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Umshado wakho awuhambi kahle. Kuqale ngezimpikiswano ezincane mayelana nemikhuba nokuziphatha komlingani wakho, manje osekukhule kwaba yinzondo nokuxhumana okuncane phakathi kwenu nobabili.
Ukuthola kunzima ukukholelwa ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho bonakalise kanjani ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kepha noma ngabe konke lokho kungahambi kahle emshadweni wakho, usenalo ithemba noma okungenani inhlansi yethemba lokuthi konke kuzolunga.
Yebo, into eyodwa esingakutshela yona ngokuqinisekile ukuthi akuwena wedwa owake wazizwa ngale ndlela ngobuhlobo babo bomshado.
Ngisho nemibhangqwana ejabule kakhulu idlule ezindaweni eziningi ezinzima; kodwa-ke, indlela abayithatha ukubhekana nezinkinga zabo zobudlelwano yiyo ebenze baba yimbhangqwana ephumelelayo.
Kufanele uqonde ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi ukuthola indlela yakho yokubuyela kumlingani wakho; udinga ukuthatha izinyathelo ezeqisayo. Lokhu futhi kukusiza ukuthi uvivinye ukuqina kobudlelwano bakho futhi ngethemba lokuthi uzokusiza ubone ukuthi ufunani ngempela.
Kungakho-ke ukukhetha ukwahlukana emshadweni, noma ukwahlukana kwesivivinyo kungaba yimpendulo ezinkingeni zakho eziningi zobudlelwano.
Ngakho-ke uma ubukade uzibuza, ngabe ukwehlukana emshadweni kungaba kuhle ebudlelwaneni? Impendulo esheshayo yalo mbuzo inguyebo.
Wonke umuntu ucabanga ukuthi awukho umqondo ekuxhumaniseni ukwehlukana nendoda noma unkosikazi nomshado ophumelelayo, kepha kwezinye izimo, yilokho okufanele kwenziwe ngababili uma befuna ukusindisa umshado wabo.
Noma ukwehlukana emshadweni kunezincazelo ezithile ezingezinhle, njengoba kubhekwa njengesandulela sesehlukaniso, kungasetshenziswa futhi njengendlela yokuthola umbono ngobudlelwano bakho futhi ekugcineni ulungise umshado wakho.
Bheka futhi: Ungasebenza kanjani emshadweni ngesikhathi sokuhlala ngokwehlukana.
Ukwehlukana kukusiza kanjani ukuthi wenze izinto zibe ngcono ekhaya nokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nokwehlukana emshadweni?
Lo mbhalo wethula izeluleko zokwahlukanisa imishado ngokuthi yini okufanele uyenze nokuthi yini ongayenzi ngesikhathi sokuhlukana emshadweni.
Lezi zinkombandlela ezilandelayo zokwehlukanisa umshado zingakusiza ekubhekaneni nokwehlukana emshadweni futhi nithole indlela yokubuyela komunye nomunye.
Ukuba nomcabango ocacile
Ekuqaleni, ukuba wedwa nokungashadile bekungathandeka, ngoba ngeke kudingeke ubhekane nezidingo zomunye umuntu esimisweni sakho sansuku zonke.
Ungadla okufunayo; ungalala lapho ufuna. Ungase uzizwe sengathi usekolishi, futhi ngoshintsho, unenzuzo yemali okungenzeka ukuthi awuzange ube nayo phakathi nezinsuku zakho zasekolishi.
Kuzwakala kuyipharadesi, kepha iqiniso ukuthi awukho ekolishi, futhi noma ngabe bekufanele ulungise inqubo yakho yokwenza isikhathi nomlingani wakho, bakwenzele okufanayo.
Uzobona ukuthi bebengakudonseli phansi kepha bekunika amandla ngesipho sobungane, ukunakekelwa, futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, uthando.
Ngokuhlukana, bobabili abalingani bazokwazi maduze ukuthi impilo eyodwa ibingeyona le nto abebeyicabanga. Abantu abenzelwanga ukuba baphile bodwa noma bodwa. Bazoqala ukukhumbula omunye umuntu ngemuva nje kokwehlukana.
Isikhathi sisodwa sizobasiza ukuba babe nemicabango ecacile ngobudlelwano.
Bazobona kalula ukugeleza nezinzuzo zempilo eyodwa. Ngalokho, kuzoba lula kakhulu ukwenza isinqumo esihle ngomshado futhi ubone ukuthi bafuna ukubuyela kuwo.
Setha imithetho yokwehlukana emshadweni
Ukwehlukana emshadweni akusho ukuhlukanisa, futhi lokho kufanele kuqondwe kahle.
Kuhle uma abashadile bevumelana nemigomo futhi bebeka imithetho ethile ngenkathi behlukana. Kubukeka kubuhlungu, kepha ukuya ekhefini empeleni kungaba mnandi kakhulu.
Isikhathi sokuhlukaniswa singabekwa ngaphambi kokuthatha isinyathelo esikhulu ukuze abalingani baqiniseke ngokungalahlekelani. Isikhathi sezinyanga ezintathu kuya kweziyisithupha sisebenza kahle, kepha ngisho nonyaka kulungile.
Ngesikhathi sokuhlukana, abashadile bangavumelana ngemigomo, ngabe bazobonana, bazolalelana yini, ngubani ozoba nomsebenzi wezingane, indlu, izimoto - futhi uma kukhona incwadi yefa, konke lokhu kungaba okuthakazelisa kakhulu.
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Ozakwethu bangavuma ukuthandana bodwa ngendlela ababengashadile ngayo. Bayabona ubuhle bempilo yangaphambi komshado futhi ngaphandle kokukhohlisana.
Lapho isikhathi okuvunyelwene ngaso siphela, abashadikazi bazobona ukuthi ngabe lusekhona yini uthando phakathi kwabo, noma ilangabi lihambile.
Thola owelapha, mhlawumbe ndawonye
Ukuya ekwelashweni ngemuva kokuhlukana emshadweni, kodwa ngentando yokuvuselela ubudlelwano bakho, kuwumqondo omuhle.
Ukwelulekwa ngokwengqondo kuzokusiza ukuthi ubone olunye uhlangothi, ulalele amazwi ophathina wakho, futhi uqonde ukuthi bazizwa kanjani ngawe nokwehlukana.
Ngasikhathi sinye, nizoveza imizwa yenu komunye nomunye, futhi ngosizo lodokotela, sonke isimo sizocaca futhi kube lula ukuxazulula zonke izingqinamba.
Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi izinkinga emshadweni azikhethi uhlangothi olulodwa. Bobabili abalingani bayingxenye yenkinga, futhi bobabili badinga ukusebenzela umshado ukuze bawugcine uphilile.
Ukufinyelela kuchwepheshe kungakusiza ukuthi uthole amathuluzi afanele akhona okuthi ungasindisa kanjani umshado ohlulekayo futhi ubuyise injabulo ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Ngokuqeqeshwa kwabo okwanele kanye nobufakazi, bangukungenelela okuhle kakhulu nokungachemi ukusindisa umshado wakho oxegayo.
Izinto ezingeziwe okufanele zicatshangelwe ngesikhathi sokwehlukana.
Ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ukwehlukana kwakho emshadweni kuba yinto enhle, nazi izinto ezimbalwa ezingeziwe okufanele uzigcine engqondweni:
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- Impahla yendlu izokwabiwa kanjani? Lokhu kufaka phakathi izimoto, izinto zikagesi, njll.
- Kukangaki omunye owakwakhe ezovakashela izingane?
- Ubulili nokusondelana kufanele kuxoxwe ngakho ngokukhululekile. Ngabe abalingani bazobandakanyeka ezenzweni ezisondelene? Khuluma ngokwethembeka ngemizwa yakho nangezinto ezikukhathazayo
- Vumelanani ukuthi akekho noyedwa kini oyofuna usizo nezeluleko kummeli