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- Thola indima yakho ekungasebenzi kahle komshado wakho
- Yazi isidingo sokuhlola ngaphambi kokuhlala kulolu hlobo lomsangano
- 1. Ungagcini ngokubeka imingcele, ulandele ngemiphumela
- 2. Zingakapheli izinsuku ezingama-60 nithandana, uzobona izimpawu zokwenza ubuhlanya
- 3. Inhlonipho elahlekile ngenxa yemingcele ngaphandle kwemiphumela
- 4. Thola usizo lochwepheshe ukuze ubeke izinto ngendlela efanelekile kuwe
- Futhi yini okudingeka uyenze?
Uma uphola noma ushade nomenzi osangene, mhlawumbe ucabanga ukuthi yonke idrama nezinxushunxushu kungenxa yazo. Futhi ingxenye yako kunjalo, kepha hhayi iningi.
Eminyakeni engama-28 edlule, umbhali, umeluleki kanye nomqeqeshi wokuqala wokuthengisa kakhulu uDavid Essel‘s ubesiza abantu ukuthi baqonde izindima esizidlalayo sonke lapho sisebudlelwaneni bothando obungasebenzi.
Ngezansi, uDavid uqeda inkoleloze yokuthi ngumlingani wakho oyinkinga. Iphilisi elinzima lokugwinya abaningi, kodwa ukuphela kwalo elidingekayo uma ufuna ukuphila impilo enokuthula nenjabulo.
Thola indima yakho ekungasebenzi kahle komshado wakho
Wangena ehhovisi, wanikina ikhanda lakhe, ezibuza ukuthi kanti kwenzeka kanjani ukuthi ashade nowesifazane ongenanhlonipho, nongenandaba. Ngihlale ngamlalela cishe imizuzu engama-45 ukuthi aye kaninginingi, bonke ubuhlanya abuletha empilweni yakhe nsuku zonke.
Ekupheleni kwesikhumbuzo sakhe, ngambuza umbuzo olula, "yini iqhaza lakho ekungasebenzi kahle komshado wakho?"
Usheshe waphendula. “Lutho. Ngenza konke engithi ngizokwenza, nokuningi, ngikwenze okuphambene nenkosikazi yami eswele. “Kuthathe amasonto ayishumi ukwelulekwa naye, ukumqinisekisa ukuthi impendulo yakhe ibinganembile ngo-100%.
Ekugcineni, wabona engangizama ukumfundisa ngakho konke, futhi ekugcineni waba nguyena. Futhi ngokuba ngumnikazi wayo, wayezokhululeka.
Uyabona, ngenkathi nithandana "nomenzi ophambanayo" umuntu ochitha yonke imali yakho, othi bazokwenzela izinto kodwa angazenzi, ohlale ekhombisa ukufika sekwedlule isikhathi kuwo wonke umcimbi okufanele uye kuwo, sifuna ukubasola ngezinkinga zobudlelwano bethu bothando.
Kepha inkinga yangempela? Ingabe Us. Uwena. Yimi, uma sizimisele ukuhlala nalolo hlobo lokusangana.
Futhi, ngemuva kweminyaka engama-30 njengomeluleki nomqeqeshi wempilo, sengikubone konke, ngakuzwa konke, futhi namanje, ekubukeni ubuhlanya bobudlelwano bothando obuningi namuhla, ngiyaqonda ukuthi siyinkinga.
Kungani? Ngoba sahlala. Ngoba sibekezelele. Ngoba senza nje zonke izinhlobo zokuphikisana, izinsongo nokuningi.
Asinawo amabhola okuthi sihambe noma siye ekwelulekeni isikhathi eside ukuthola ukuthi singabuphatha kanjani lobu budlelwano obungasebenzi kahle.
Yazi isidingo sokuhlola ngaphambi kokuhlala kulolu hlobo lomsangano
Ngakho-ke uma uthandana noma ushade nomuntu okuhlanyisa ngokuphelele nsuku zonke, ngoba baqamba amanga, bayahleba, basebenzise imali eningi kakhulu, badla kakhulu, baphuza kakhulu, noma baphula amagama abo njalo, ake sibheke ukuthi yini sidinga ngempela ukuhlola ngaphambi kokuba sihlale kulolu hlobo lomsangano:
1. Ungagcini ngokubeka imingcele, ulandele ngemiphumela
Uma ubeka imingcele enjengokuthi “uma wephula izwi lakho futhi. Uma usebenzisa imali ethe xaxa-ke sesivumelene ngokuthi kuzokwenziwa. ” Kepha awulandeli ngakho, uyinkinga.
Nguwe onika amandla. Nguwe ozuzayo. Umuhle ekubekeni imingcele kepha awunawo amandla okulandela ngomphumela futhi empeleni ushiye uma sebekwenzile futhi.
Ngikubona lokhu ngaso sonke isikhathi emhlabeni wokulutha ebuhlotsheni, lapho umuntu oyedwa engumlutha noma umlutha wotshwala, futhi umlingani elokhu ebasongela ukuthi bazohamba kodwa abakwenzi lokho.
Uyinkinga.
2. Zingakapheli izinsuku ezingama-60 nithandana, uzobona izimpawu zokwenza ubuhlanya
Nakhu okushaqisayo kumakhasimende ami amaningi, lapho ngibatshela ukuthi lokhu kuziphatha, lokhu kungaziphathi kahle kwesithandwa sabo bekuqhubeka kusukela ezinsukwini zokuqala ezingama-60 zobudlelwano babo, bangibuka banikine amakhanda bengakholwa.
Ngemuva kwalokho ngibathatha ngochungechunge lwezivivinyo zokubhala, bese ukushaqeka kuba yinkolelo. Engikushilo kuliqiniso.
Kungakapheli izinsuku ezingama-60 uthandana nothile, uzobona izimpawu, noma ngabe ufuna ukuzibona noma cha, ukuthi kunamathani ezinxushunxushu nedrama phambili.
Kepha ngoba imizwa inamandla amakhulu kunengqondo ethandweni, siyawulahla umqondo, sibambelele ethembeni elingokomzwelo lokuthi lizoshintsha, futhi sifile emanzini.
3. Inhlonipho elahlekile ngenxa yemingcele ngaphandle kwemiphumela
Ngoba ubeka imingcele ngaphandle kwemiphumela, umlingani wakho akakuhloniphi nakancane. Funda lokho futhi.
Ngoba uyahlupha futhi ubatshele ukuthi uzoshiya kangaki uma bekwenza futhi u-X, kepha wena ungakwenzi, abakunhlonipho nakancane. Futhi akufanele bakuhloniphe nganoma yini.
Kungani? Ngoba manje nguwe ophula amazwi akho.
4. Thola usizo lochwepheshe ukuze ubeke izinto ngendlela efanelekile kuwe
Impendulo kuphela ukungena kwezeluleko njengamanje bese uthola uchwepheshe ukuze abone ukuthi yini indima yakho ekungasebenzi kahle.
Nganginakekela kancane lapho othile engitshela ukuthi “besineminyaka engama-35 sindawonye, sishade iminyaka engama-35 kanti nezinga lesehlukaniso liphezulu kakhulu”. Kodwa sebeneminyaka engu-34 bethandana kabi. Angihlatshwa umxhwele nakancane.
Ungahambi uziqhayisa ngokuthi usunesikhathi esingakanani uhleli nomuntu, lapho ubudlelwano bakho bumunca. Thola okwangempela. Thola usizo. Kukuwe ukuthi ushintshe, hhayi bona.
Futhi yini okudingeka uyenze?
Udinga ukuqala ukulandela amagama akho. Udinga ukusetha imingcele nemiphumela emibi futhi empeleni udonse umphumela.
Noma, udinga nje ukuqeda ubuhlanya, uthathe umthwalo wakho wokungazi ukuthi uzobhekana kanjani nokungasebenzi othandweni, uvume ukuthi uku-50% noma ngaphezulu kwenkinga, bese uqhubeka. Bahlukanise. Qeda ubuhlobo. Kepha yeka ukukhononda, uyeke ukuba yisisulu.
Kukhona izwe lonke lothando laphaya, futhi uma uliphuthelwa, yiphutha lakho.
Umsebenzi kaDavid Essel uvunyiwe kakhulu ngabantu abanjengoWayne Dyer ongasekho, kanti nosaziwayo uJenny McCarthy uthi "uDavid Essel ungumholi omusha wenhlangano ecabangayo."
Incwadi yakhe yesi-10, omunye othengisa kakhulu inombolo ibizwa nge- “focus! Bulala izinhloso zakho. Umhlahlandlela oqinisekisiwe wempumelelo enkulu, isimo sengqondo esinamandla nothando olujulile. "