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Eminyakeni emihlanu eyedlule, ngesikhathi isehlukaniso sakhe sesiphothuliwe, indoda yabhala amagama athile ngomshado ayemahle kakhulu kangangokuba umyalezo wakhe wafinyelela ezinhliziyweni zezinkulungwane, njengoba wawusakazeka.
Umlayezo obudlulisa inhlanganisela enobuthi yothando, ukuzisola nokuhlakanipha okutholwe ngokusuka emuva emaphutheni akhe bekungumbono abaningi abangawuqonda futhi bawuqonde, bekungakhathalekile ukuthi ungowesilisa, owesifazane, ushadile, uhlukanisile noma awukaze uwashade lawo mazwi uxhumeke ubuntu futhi ngethemba ngisindise nemishado embalwa.
Ngisho namanje, eminyakeni emihlanu kamuva, amazwi kaGerald Rogers angaphelelwa yisikhathi mayelana nokuthi ungawugcina kanjani umshado ojabulayo futhi onempilo ngokombono womuntu osuselwa ekuzisoleni nakokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe asazwakala eyiqiniso.
Nazi ezinye ze- izingcezu zezeluleko ezivela ku-athikili yokuqala
Ungafunda inguqulo yoqobo ephelele lapha, futhi noma ngabe le ndatshana ibhalwe ngamadoda engqondweni, sikhethe ezinye zezeluleko ezifanele bobabili abashadile.
Ungalokothi uyeke ukushela. Ungalokothi uyeke ukujola, ungalokothi uthathe lowesifazane ngokungathi shu. Lapho umcela ukuthi akushade, wathembisa ukuthi uzoba yindoda ezoba eyakhe inhliziyo futhi ayivikele ngonya. Lo ngumcebo obaluleke kakhulu futhi ongcwele owake waphathiswa wona. Ukhethe wena. Ungalokothi ukukhohlwe lokho, futhi ungalokothi uvimbe othandweni lwakho.
Yebo Yebo! Imishado eminingi iyawa noma ihlukane phakathi ngoba iqala ukubuthatha kalula ubudlelwano noma ihlanganise umqondo womshado nobudlelwano babo bonke bube yimbiza eyodwa. Lapho empeleni umshado ungumphumela wabantu abashadile abanobudlelwano ndawonye, futhi ngeke uhlale uma ubuhlobo bungavamisile ukwehlukana nomshado.
Yiba yisilima, ungazithatheli phezulu. Ahleke. Futhi umenze ahleke. Ukuhleka kwenza konke okunye kube lula
Impilo inzima, yenza umzamo wokuyithokozela ndawonye ukuze nikwazi ukushelelana indlela. Lokhu kuphezulu ohlwini lwethu ngoba iphuzu elinganakwa kaningi kepha okungaba yingcina egcina umbhangqwana uhlangane.
Thethelela ngokushesha bese ugxila kokuzayo kunokuthwala isisindo esedlule. Ungavumeli umlando wakho ukubambe. Ukubambelela emaphutheni esikhathi esidlule owenzayo wena kufana nehange elisindayo emshadweni wakho futhi kuzokuvimbela. Intethelelo inkululeko. Sika ihange likhululeke futhi uhlale ukhetha uthando.
Kulula kakhulu ukubamba amagqubu, kodwa futhi kulula ukuvumela izinto zihambe, kunzima ukuveza uthando lapho ungeke uxole. Ngabe uyafuna ngempela ukuchitha umshado wakho usesimweni sokukhunjuzwa njalo nokukhumbuza amaphutha akho wangaphambilini? Kuyagodlelana futhi kuvimbela umshado.
Thandana kaninginingi. Uzohlala ushintsha. Anisafani nabantu enaniyilabo ngenkathi nishada, futhi eminyakeni emihlanu ngeke nisaba yilokho eniyikho namuhla. Ushintsho luzofika, futhi kulokho, kufanele ukhethe futhi nsuku zonke. Akudingeki ukuthi ahlale nawe, futhi uma ungayinakekeli inhliziyo yakhe, anganikeza leyo nhliziyo omunye umuntu noma akuvale ngokuphelele, futhi kungenzeka ungaphinde ukwazi ukuyithola. Njalo lwela ukuzuza uthando lwakhe njengoba nje wenzile ngenkathi ushela.
Uma lokhu kungeyona indlela yokwenza bobabili abashadile bazizwe befunwa, bedingeka futhi besekelwa ngokomoya asazi ukuthi yini. Uma uthandana, ubabaza izimfanelo ezinhle kumlingani wakho, futhi uzamukela ngothando noma uziyeke lezo zimfanelo ongazithandi kangako.
Ukuzifaka esimweni semvelo yomuntu futhi uqaphele ngokuhlakanipha ukuthi ngaphandle kwamaphutha sonke singancipha. Ngakho-ke kungani ngemuva kokuchitha iminyaka embalwa sindawonye singeke sisebenzise le ndlela efanayo yokubheka okuhle komlingani wethu.
Siyaqiniseka ukuthi labo abashade abenza iphuzu lokuzijwayeza ukuthandana bahlala bengahlukanisi - ngemuva kwakho konke, kungani bezoba njalo?
Thatha isibopho esigcwele sokuziphendulela ngemizwa yakho: Akuwona umsebenzi womkakho ukujabulisa, futhi angeke akwenze ube lusizi. Unesibopho sokuthola injabulo yakho, futhi ngalokho, injabulo yakho izothululela ebudlelwaneni bakho nasothandweni lwakho.
Lokhu yinto sonke esingayifunda ukuthi sishadile noma cha. Sonke kufanele sifunde ukuziphendulela ngokugcwele ngemizwa yethu, futhi uma besizokwazi ukuphatha lokhu, BONKE ubudlelwano bethu buzothuthuka, bese siqala ukubeka amanye amadimoni ethu aphumule azosenza sijabule futhi sibe nempilo enhle ngayo yonke indlela!
Vikela inhliziyo yakho Njengoba nje uzibophezele ekubeni ngumvikeli wenhliziyo yakhe, nawe kufanele uqaphe eyakho ngokuqapha okufanayo. Zithande ngokuphelele, thanda umhlaba ngokusobala, kepha kunendawo ekhethekile enhliziyweni yakho lapho kungekho muntu okufanele angene ngaphandle komkakho. Gcina leso sikhala sikulungele njalo ukumamukela futhi umngenise ngaphakathi, futhi wenqabe ukuvumela noma ngubani noma yini enye ingene lapho.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzithanda uma bengingamemeza lokhu kusuka ophahleni lwendlu engingathanda, ukuphela kwendlela yokuvikela inhliziyo yakho kuphela lapho singazithanda lapho singathola khona uthando oluvela kubalingani bethu nasemkhathini. Okujule kakhulu, kuyiqiniso!
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