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- Kubandakanya ini ukuba ngumzali ngokubambisana nomlingani we-narcissist?
- Ukuba ne-narcissist njengomlingani wakho
- Akukho narcissism, akukho bunzima
- I-narcissist njengomzali izithinta kanjani izingane
Ngonyaka odlule, ngangiya emcimbini. Angikuphuthelwa ngoba banamaqebelengwane amangalisayo! Bengingagqokile, ikakhulukazi kulo mcimbi, ngokungafani nabanye abantu. Anginandaba nokuthi noma ngubani ngoba wonke umuntu unelungelo lokuba yilokho abayikho.
Ngangijabulela intambama emnandi yasebusika nomculo omnandi nomyeni wami namadodakazi ami lapho ngibona izithandani ezisencane kakhulu nezithandekayo zingena ephathini.
Babebukeka behle kakhulu ndawonye, futhi uma ngikhuluma iqiniso, kwakuwumbono omuhle. Baqala ukuhlangana babingelela abanye emcimbini, futhi-ke, bekuyisikhathi esifanele sokuthatha ama-selfie.
Ngenkathi ngibathanda ngasese ebusheni nasemandleni abo, kungazelelwe, ngabona ingane, cishe yobudala bendodakazi yami encane, igqoke shabbily kakhulu ihamba ngaphansi komthunzi walezi zithandani.
Ingane ibibukeka cishe ingabonakali kubo bonke abebekulo mcimbi, ngisho nakubazali bayo.
Babehamba ngokushesha besuka kwenye indawo beya kwenye, beqinisekisa ukuthi bahlangana nesixuku, futhi kwakunzima ukuthi ingane ihambisane nejubane labo, futhi yaqhubeka ikhukhuleka isuka kubo.
Ngavele ngamangala lapho ngibona.
Mhlawumbe bekunokuthintana nami ngokuba ngumzali nomfundisi isikhathi esibalulekile.
Ukubona kwale ntombazanyana enganakiwe kwanamathela ekhanda lami. Ngaqala ukuzibuza ngomehluko omkhulu phakathi kwezwe lakhe nabazali bakhe. Hhayi-ke, bobabili babeyithokozela futhi babehlangene kuyo.
Ngakho-ke, yilokho kwenzekani lapho umbulali waba ngumzali.
Ukukhulisa ingane nomlingani we-narcissist noma ukuhlanganyela ilungelo lokugcina ne-narcissist kungaba yinselele enkulu, ngoba ungahlala uzithola ulwela ukuthi umlingani wakho we-narcissistic abandakanyeke empilweni yengane yakho.
Buka futhi:
Kubandakanya ini ukuba ngumzali ngokubambisana nomlingani we-narcissist?
Ngiyazibuza, kuthiwani ngesimo lapho omunye umzali kuvela ukuthi uzithanda yena, kanti omunye kufanele asenzele lokho.
Ngemuva kwakho konke, ukuba ngumzali kumayelana nokuzidela, ukuzibophezela, nokufunda ukuthanda umuntu ngaphezu kwakho.
Ukuba ngumzali kuhilela ukuzikhandla okukhulu nokukhathala. Iyakudiliza, ikudilize futhi ikuqede, kepha ekugcineni kosuku konke kufanelekile.
Kimi, ukuba ngumzali kufaka ukuzimisela kwabantu ababili ukuhlala bezinikele futhi babambisane ukuze babelane ngothando.
Yebo! Kungukubambisana, kusukela ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kuze kube sekuphefumuleni kwakho kokugcina. Akukho ukubuyela emuva, akukho ukuvota, akukho okulindelwe, futhi akukho mingcele, uthando olungenamibandela.
Kodwa-ke, inselelo enkulu kakhulu yokuba ngumzali ngokubambisana nowayengunkosikazi noma umyeni wokuhlambalaza ukubuka njalo ukuphepha kwengane yakho ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba.
Abantu be-Narcissistic bafuna ukuthotshelwa futhi bangahamba ibanga elide ukukhohlisa abanye, futhi uma umelana nabo noma uzama ukuthola amandla kabusha, sonke isihogo singaqhuma.
Ngakho-ke indlela eqondile kungenzeka ingabi yisixazululo esihle kakhulu sokuthi 'ungabhekana kanjani nowayengumyeni noma unkosikazi oyisidlwangudlwangu.'
Ukuba ne-narcissist njengomlingani wakho
Ukuba ngumama ngokuqinisekile kuyinto ejabulisayo.
Usebuhlungwini; uphelelwe yisimo nama-wits. Into yokugcina oyidingayo ngesikhathi esinje umuzwa wokungathandwa.
Ngisho nakubaba, nakanjani akulula. Ulahlekelwa yikho ukunakwa okungahlukani nothando obukujabulela ngaphambi kokuba ube ngubaba.
Kufanele ube nomthwalo wemfanelo ngokwengeziwe futhi uhlale uqine.
Kepha mhlawumbe, nginombono omuhle ngokusho kanjalo. Eqinisweni, akunjalo.
Ikakhulu esikhathini semithombo yezokuxhumana lapho singafela khona ukuthandwa kanye nama- "awwwsss!" futhi “aahhhhs!” futhi ”ubukeka umuhle!”
Kuthiwani uma umuntu ebambeke esimweni lapho kufanele abekezelele khona amava asabisayo okuba ngumzali ngokubambisana nomuntu osebenzisa i-narcissist? Angikwazi ngisho nokuqala ukucabanga ukwethuka kokubhekana nomzali osebenza naye we-narcissist.
Akukho narcissism, akukho bunzima
Ngiyakhumbula ngenkathi ngisengumzali omusha, umyeni wami wayengamandla ami.
Uthando nothando lwakhe kwangigcina ngiqhubeka. Ukuba naye kwenza izinto zaba lula futhi zaba ngumzali, injabulo enjalo. Lokhu bekungafani neminye imibhangqwana eminingi engizungezile.
Kwezinye izimo, omama babephathwa kakhulu futhi babengakulungele ukuyeka izindlela zabo zokunethezeka. Kokunye, obaba babegcwele ngokwabo ukuxhasa oshade nabo. Umphumela?
Imishado esemadwaleni nezingane ezinganakiwe ingumkhiqizo wokuba ngumzali ngokubambisana nomzali we-narcissist.
I-narcissist njengomzali izithinta kanjani izingane
Ngabona uhlangothi olwesabekayo ngisho nangokwengeziwe lwesithombe lapho ngiba uthisha. Ngaphambi kokuba ngibe uthisha, ngangingakwazi ngisho nokucabanga ukuthi isimo esinjalo sasizosho ukuthini enganeni.
Nsuku zonke ngilalela abafundi bami bekhuluma ngemizwa yabo nangokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo. Ingxenye esabeka kakhulu ukuthi i-apula aliweli kude nesihlahla.
Ku-narcissist, bayisikhungo sendawo yonke, futhi benza umhlaba umusa omkhulu ngokuzithanda bona. Impela zinomthelela, kepha akuyona neze into enhle.
Kufana nomphumela wokuqina
Kuthatha umuntu oyedwa ozithandayo, oyedwa kuphela, ukwenza izimpilo zabantu abaningi zibe lusizi.
Umuntu oyedwa ozicabangela yena uholela emndenini ongajabule; umndeni owodwa ongajabule uholela emphakathini ongajabule, ngakho-ke kuyaqhubeka. Umphumela? Abantu abaningi abangajabule, abangazethembi emphakathini.
Uma ufuna ukuthandwa, kuzofanele wabelane ngakho kunokuba uziqoqele futhi uzitholele konke kuwe. Ngethembe; nakanjani izobuyela kuwe.