci, nokuhamba nje nayo, kungathandwa ngumlingani wakho.
Kwazi bani, okungathatha ingxoxo eyodwa engagunci ukuqala ukufudumeza izinto ekamelweni.
2. Kubeke kahle futhi uzwakalise ukubonga
Abantu bathanda ukwaziswa ngokujwayelekile. Isu elingasetshenziswa ukuveza izidingo zakho zocansi ukuzama ukuveza lezi zidingo ngokuzibeka kahle.
Esikhundleni sokuthi: “Ungakwazi ukwenza u-X kaningi?”
Zama ukukusho ngale ndlela: “Ngiyayithanda uma wenza u-X. Ngiyazisa kakhulu.”
Uma uhlola lezi zitatimende ezimbili, kukhona ushintsho olubonakalayo maqondana namandla ozama ukuwakhipha.
Okuhle kakhulu ngesitatimende sesibili ukuthi futhi ukhombisa ukubonga ngokuqondene nokuthile akwenzela khona umlingani wakho esikhundleni sokugxeka okumboziwe.
Ucwaningo lukhombisile ukuthi ukwaziswa ebudlelwaneni kuthakazelelwa kakhulu futhi kuthuthukisa ubudlelwano bokuthembana nobunempilo.
Phakathi kwezinzuzo zayo ukuthi isenzo esihle siyaqiniswa siphindwe kaningi.
3. Kubhale phansi
Enye indlela yokuxhumana ngempumelelo nezidingo zakho ukukwenza ‘i-la Shakespeare’ bese uyibhala phansi!
Uma uwuhlobo lozakwethu, ophumelela kakhulu lapho uxhumana ngokubhala cishe uzothola le ndlela ilula kakhulu. Kepha uma ukwenza ngale ndlela, qiniseka ukuthi ukhuluma ngokuzwakalayo nangokucacile.
4. Thola okubonakalayo ngombukiso bese utshela
Abanye ophathina basebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile okuncane, kungaba ezincwadini noma ngevidiyo, ukudlulisa lokho abafuna ukukwenza. Kodwa-ke, qaphela, ngoba okuncane kakhulu kwalezi zithombe zobulili ezingcolile kungahle kube nomthelela ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Okufanele ukwenze lapho umlingani wakho engafuni ukukulalela
Ukuxoxa ngesidingo sakho sobulili kubalulekile kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo, noma ngabe usuvele ushadile noma cha. Ngakho-ke, wenzani uma umlingani wakho ekhetha ukungakulaleli?
Ingcaphuno yothando eyintandokazi ka-Alfred Lord ithi, "'Kungcono ukuthanda nokulahleka kunokuthi ungakaze uthande nhlobo."
Qiniseka ukuthi wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukuxhumana nokudlulisa izidingo zakho ngemikhuba obekuzoqinisekisa impumelelo, kepha uma umlingani wakho ekhetha ukungakulaleli, mhlawumbe kungukushayela abezokuqinisa, owelapha ngezocansi.
Kubalulekile futhi ukulindela ukuthi akuyona yonke imicabango ezokwamukelwa kahle ngabalingani bethu. Ngemuva kwakho konke, singabantu abahlukile, futhi nakanjani sizoba nezifiso nezidingo ezihlukile.
Ukushayela umelaphi wezocansi noma umeluleki kungasiza ekuxhumaneni nezindaba ezibucayi kakhulu.
Ngena ebhizinisini!
Ngalo lonke ulwazi esilunikezwe ochwepheshe, sekuyisikhathi sokuthi wena nomlingani wakho nisebenzisane ngezici zocansi zobudlelwano benu ngokuqala ukukhuluma ngakho.
Ukuba nezifiso zobulili nemicabango kuyinto ejwayelekile ngokuphelele futhi akufanele kuthathwe njengokungekho emthethweni. Lapho uqala ukuxoxa ngalezi zidingo nomlingani wakho, wenza ubudlelwano bakho buqine, futhi umema umlingani wakho asondele.
Ukuxhumana okufanele kuzala amazinga okusondelana okunempilo futhi amazinga okusondelana aqinile asho impilo yocansi enempilo. Ngakho-ke, hamba uyokhuluma bese uya ebhizinisini. Zithokozise nomlingani wakho nizijabulise ngocansi.