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- 1. Yakha inhlonipho nokuzethemba
- 2. Yenza umngane oseduze nomeluleki womlingani wakho
- 3. Lalela futhi uqinisekise
- 4. Qaphela, ungazivikeli
- 5. Yenza isinyathelo sokuqala ukuthuthukisa
Wonke umuntu uyabona ukuthi ngisho nezimbali, mhlawumbe izimbali ezinhle kunazo zonke emhlabeni, zikhula ngamakhakhasi bese ziphelela endle ngezikhathi ezithile. Noma kunjalo, maqondana nokuxhumeka, asilindeli lutho ngaphandle kokungabi naphutha okukhulu kwabalingani bethu. Izifiso ezingathandeki zenza indawo enenkinga yokuxhuma okukhulayo. Iningi labashadikazi abasindile futhi bachuma iminyaka engaphezu kwengu-30 bendawonye bazovuma ukuthi impilo iletha izinselelo. Ngobunzima kuza izivivinyo eziqinisekisa futhi zenze amanye amabhondi.
Okulandelayo amathiphu nezeluleko zabantu abasanda kushada ukugcina umshado wabo uqinile futhi ujabulile
1. Yakha inhlonipho nokuzethemba
Ukwakha ukuncoma, nokubheka ukuzengeza kwakho ekwakheni ubudlelwane obuqinile nomlingani wakho. Kwezinye izimo, sihlonishwa ngabalingani abanokuzethemba futhi abangasisiza ekuthuthukiseni le mfanelo ngaphakathi kithi. Ngaphansi kwezimo ezahlukahlukene, kufanele sibheke ngaphakathi ukuthola izici esizithandayo. Uzakwethu ohloniphekile uzosisiza ekutholeni izici zethu ezinhle futhi sakha ukuzethemba kwethu. Lesi iseluleko esibalulekile kwabasanda kushada.
2. Yenza umngane oseduze nomeluleki womlingani wakho
Esinye iseluleko sabasanda kushada ukuthi oshade nabo kungenzeka kube yibo kuphela abantu abathembekile esinabo lapho sinodoti ebusweni bethu. Ngenkathi abanye bengasinaki noma bahambe, ozakwethu bazothi, "Sthandwa, hlanza ubuso bakho." Umlingani wethu imvamisa umuntu osazi kangcono ukwedlula noma yimuphi omunye umuntu futhi ethubeni lokuthi sivumele ukugxekwa kwabo; angakwazi ukusenza sibonakale njengabantu abangcono.
3. Lalela futhi uqinisekise
Enye yezinkinga ezinkulu kakhulu ukubona umuntu ukungabikho kwemibhalo ephoqelela. Ngenkathi, imibhangqwana eminingi ixhumana ngaso sonke isikhathi ngokushaya izindlela zokungena, ukumemeza, ukusola nokukhononda, lolu hlobo lokuxhumana luyingozi. Ukuxhumana okuhle kusho ukushuna ngempela kumlingani wakho. Ngokufanayo, singavumela umngane esimthandayo. Sizohlala silalele ngomoya ophansi futhi sivame ukubuyisa ingxenye yezinto abazishilo, ukubatshela ukuthi sizwile futhi sakuqonda. “Nginomuzwa wokuthi awugxili,” kusho umngane womshado. Ukubuyekeza kabusha, "Ngiyaqonda ukuthi awuzizwa sengathi ngigxila," kungaba yindlela ehloniphekile yokuxhumana futhi ungene ekuqondeni okujulile. Noma kunjalo, lokhu kufanele kuqedwe ngobuqotho nenhliziyo.
4. Qaphela, ungazivikeli
Enye iseluleko sabasanda kushada ngukuthi akukho okunye kodwa kunzima ukuwela ebuntombini obunomkhuba lapho izinhlangothi zombili ziqala ukusola enye ngokuthi zisebenza kanjani. Zama ukudlulela kulokhu, thatha isibopho semisebenzi bese ungena endaweni emnene, evulekile ngokwengeziwe esikhundleni sokungena endaweni evikelekile lapho ulimi oluthile lungajika lube lukhuni khona. Ngokubuyela emuva okuncane kuphela futhi ususe umqondo wobuyena ekudlaleni, umngcele wobudlelwano bangempela uyawa, bese kuvuleka indlela eya ebudlelwaneni obuqotho, obuqotho.
5. Yenza isinyathelo sokuqala ukuthuthukisa
Iseluleko sokugcina sabasanda kushada ukuthi uma kwenzeka uzimisele ukwenza ushintsho kumlingani wakho, kepha owakwakho engakulungele, ngaleso sikhathi musa ukuma. Mane uqhubeke uqhubekele phambili nohlelo lwakho. Vulela bese uvuma. Khumbula; yeka ukukhuza ubambe izinhloso ezinkulu nokucatshangelwa ngomlingani wakho nobudlelwano bakho. Ngokukhipha intuthuko kuwe nemisebenzi yakho nezimo zengqondo, umhlaba wonke uzoshintsha nawo.
Isiphetho
Ngenkathi, indlela ingahle ingasatshalaliswa izimbali, ukubamba isimo sengqondo esihle nokuhlala kahle kuzokubeka enkambweni efanele. Kwenye indawo ebangeni, uhhafu wemishado uphela ngokwahlukana futhi cishe ama-63% emishado yesibili abekezelela ikusasa elifanayo. Izingqinamba ezihlala zingaqinisekile emshadweni oyinhloko zizobuya ziphindaphindwe kuze kube seqophelweni lokuthi sezilungisiwe futhi zasebenza ngaphakathi kithi. Okubalulekile iseluleko sabasanda kushada lowo ngumzamo wokubhekana nobunzima nokwazisa ubumnandi bezimbali ezisendleleni.