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Kuhlale kunengozi enkulu ebandakanyekayo lapho ushiya ubudlelwane obuhlukumezayo, obukhulisa kakhulu lapho izingane zibandakanyeka. Kwabanye, ukushiya abahlukumezi kwabo kuphelisa ukuhlukunyezwa. Kulabo abahlanganyela izingane ndawonye, kuyindaba ehluke ngokuphelele.
Ezifundazweni eziningi, isinqumo esijwayelekile mayelana nesikhathi sokuba ngumzali nokwenza imithwalo yemfanelo kubazali abanquma ukuhlukana ukuthi bobabili abazali basondela esikhathini esilinganayo sokuba umzali nokuthi bobabili abazali babelana ngemithwalo yemfanelo yokwenza izinqumo ngokulingana.
Imithwalo yemfanelo yokuba ngumzali ifaka phakathi izinto ezinjengokuthi ingane iya kuphi esikoleni, yiziphi izinqubo zokwelashwa ezenziwayo nokuthi zenziwa ngubani, iyiphi inkolo efundiswa ingane, nokuthi yimiphi imisebenzi yangemva kwesikole ingane engabamba iqhaza kuyo.
Ngokombono, lezi zinhlobo zezinqumo zibonakala zizosiza ingane, zivumela bobabili abazali ukuthi babelane ngethonya labo ekukhuliseni izingane zabo. Lapho udlame lwasekhaya selukhona ebudlelwaneni babazali, izinqumo ezifana nalezi zivumela ukuhlukunyezwa ukuthi kuqhubeke.
Lumayelana nani udlame lwasekhaya?
Udlame lwasekhaya alubandakanyi kuphela ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomlingani osondelene naye, kepha lubandakanya nezinye izici eziningi zobudlelwano, lapho amandla nokulawula kusetshenziselwa ukuphatha nokugcina amandla kozakwethu oyedwa.
Ezinye izindlela zokuhlukumeza ukusebenzisa izingane ukugcina ukulawula, njengokusongela ukuthatha izingane noma ukusebenzisa izingane ukudlulisela imiyalezo komunye umzali; ukusebenzisa ukuhlukunyezwa kwezomnotho njengokungavumeli umlingani oyedwa ukuthi azi noma akwazi ukufinyelela kumholo womndeni noma anikeze isabelo nokulindela amarisidi kukho konke ukuthenga; ukusebenzisa ukuhlukumeza ngokomzwelo njengokubeka phansi umlingani oyedwa, ukubenza bazizwe behlanya noma ukubenza bazizwe benecala ngokuziphatha komunye okungafanele; usebenzisa izinsongo nokuphoqa ukwenza umlingani oyedwa ahoxise amacala noma enze izinto ezingekho emthethweni.
Ngokuya ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene umlingani oyedwa angagcina amandla nokulawula ebudlelwaneni, bobabili akudingeki ukuthi bahlale ndawonye ukuze kube khona ukuhlukunyezwa. Ukuze umlingani ohlukunyeziwe abe nokuxhumana nezingxoxo zokuthi ungazikhulisa kanjani kangcono izingane zabo (izingane) nomhlukumezi wakhe kumvulela ithuba lokuqhubeka nokuhlukunyezwa.
Ngendlela emnene, umlingani ohlukumezayo angahle angavumelani nezinqumo zokuthi ingane kufanele iye kusiphi isikole futhi isebenzise lesi sinqumo ukukhohlisa omunye umzali ukuze anikeze enye into ayifunayo; izinsuku ezithile zokukhulisa izingane, izinguquko kokuthi ngubani ohlinzeka ngezinto zokuhamba kuye, njll.
Umlingani ohlukumezayo angavumela ingane ukuthi ithole ukunakekelwa kwezempilo yengqondo noma ukwelulekwa (uma kukhona izinqumo ezihlanganyelwe, abelaphi kudingeka ukuthi bathole imvume kubo bobabili abazali) ukuze imininingwane yabo engabazeki ingabelwanga kumelaphi.
Imvamisa, noma ngabe udlame lwasekhaya lungekho, abazali basebenzisa izingane zabo ukudlulisa imiyalezo evela komunye umzali iye komunye noma bakhulume kabi ngomzali ohlukile phambi kwezingane zabo.
Lapho udlame lwasekhaya lukhona, umlingani ohlukumezayo angadlulela ngokweqile, akhulume amanga ezinganeni zakhe ngomunye umzali, enze izingane zikholelwe ukuthi omunye umzali uyahlanya, futhi ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu kubangela ukuhlukaniswa kwabazali.
Ukufunda Okuhlobene: Imiphumela Yodlame Lwasekhaya Ezinganeni
Kungani kungapheli?
Ngakho-ke, uhlome ngalo lonke lolu lwazi, kungani abazali abanomlando wobudlova basekhaya benikezwa izibopho zokwenza izinqumo ezingama-50-50? Yebo, yize kunezimiso ezivumela amajaji ukuthi adlule isimo se-50-50, amajaji amaningi adinga ukulahlwa yicala lodlame lwasekhaya ukusebenzisa umthetho ukwenza izinqumo zawo.
Futhi, ngombono lokhu kunengqondo. Ngokwenzayo, ngokusekelwe kulokho esikwaziyo ngodlame lwasekhaya, ngeke kuvikele labo abadinga ukuvikelwa okukhulu. Izisulu zodlame lwasekhaya azibiki emaphoyiseni noma zilandele ngokufaka amacala ngezizathu eziningi.
Basatshisiwe futhi basatshiswa kaninginingi, futhi bakholelwa ukuthi uma bebika ukuthi kwenzekani kubo, ukuhlukunyezwa kuzomane kube kubi kakhulu (okuyiqiniso kaningi).
Batsheliwe futhi ukuthi akekho ozobakholelwa, futhi izisulu eziningi ziba nemibuzo nokungakholwa ngabomthetho futhi babuzwa lo mbuzo onzima, “Kungani ungahambi nje?” Ngakho-ke, kunenqwaba yamacala enkantolo yomndeni, lapho kukhona khona udlame lwasekhaya, mhlawumbe kubikiwe, kepha akubhekwa lapho kwenziwa isikhathi sokuba ngumzali nezinye izinqumo ezibucayi. Futhi-ke, ukuhlukunyezwa kuyaqhubeka.
Izixazululo
Uma ulwela ukuba ngumzali kanye nomhlukumezi wakho, into engcono kakhulu ongayenza ukugcina imingcele yakho, ukwakha inethiwekhi yakho yokusekela, ukugcina irekhodi lakho konke, nokugcina izidingo zezingane zakho zisengqondweni yakho.
Kunezinhlaka ezinikezelwe ukuxhasa izisulu zodlame lwasekhaya, ezinye ezingaba nosizo lwezomthetho uma kudingeka.
Finyelela kumelaphi uma isimo sizwakala sinzima kakhulu ukusisingatha noma uma ungakwazi ukugcina imingcele ebekwe enkantolo. Yize lo kuyindlela enzima ukuhamba, awudingi ukuhamba wedwa.