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- 1. Thola ohamba naye
- 2. Ukubukeka kwesandla
- 3. Lahla ubufakazi
- 4. Khetha ilitshe lakho
- 5. Ungachami ensimini yakho
- Izindlela azihlali zingenangqondo ngaso sonke isikhathi
Lo ngumbuzo abantu abaningi abangibuze wona eminyakeni edlule. Ukuthandana nomuntu kuhlukile kunokulala nabantu abaningi lapho ungekho kunoma yikuphi ukuzibophezela. Akukona ukuhlala ubusuku obubodwa nomuntu ohlangane naye eTinder ngenkathi ushadile. Akunakho ukuhlangana ngokocansi okungahleliwe nezifebe nabanye ngenkathi uzinikele.
Kuyavunywa, zonke ziyizinhlobo ezahlukene zokungathembeki, kepha ukuthandana nomuntu kuyisilwane esihluke ngokuphelele.
Ukuqomisana kulapho ujwayele ukuthandana nomunye umuntu ngenkathi uzibophezele komunye.
Kuyindlela engcolile, ejulile yokungathembeki lapho umuntu oyedwa eqhubeka khona ebona umuntu (noma ama-someones amaningi) omunye, ngenkathi egcina ukunamathela komunye nomunye.
Ngakho-ke, ungaba kanjani nokuthandana ungabanjwa? Nawa amanye amathiphu omuntu onolwazi.
1. Thola ohamba naye
Udinga umuntu noma iqembu lonke labangane elibuka umhlane wakho. Ukuba nobudlelwano kungaba umsebenzi wedwa, kepha ukuba nomuntu ongamsebenzisa njengethuba elilula futhi uhlanganyele ama-alibis akho kuzosiza kakhulu ekutheni ungabanjwa.
Ukuthandana nomuntu umdlalo we-spy.
Imayelana nolwazi nemininingwane engeyona. Kuzobandakanya ukuqamba amanga okuningi, futhi ukuba nezihambisanayo ezizokuphakela imininingwane futhi kusize ukusebenzisana namanga akho kungakususa ezindaweni eziqinile.
Uma umuntu ojola naye azi ukuthi usebudlelwaneni, bese usetha imithetho ethile, efana nokuthi ungayi endlini yakho noma ungafoni noma uthumele umyalezo ngaphandle kokuthi ukwenze kuqala. Uma umuntu wesithathu engazi ukuthi usebudlelwaneni, ungalokothi unikeze ikheli lakho.
Into yokugcina oyidingayo ukuthi bavele endlini yakho begqoke lutho kodwa bembethe ijazi ngesikhathi sedina langeSonto nabasekhweni lakho.
2. Ukubukeka kwesandla
Ozakwethu, ikakhulukazi abesifazane, bayakwazi ukuhogela ukuthandana nebanga eliqhele ngemayela. Njengawo wonke amaqhinga omlingo, kumayelana nenkohliso nokuphazamiseka ukugcina ukugxila kwabo entweni ekude nalapho izinto zenzeka khona empeleni.
Kwenze lokhu kancane kancane, ushintsho olungazelelwe nalo luzomema ukunakwa okungafuneki. Dala isimo esizokwenza umlingani wakho agxile kokunye ngaphandle kwakho.
Nazi ezinye izibonelo:
- Benze bahlele uhambo lwendawo lapho bebefuna ukuya khona njalo.
- Batshele ukuthi usebenza kuphrojekthi enkulu futhi uzozithenga noma yini abayifunayo ngemuva kokuqedwa kwayo
- Qala umsebenzi noma umdlalo wokuzilibazisa (iGym and Fitness muhle) ndawonye
Izibonelo ezimbili zokuqala zizodala inkohliso yokuthi uchitha isikhathi ukude nabo ngenxa yazo. Shiya yonke imininingwane emincane kubo ukuze bahlale bematasa. Qiniseka ukuthi uhambela yonke leyo micimbi / uhambo abalusetayo futhi ubagcine bejabule.
Inhloso ilula - bazosebenzisa isikhathi sabo benza okunye abakholelwa ukuthi kuzonisondeza nobabili. Sonke lesi sikhathi kukhulula uhlelo lwakho lomuntu wesithathu. Kubi.
3. Lahla ubufakazi
Phatha konke ukuhlangana kocansi njengesigameko sokubulala.
Ukushiya ikhondomu esetshenzisiwe kufana nesibhamu sokubhema. Qiniseka ukuthi ubheka isikhathi esizokuthatha kuwe ukuhlanza yonke into kubandakanya nomzimba wakho. Kunzima ukusho ukuthi ubuBowling noBob lapho unuka iParis Hilton (amakha).
Susa imilayezo yonke indawo, ikakhulukazi efonini yakho. Phonsa wonke amarisidi zisuka bese ukhokha imali uma uhamba ngezinsuku.
Ungazithathi izithombe zakho bese uzifaka ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, futhi ungavumeli isithombe sakho noma obunye ubufakazi obusobala ukuthi buthathwe. Ungahlala uthi ufuna ukudala ukuxhumana komuntu nomuntu, hhayi ukudala i-albhamu ye-IG ndawonye.
4. Khetha ilitshe lakho
Uma kwenzeka uthandana nomuntu othile, qiniseka ukuthi ukunye nomlingani wakho ongeke abe namathuba okuhlangana nethuba. Ukuba nobudlelwano nomndeni wabo, isibonelo, kuyindlela eqinisekile yokuzitholela ku-Facebook njengoJerkwad wonyaka.
Uma isimo “sisanda kwenzeka, futhi singeke sisizwe,” siqede ngokushesha nangokuthula. Leyo enye yezindlela zokwenza ubudlelwano obuzogcina bube nenhlekelele.
Uma ubungazi ngokwanele ngomuntu wakho wesithathu bese behlanya njengoTaylor Swift uma kwenzeka behlaselwa, hlambuluka khona lapho bese uyiqeda.
5. Ungachami ensimini yakho
Lokhu kuyefana nokukhetha okubhekiswe kuwe, kepha lokhu kumayelana nokuthengiswa kwezindlu.
Indawo! Indawo! Indawo!
Ungayi ezindaweni lapho abanye wena noma umlingani wakho wazi ukuthi bangahle bavele khona. Uma ujwayele ukuya enxanxatheleni yezitolo noma kwenye indawo lapho kungenzeka khona ukuthi uhlangane nomuntu omaziyo, ungayi lapho.
Kulezi zinsuku wonke umuntu uphethe into encane yokuqopha abangayisebenzisa bese beyithumela ku-inthanethi. Uma lokho kwenzeka, uyahlushwa. Ungabi yisilima futhi ube nezinsuku zakho kwenye indawo ekude noma ehlukile.
Uthola isithombe!
Izindlela azihlali zingenangqondo ngaso sonke isikhathi
Sebenzisa noma yiziphi izindlela lapha ngentando yakho. Ayikho indlela engenangqondo yokuthi ungathandana kanjani nokuthi ungabanjwa. Lapho wenza ngokwengeziwe, maningi amathuba okuthi othile athole futhi adale inkinga enkulu (noma icala).
Lapho kunomusi, kukhona ilangabi.
Uma uzibophezele futhi uzithola usesimweni lapho ucabanga noma wenze izenzo zokungathembeki, kukhona abeluleki bemishado abangasiza. Uma ufuna iseluleko sami sokuthi ungathandana kanjani nomuntu, oke waba lapho futhi wakwenza lokho, nasi iseluleko sami sangempela. Akukaze kuyifanele inkathazo. Ngakho-ke ungakwenzi.