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- Kuyini ukuphelela?
- Kwenzekani lapho ushade nomuntu ofuna ukuphelela?
- 1. Thola inkinga
- 2. Cabangela ukwelulekwa komuntu ngamunye kanye / noma komshado
- 3. Ukuxhumana kuyisihluthulelo
- 4. Yazi imingcele yakho
Isikhathi sokuqala lapho ngiphakamisa khona ukuthi iklayenti lifuna ukuphelela, imvamisa bakuthatha njengokuncoma. Bacabanga ukuthi kusho impumelelo, ukushayela nokuba ulunge ngokwanele. Ngokushesha bafunda ukuthi ukufuna ukuphelela akuyona imfanelo ewusizo kubo.
Kuyini ukuphelela?
Ukufuna ukuphelela kuvame ukubangelwa ukukhathazeka nokuntuleka kokwamukeleka. Isidingo sokuzwa ukuthi konke okwenzayo kuphelele kuholela emizweni eqhubekayo yokwehluleka. Kakade, ngubani phakathi kwethu ophelele? Ukufuna ukuphelela nakho kungaholela ekuyekeni, hhayi ukuzama imisebenzi emisha noma ukufunda amakhono amasha ngokwesaba ukwehluleka. Abanye abaphelelisi bakhetha ukungazami okuthile okusha ukuze bagweme ukwamukela ngokweqiniso amaphutha abo. Ukukhathazeka okuzungeze ukuphelela kungabakhathaza abanye. Abagulayo bangahle bahlaselwe ukwethuka, bacasuke futhi bacindezeleke. Imizamo yabo yokuphelela iyindlela yokulawula ukukhathazeka okubangelwa ukwehluleka. Kungaba yinselele enkulu kumuntu ofuna amaphutha ukubhekana nokulinganiselwa kwabo. Ukufuna ukuphelela kuvame ukudala izingxabano ebudlelwaneni obuzungezile. Umbuzo uba:
Kwenzekani lapho ushade nomuntu ofuna ukuphelela?
Lapho umuntu oyedwa ethinteka kalula ukwehluleka futhi enezindinganiso ezingezona ezingokoqobo kubo, lokhu okulindelwe kuvame ukusabalala kulabo ababazungezile.
Noma ngubani oshade nephutha, cabanga ngezindawo ezinengxabano phakathi kwakho nomlingani wakho.
- Ngabe uzizwa ugxekwa kaningi?
- Ingabe umlingani wakho uveza ukudumala kuwe njalo?
- Ingabe umlingani wakho ngandlela thile ulawula izindawo zempilo yakho ngoba abakuthembi ukuthi uzokwenza imisebenzi emazingeni abo?
Lokhu kungaba yizimpawu zokuthi umlingani wakho ubhekene nokukhathazeka okuhlobene nokunikezela ukulawula kuwe. Khumbula, ukufuna ukuphelela kubangelwa ukwesaba ukwehluleka futhi uma umlingani wakho engacabangi ukuthi ungaqedela umsebenzi ngokuphelele, kuzokhulisa ukukhathazeka kwabo. Ungaqophisana nomlingani wakho ngokukuvumela wenze izinto ngendlela yakho noma vele unikeze amandla okugwema ukungqubuzana ngokuphelele. Awekho kulawa masu angcono kakhulu kunoma ngubani kini isikhathi eside. Umlingani wakho angakhathala futhi akhungathekiswe yiyo yonke imisebenzi ephambi kwakhe futhi ungahle ucasuke ngokuziphatha kwabo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, labo abaphonsela inselelo umbono wokufuna ukuphelela bangathola ukungqubuzana kukhula ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kungekho sinqumo.
Lokhu kungabonakala njengesimo sokunganqobi kulabo abadlula kukho. Yini engenziwa ukubhekana nokuphelela kumuntu ngamunye nanjengombhangqwana?
Nawa amanye amathiphu wokukusiza ukuthi usethe imingcele futhi wehlise ukungqubuzana okuhlobene nokuphelela:
1. Thola inkinga
Asikwazi ukulungisa inkinga uma singazi ukuthi yini. Uma ngabe le ndatshana ihlangana nawe, maningi amathuba okuthi ukuphelela kuthinta ubuhlobo bakho. Uma usola ukuthi umlingani wakho unenkinga yokufuna ukuphelela, yiveze ngomusa nangobubele. Lapho wazi okwengeziwe ngodaba olusondele, kuzoba lula ukuthola isinyathelo esilandelayo.
2. Cabangela ukwelulekwa komuntu ngamunye kanye / noma komshado
Umphelelisi ebudlelwaneni uzodinga ukufunda amasu okubhekana nezinkinga ukuphatha ukukhathazeka kwabo nokwandisa ukuzethemba kwabo. Ukusebenza nochwepheshe onelayisense osebenza ngokukhathazeka kubaluleke kakhulu ekuthuthukiseni izinselelo ezikhona. Ukwelulekwa ngomshado kuvame ukuba wumqondo omuhle uma bobabili abalingani bengenaso isiqiniseko sokuthi bangakushintsha kanjani okwedlule ebuhlotsheni babo obudalwe ukuphelela. Umbono wangaphandle, wobuchwepheshe uyasiza kakhulu futhi kuyadingeka kaningi ukuqinisekisa ukuthi bobabili abalingani bayakwazi ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zomunye nomunye.
3. Ukuxhumana kuyisihluthulelo
Njengakuzo zonke izici zomshado, ukuxhumana okuthembekile nokucacile kungaba umehluko phakathi komshado oqinile noma onenkinga. Njengoba kungaba nzima ukuvula ngemiphumela yokupheleliswa, kubalulekile ukuthi bobabili abalingani bazwe ukuthi bangazwakala futhi baqinisekiswe. Ukuxhumana kungakha ukuqonda, uzwelo nenhlonipho phakathi kwabalingani. Qiniseka ukuthi uhlela isikhathi sokuxhumana okuvamile. Ukuba “nesikhathi” sokukhuluma masonto onke ngemuva kokuba izingane seziyolala kungaqinisekisa ukuthi uhlelo olumatasa alumi endleleni yokuxhumana okuhle.
4. Yazi imingcele yakho
Kumlingani oshade nomuntu ofuna ukuphelela, kubalulekile ukuthi ubambelele ezinkolelweni nasezindinganisweni zakho ngaphandle kokuthinteka kabi kumlingani wakho. Ungadinga ukwelulekwa ngazodwana ukuze ufunde leli khono. Lapho umlingani wakho ebucayi noma efuna ukuthatha umsebenzi ngoba ukukhathazeka kwakhe kukhulu kakhulu, bakhumbuze ngobumnene ukuthi ukukhathazeka kwabo kugcina kuphi nezinkolelo zakho ziqala. Ukuyekethisa kuyithuluzi elihle emshadweni, kepha ukunamathela ezibhamu zakho nakho kungaba njalo.
Ukusebenza ngokupheleliswa emshadweni ngokungangabazeki kuwumsebenzi onzima. Ngikholwa wukuthi lapho bobabili abalingani bezimisele ukwenza ubudlelwano busebenze, bangavela ezinseleleni zabo ngomshado oqinile, onempilo futhi ongenaphutha kunalokho abebengakulindela.