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- Kungani iphepha?
- Izipho ezijwayelekile zokugubha iphepha
- 1. Ijenali
- 2. Isihlahla okufanele sitshalwe
- 3. Uhlaka lwesithombe sephepha
- 4. Incwadi yothando
E-US okwendabuko Izipho zokugubha usuku lokuqala zenziwe ngephepha. Okungahle kubonakale njengesipho eshibhile, noma kunjalo, kunamathuba amaningi okwenza noma ukuthenga izipho ezicatshangelwe ngephepha.
Kungani iphepha?
Kuyinto yokwenza ukuthi sibe namaVictoria okufanele sibonge ngayo.
Iphepha njengesipho seminyaka engu-1 belilokhu liqhutshwa kusukela ndawo phakathi kuka-1837-1901 umlando namasiko made. Kungakho kuyisiko elihle kangaka ukuqhubeka - ikakhulukazi ngoba ngokomfanekiso limelela isikhathi eside futhi asifuni sonke ukubona wonke umuntu ejabulela umshado omude nojabulisayo?
Kepha into ukuthi, akekho owaziyo ukuthi kungani sinikeza iphepha njengesipho sokugubha usuku lokuqala - ngeshwa, izizathu zokuthi kungani konke lokhu kwaqala kwase kudlulile. Uma ucabanga ngakho, kuluhlobo lothando ngokwalo.
Kepha uma kwenzeka ungeke ukwazi ukubona ukuthandana okuphefumulelwe isipho sephepha lesikhumbuzo seminyaka engu-1 nansi eminye imicabango yokuthi kungani iphepha liyisipho esihle futhi esithandana kakhulu.
- Iphepha limele ukujika kwekhasi elisha, ikhasi elingenalutho, eligcwele amathuba amasha.
- Ngonyaka wokugcina womshado wakho, uzobe usuzinzile empilweni yasemshadweni, nijabulele i-honeymoon nazo zonke izinkathi namaholide ndawonye ndawonye okokuqala njengendoda nempilo.
- Ngakho-ke manje njengoba ungena onyakeni wesibili womshado wakho, ungavula ikhasi elisha endabeni yakho bese uqala ukwakha emshadweni wakho, ubeke izimpande bese ukhula ube into eqinile nenhle.
- Iphepha njengesipho liphinde lifanekise ukuthi ikusasa ngelakho ukubhala futhi liphinde limele ukuhlangana ndawonye kwezinhlangano ezihlukene phakathi kokulukwa kwemicu esekhasini.
- Kusikhumbuza ngemvelo entekenteke yonyaka wethu wokuqala womshado namandla okuqinisa, futhi futhi ingunaphakade, ingahlala ingunaphakade.
Ngakho-ke lapho ulahla umbono wesipho sephepha sesipho ungakhohlwa inani elingokomfanekiso elethwa yiphepha, futhi mhlawumbe uzizwa uphefumulelwe kakhulu ukukhetha into yephepha njengesipho sakho sokugubha unyaka wokuqala.
Izipho ezijwayelekile zokugubha iphepha
Uhlobo lwesipho esidala ongalukhetha ukugubha usuku lokuqala lumi, futhi kunezindlela eziningi ongakhetha kuzo ikakhulukazi namuhla ukukhetha izipho zeminyaka engu-1 ezenziwe ngezifiso.
Izipho ezinjenge:
1. Ijenali
Ijenali isipho esihle ngoba sikunikeza inketho yokubhala phansi izinhloso zakho kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho ukugcina izinkumbulo zakho zonyaka wakho wokuqala womshado noma ukuthatha izinkumbulo ezintsha ngonyaka wesibili womshado.
Uma uhlela ukunikeza iphephabhuku njengesipho sakho seminyaka engu-1, mhlawumbe kuyasiza ukubhala inothi elincane bese ulibeka ekhasini lokuqala ukuze uchaze ukuthi kungani ukhethe lesi sipho njengesipho sokugubha usuku lokuqala.
2. Isihlahla okufanele sitshalwe
Iphepha livela ngokhuni angithi? Futhi izinkuni zivela ezihlahleni. Imbewu yesihlahla umbhangqwana omusha ongayitshala ekhaya labo elisha futhi uyibuke ikhula ingaba esinye sezipho zothando zokugubha usuku lokuqala ongasinikeza. Vele uqiniseke ukuthi lezi zithandani zinendawo yokutshala isihlahla ngaphambi kokuthenga lesi sipho sokuqala.
3. Uhlaka lwesithombe sephepha
Izithombe zihlala zilungele ukugcina izinkumbulo. Ukubeka isithombe salezi zithandani njengoba zisemgubhweni wazo wokuqala womshado zibe iphepha eliqediwe lesakhiwo sesithombe yisipho esihle sokugubha usuku lokuqala. Kuyisikhumbuzo esihle esidonsa lezi zithandani njengoba zinjalo ngesikhathi sokugubha iminyaka yazo yamaphepha futhi kunamathuba amaningi wozimele bamaphepha ukuze ahambisane nakho konke ukuthanda.
4. Incwadi yothando
Ngomyeni nenkosikazi abagubha iminyaka yabo engu-1, incwadi yothando ecatshangwe kahle ingaba isipho esihle.
Kungabiyelwa futhi kulengiswe ekamelweni labo ukuze bakwazi ukuzindla ngakho kuze kube phakade.
Kepha futhi, noma ngabe ungumngani noma ilungu lomndeni, ungahle uthande ukuthumela incwadi yokubonga, egqamisa ukuthi ubazuzele kangakanani, nokuthi umshado wabo usho ukuthini kuwe ukuze bakugcine lokho odongeni lwabo ukuze basebenze isikhumbuzo sokuthi umshado wabo muhle kanjani.
Lolu hlobo lwesipho lubaluleke kangako, kepha kuvame ukunganakwa.
Iphepha mhlawumbe lingesinye sezipho ezinhle kakhulu zokukhumbula unyaka wokuqala ongasinikeza umbhangqwana, incazelo engokomfanekiso, isimo esilinganiselayo nokuqina okuvezwa yiphepha kunamandla futhi ngaphandle kombuzo kuzoshiya uphawu lwayo ezinkumbulweni zabakhethekile zeminyaka ezayo. Ikakhulukazi njengoba izipho ezinjengalezo esiziphakamisile ngenhla kungenzeka zisazovelela empilweni yezithandani noma ngabe zigubha umshado wazo wedayimane.