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- 1. Imibono yothando ehlukile yosuku
- 2. Ungaguquguquki
- 3. Akunasidingo sokumba eqolo
- 4. Hlela usuku lokubaleka mini
Udinga imibono ekhuthazayo neyothando ngempela ukwenza isithandwa sakho sincibilike? Ungabe usaya phambili!
Ochwepheshe babelana ngezeluleko zabo ezinhle kakhulu ngemibono yosuku emangalisayo yemibhangqwana yokufaka inhlansi yobudlelwano.
Kungakhathalekile ukuthi ubenesikhathi esingakanani ne-bae yakho, kudinga umsebenzi ukugcina isifiso nenhlansi iphila ebudlelwaneni. Ukuze uthuthukise ubudlelwano bakho udinga imibono yokudala yothando ukuze uthi "Ngiyakuthanda" nepensela ngobusuku obujwayelekile bezinsuku nomunye wakho obalulekile.
Kungumqondo omuhle ukuhlela izinsuku zakho bese uzibeka ekhalendeni, ngaphambi kwesikhathi ukugwema ukuhlanganiswa kwemizuzu yokugcina.
Khanyiswa ngale mibono yasebusuku yothando ejabulisayo yemibhangqwana eshadile!
1. Imibono yothando ehlukile yosuku
Wonke umuntu unemibono yakhe eyehlukile ngezinto ezingabenza bazizwe bekhethekile.
Nayi eminye imicabango:
- Abanye bathanda ukugqoka idina lothando endaweni yokudlela ephezulu edolobheni.
- Ukumangazwa okuthile okuvela kumashadi njengokuhlala ubusuku bonke noma ukushayela kungakhanga abanye.
- Futhi kukhona labo abangahle bakhethe okuncane kodwa njengezenzo ezisondelene njengepikinikini egumbini lokuphumula ngokukhanya kwamakhandlela.
- Ukuhamba ntambama kakhulu emvelweni, ehlathini, ezungeze ichibi noma ezinye izindawo ezinombono kungaba ithikithi futhi.
Akunandaba ukuthi usuku lwangempela lubukeka kanjani, luzophumelela uma bobabili bezizwa bekhethekile, babekwa phambili futhi banakekelwa ngandlela thile.
Kungasiza ukubuza ukuthi yini umlingani wakho noma isithakazelo sothando esingakuthola sithandana. Khumbula ukuthi abantu bazizwa bethandwa ngezindlela ezahlukene.
Lisa Brookes Kift, Therapist Yomshado Nomndeni
2. Ungaguquguquki
Ah, ezothando, khumbulani emuva lapho nobabili ninalokho?
Kaningi, njengoba isikhathi sihamba, siyaphazamiseka ngempilo, sikhululeke empilweni yethu, siwele enkingeni.
Nayi imibono yami yosuku yothando eqinisekisiwe yemibhangqwana ukubuyisa isifiso ebinaso lapho iqala ukuthandana.
Ngemuva kweminyaka engaphezu kwengu-20 sindawonye, mina nomyeni wami sigcine uthando luphila ngokwenza isikhathi samasonto onke sikanye ndawonye sibe yinto eza kuqala.
Nawa amathiphu ami amahle kakhulu ezithandani:
- Yiba nengoma: Umculo unamandla. Dala uhlu lwadlalwayo lwababili kuphela. Izosetha imizwa futhi ibe ngumyalezo oyimfihlo phakathi kwakho kokubili. Okwamanje lapho umyeni wami edlala ingoma ohlwini lwadlalwayo ngivele ngimamatheke bese ngicabanga ngobusuku bethu bosuku!
- Phuma endlini: Noma kungaba ihora kuphela, kanye ngesonto shiya indlu ndawonye. Ngemuva kosuku olude emsebenzini, kunzima ukuma nokugxila kwezothando ekhaya nazo zonke iziphazamiso zalo.
- Buyela lapho uqale khona: Uma nibe ndawonye isikhashana ungangena kalula enkingeni. Kwenze umgomo wakho ukuza nezindlela "zokukhumbula ukuthi nini" nokubuyisa inhlansi.
- Phinda izinsuku zakho zokuqala: Ufuna ukukhumbula ukuthi kwakukuhle kanjani phambilini? Phinda amanye amadethi akho wangaphambilini bese ukhumbula ngezikhathi ezimnandi.
- Yiba izivakashi: Isiza sibonane ndawonye edolobheni lakho - zama ukuhamba ngezinyawo, ukuhamba ngebhayisikili, noma izinkambo ze-segway. IGroupon iyindawo enhle yemibono yendawo nezaphulelo. Idolobha ngalinye linomlando nemicimbi abantu bendawo abavame ukuyikhohlwa noma abangakaze bayazi.
- Thatha uhambo lwamahora ajabulisayo: Ufuna ukuhlukahluka? Vakashela amahora ajabulisayo edolobheni. Zama indawo yokudlela ehlukile masonto onke noma thola intandokazi bese u-oda okuthile okusha isikhathi ngasinye.
- Iya emakhonsathini: Buyisa lowo muzwa wothando ngokukhumbula amabhendi wakho we-fav asendulo. Amaqembu amaningi ahlangane futhi noma angabe esayeka ukuvakasha.
- Qalisa umdlalo wakho: I-Bowling, igalofu elincane, ichibi lokudubula, ukukhuphuka amatshe, imibono embalwa nje yezigemegeme ezingezona ezentsha neminyaka engamashumi amabili kuphela, kodwa zizokuqinisekisa ukuthi uzizwa unjalo futhi zikulungele ukuvumela ingxoxo.
- Gibela inqola yegalufu: Kukhona okuthile kwezothando ngokuhamba ngokukhululeka enkundleni yegalufu — kuyinto enhle, evulekile evulekile futhi ethule — ilungele ezothando.
UVictorya Michaels Rogers, Umqeqeshi Wothando Nempilo
3. Akunasidingo sokumba eqolo
Kunobufakazi obusekela ukuthi ukwenza izinto ezintsha nokwabelana ngokuzidela ndawonye kukhulula amakhemikhali amahle njenge-oxytocin ahlotshaniswa nemizwa enkulu yenjabulo nenjabulo.
Nayi eminye imibono:
- Ukunambitha iwayini noma ubuciko bokwenza ubhiya
- Izintaba, ukukhuphuka kwamadwala, noma yini enombono wemvelo izosebenza!
- Isigaba sokupheka, upende, izinto zobumba-thola izandla zakho zingcolile.
- Iya emakethe yomlimi noma embukisweni womgwaqo engxenyeni yedolobha ongakaze ube ndawonye.
- Amakhonsathi wamahhala epaki
Lena nje imibono embalwa ukuze uqalise.
Iphuzu ukukhipha isikhathi samahhala esingaphazanyiswa, seselula esichithwe ukukhumbuza umlingani wakho ukuthi nonke niba mnandi kangakanani, nibe nentshisekelo, futhi nibe nenhlanhla ezimpilweni zomunye nomunye.
Jabulela!
UDana McNeil, MA, LMFT
4. Hlela usuku lokubaleka mini
Enye yezintandokazi zami ukungena ehhotela ebusuku ngedina neziphuzo ngaphambi kwesandla.
Kuhle kakhulu ngemibhangqwana enezingane kepha empeleni kunoma imuphi umbhangqwana. Okungcono ukuthi ihhotela belingeke libe sendaweni lapho kuhlala khona umuntu.
Lokhu kuyinikeza ukuzizwa okuningi kokungabikho.
Isitayela, ubumnandi nokuhlobisa kwehhotela nakho kuyinto ehluke kakhulu kunaleyo yekhaya elilodwa noma izindawo ezijwayelekile.
- Ukuchitha isikhathi kuyo yonke into ekude kuhlala kukuhle njalo. Ngisho usuku noma impelasonto.
- Ngingumuntu othanda imihlangano yokufundisana noma yokuhlehla. Muva nje mina nomyeni wami sichithe uMgqibelo neSonto emini ku-workshop yemibhangqwana. Izinsuku zigxile ekuthuthukiseni ukuxhumana nokusondelana. Ngemva kwekilasi usuku ngalunye, sasizungeza idolobha futhi sidla isidlo sakusihlwa endaweni ethulile, yothando. Bekumnandi.
- Ehlobo, ngithanda nokuba nepikiniki emvelweni, sobabili kuphela.
- Ukubhanqa ndawonye kumnandi futhi kungaba yinto entsha.
U-Irina Firstein, uLCSW
Ukuhamba kokugcina
Yize le mibono yosuku lwasebusuku ilungele ukubuyisa isasasa ebudlelwaneni bakho, kudinga ukubekezela, ukuzibophezela kanye nobuciko ukwakha ukuxhumana okujulile noshade naye.
Kungaba umqondo omuhle ukuxubana nokuzenzakalela obusuku bakho bosuku futhi ungavumeli ingcindezi eningi nokuhlela kukwenze ube yingozi yezinzwa.
Umqondo wukukhombisa oshade naye isikhathi esihle futhi ubazise ukuthi abakunqandanga njengoba impilo yenzeka kini nobabili!