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- 1. Ukunikeza izingane indawo yokuqala
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- 2. Ukubona umyeni wami njengenye ingane
- 3. Ukungabeki imingcele nabasekhweni
- 4. Ukungafundi ukulwa ngokulungile
- 5. Ukufuna ukuphatha
- 6. Hhayi ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zokusondelana
- 7. Ungenzi umzamo wokubukeka kahle
Kuyini mayelana nawo wonke "umdlalo wokusola"? Kulula kakhulu ukuwela kulo mkhuba owonakalisayo futhi imvamisa njengabesifazane namakhosikazi singazithola sikhomba ngeminwe noma ngamehlo ethu evaliwe. Kepha uma sithatha isikhashana ukucabanga ngokucophelela futhi sithembeke ngempela, sizobona maduze ukuthi njengabafazi siyawenza amaphutha. Nazi ezinye ezivame kakhulu:
1. Ukunikeza izingane indawo yokuqala
Sonke siyazithanda izingane zethu; lokho kucacile. Kepha kungaba nenkinga lapho i-hubby iqhutshelwa eceleni ivuna abancane. Akuzukuthatha isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuba athole umyalezo wokuthi akasabalulekile uma uhlala ukhetha ukusebenzisa isikhathi namandla ezinganeni, ubeka izidingo zazo kunezakho nezakho. Khumbula, eminyakeni embalwa nje encane izingane zizokhula futhi zikhishwe ngaphandle kwesidleke bese wena nomyeni wakho nizoba bodwa futhi.
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2. Ukubona umyeni wami njengenye ingane
Isinyathelo esincane sokwehla emthambekeni ekubekeni izingane phambili ukuphatha umyeni wakho njengenye ingane. Akukho okungaba kude neqiniso. Mhlawumbe lokhu kukwenza uzizwe njengo "supermom" kepha akuhloniphi kakhulu owesilisa empeleni owazala izingane zakho. Akunandaba ukuthi amakhono endoda yakho yokuba umzali angahle entule kangakanani ngokombono wakho, ukumbona njengengane yakho yesibili noma yesithathu ngeke kuzilungise izindaba nhlobo. Kwesinye isikhathi isicathulo singaba kolunye unyawo unkosikazi aphathwe ngumyeni wakhe njengenye ingane ekhaya. Lokhu ngokuvamile kuyisibonakaliso sokuhlukumezeka futhi ngaphandle kokuthi kusombululwe kuvame ukuphela ngokungajabulisi.
3. Ukungabeki imingcele nabasekhweni
Abasekhweni bayisihloko esinempikiswano ngezikhathi ezinhle kakhulu. Uma imingcele eqinile ingabekwanga zisuka nje, kungonakala umonakalo omkhulu emshadweni. Khumbula, okokuqala nokubaluleke ukuthi nashada omunye nomunye hhayi imindeni yomunye nomunye. Yebo, imindeni nabazali bayohlala benendima ebaluleke kakhulu ezimpilweni zethu, kepha futhi banendawo yabo futhi akufanele bavunyelwe ukungena baphazamise izindawo zobumfihlo nokwenza izinqumo okufanele kube ngezabashadikazi bodwa.
4. Ukungafundi ukulwa ngokulungile
Ukuntuleka kwamakhono okusombulula izingxabano mhlawumbe kungezinye zezizathu zokuqala ukudilika kwemishado. Noma kungamatshe noma ukumemeza ngokungalawuleki noma zombili, lezi zinhlobo zokuziphatha zingonakalisa kakhulu kunoma imuphi umshado. Ukufunda ukulwa kahle kuyikhono elidinga ukucijwa ngokuzibophezela nangokuzimisela uma ufuna umshado wakho uphumelele. Kudinga isikhathi, umzamo nokuzimisela ezinhlangothini zombili ukuhlala nokukhuluma ebunzimeni, ngenhlonipho nangothando.
5. Ukufuna ukuphatha
Lesi sinzima - ngubani umphathi?! Imvamisa kuyizinto ezincane zansuku zonke (kanye nezinto ezinkulu) lapho thina bantu besifazane esivame ukubonakala silidinga lelo gama lokugcina. Kungani kunzima kangaka ukuvuma lapho engaba nomqondo ongcono? Ukube besingavele sibuyele emuva futhi sivumele leyo ndoda esishade nayo ukuthi yenze lezo zinqumo ezihlakaniphile okungenzeka ukuthi inekhono elikhulu kuzo singaba kuzimanga ezithile ezimnandi. Kufanele kukhunjulwe, umshado akuyona indawo yokuncintisana, kepha kunalokho ukuqedelana.
6. Hhayi ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zokusondelana
Lokhu kungazishintsha zombili izindlela, kepha ngokujwayelekile njengomfazi zingaba khona izikhathi emshadweni wakho, ikakhulukazi ngezingane ezincane, lapho uzizwa ukhathele impela. Into yokugcina ongazizwa ngayo ukwenza uthando, kuyilapho kumyeni wakho kungenzeka ukuthi kube yinto yokuqala. Ngaphandle kwesizathu, uma lokhu kuba yiphethini ejwayelekile yokungaguquguquki kwezidingo zakhe zokusondelana, kungasho ukufa kancane komshado wakho.
7. Ungenzi umzamo wokubukeka kahle
Ngemuva kweminyaka eminingana yomshado, kungaba lula ukuhlala enkambisweni entofontofo yokuvele udonse ingubo yokuqala nelula, uze uhlale kwi-pj's yakho yonke ekuseni uma ukwazi. Sonke siyazi ukuthi ubuhle bangaphakathi yibo obubaluleke kakhulu, kepha ungalibukeli phansi inani lokubukeka okuhle kakhulu nangaphandle. Le ngenye yezindlela zokubonisa inhlonipho kumuntu omthandayo, ukuthi uyikhathalela ngokwanele ukuze uzenze ubukeke umuhle kuye - futhi ezimweni eziningi uyaqiniseka ukuthi uyakwazisa.
Njengoba uqaphela, iningi lala maphutha achazwe ngenhla afaka "ukweqiwa" noma izinto ezinhle esingazenzanga, bese kuba khona futhi "namakhomishini" noma izinto ezilimazayo esizenzile. Ngakho-ke, umshado ungumsebenzi onzima futhi kudingeka sisebenze njalo ekwenzeni okungaphansi kwezinto ezilimazayo, nokuningi okusizayo. Uma ngabe kunesizathu esizwakalayo sokusebenza kanzima, kungumshado.