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- Lokhu futhi kuhamba ngenye indlela ezungeze
- Ungakhohlwa ukuthi ushada nomunye umndeni
- Nobabili kufanele niyenze isebenze
- Yilungele ukumangala
Esinye sezikhathi ezibaluleke kakhulu esizibonayo ezimpilweni zethu kulapho sishada, kepha yisiphi isikhathi esihle nesiphephe kunazo zonke sokushada?
Akumangalisi ukuthi iminyaka oshada ngayo ingahle ibike nesikhathi sokuthambekela kwesehlukaniso sakho. Inkolelo yokuthi ukushada kusenesikhathi nakho kuzoholela ekuhlukaniseni ngaphambi kwesikhathi kuye kwafundwa ososayensi bezenhlalo eminyakeni edlule, futhi umbiko owenziwe yi-Organisation for Economic Co-Operation kanye nentuthuko uyakuqinisekisa lokhu.
Izithandani ezinqume “ukubopha ifindo likanina” eminyakeni engaphezu kwengama-25 zinamathuba amancane okuthola isehlukaniso ngama-50%, uma kuqhathaniswa nemibhangqwana eshada isanda kweva eminyakeni engama-20.
Ngokombono wezezimali, lokhu kubonakala kunengqondo ngokuphelele ngoba kuhlakaniphele umsebenzi, imibhangqwana esevele ithole udumo lobungoti nayo izuze ukuzuza kwezezimali kanye nokuzinza.
Ozakwethu abancane futhi abanolwazi oluncane abazethembi ngesibikezelo esizayo sabo, ingasaphathwa eyase-ubuhlobo lapho behlanganyela khona.
Intsha kanye nabantu abasha abaseminyakeni yabo yama-20 bavame ukugxekwa yimindeni yabo kanye nemiphakathi yangaphakathi yomphakathi ngesinqumo esikhulu abazosenza ezimpilweni zabo. Lokhu kungabeka ingcindezi enkulu emphakathini, futhi kuhambisane nokungavikeleki kokuba usemncane kakhulu futhi ungenakho okuhlangenwe nakho, imvamisa umshado uzoholela esehlukanisweni eminyakeni elandelayo.
Lokhu futhi kuhamba ngenye indlela ezungeze
Ucwaningo olwenziwe yisazi sezokuhlalisana kwabantu uNicholas H. Wolfinger lukhombisile ukuthi imibhangqwana eshada sekwephuze kakhulu, engaphezu kweminyaka engama-35, nayo ijwayele ukuhlukana ngaphambi kwesikhathi.
Abantu abalinda isikhathi eside kunamathuba amaningi okuthi bathambekele ekuhlulekeni emshadweni wabo ngoba vele bathambekele ekuhlanganyeleni okungalungile komphakathi, futhi ngenxa yalokho behluleka ukubhekana nabashade nabo isikhathi eside futhi basusa izingxabano zomshado.
Ngoba ubudlelwane nabantu ngabanye kuyinkimbinkimbi, ayikho impendulo eqondile yombuzo.
Iminyaka enconyiwe yokuba amadoda ashade yiminyaka engama-32 kanti abesifazane ingama-28, kepha lokhu kuya ngokuhlukahluka okuningi, okubandakanya izinga lokuqonda nokunakekela abalingani abanalo komunye nomunye nesimo somsebenzi.
Ezinye zezinto esincoma ukuthi wazi futhi wazi ngaphambi kokuthatha isinqumo sokuthatha isinyathelo esikhulu sokugcina yilezi:
Ungakhohlwa ukuthi ushada nomunye umndeni
Lapho uthatha isinqumo sokuxhumanisa impilo yakho nomunye uzophinda uzuze njengefa umndeni wabo.
Lokho kusho ukuthi kuzofanele futhi ubhekane nezinkinga zabo, izingcindezi nezibopho ezintsha ozozibekwa kuwe noma kancane. Yize lokhu futhi kungaba yisibusiso futhi uthole abathandiweyo abasha abahlala ngasohlangothini lwakho, futhi kungahamba ngemodi eguqukayo. Kunenqwaba yemibhangqwana esehlukanisile ngenxa yabasekhweni labalingani bayo.
Nobabili kufanele niyenze isebenze
Awuwedwa emshadweni.
Cabanga ngobudlelwano njengendlela yokusebenza, nokuthi wena nomlingani wakho niyizikhwebu ezikuzo ezinyakazayo.
Uma esinye sezikhwebu sivinjiwe futhi singaphenduki, khona-ke akukho lutho oluzosebenza. Ukuxhumana kudlala indima ebalulekile emshadweni. Ukuqonda umlingani wakho kanye nemizwa yakhe kanye nombono wakhe ngendlela engokwemvelo, enakekelayo nothando kuyisihluthulelo sezinto ezizosebenza njengoba uzama ukuhambisana nabo eminyakeni edlule.
Yilungele ukumangala
Awusoze wamazi umuntu ngokuphelele, futhi uma ucabanga ukuchitha impilo yakho yonke nomlingani wakho, kuzofanela ukuthi ulungele ukumangala.
Iningi lazo lingaba mnandi futhi lingalindelekile, kepha ezinye zizobonakala ziphikisana nalokho ongakulindela. Kulungile, ngoba impilo ayakhelwanga injabulo kuphela, kepha kufanele wazi ukuthi kuzofanele ufunde ukubhekana nakho futhi ujabulele amanye amaphutha ongawathola kumlingani wakho ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Umshado ungokuhlangenwe nakho okumangazayo, futhi sibheka ukuthi kufanele uhlale ubhekisisa yonke into ngaphambi kokuthatha isinqumo sokuthatha igxathu elikhulu futhi ubophele inkolo yakho kanye neyalowo ozoshada naye impilo yakho yonke.