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Ithemba labo bonke abazoshada maduze noma abashadikazi abasha ukuthi babe nomshado ohlala njalo futhi owanelisayo. Kulula ukubambeka kwezothando lwakho konke futhi ukholwe ukuthi uthando lwakho luzonqoba konke, kepha leyo nkolelo ingaba yingozi kancane.
Uthando lubalulekile, kepha ngeke lwanele ukugcina umshado wakho usendleleni iminyaka ezayo. Ukwakha ukusondelana emshadweni noma ukwakha ukusondelana emshadweni kuyisihluthulelo sobumbano olujabulisayo nolwanelisayo futhi ngokuphambene nenkolelo evamile, ukusondelana kumayelana nokungaphezu kwalokho okwenzeka ekamelweni.
Yebo, ucansi lubalulekile, kepha ukwakha ukusondelana emshadweni kuhlobene kakhulu nokwenzeka ngaphandle kwekamelo lokulala kanye nosuku nosuku ndawonye. Ake sithole ukuthi singabakha kanjani ukusondelana emshadweni
Ukwakha ukusondelana emshadweni nokukugcina
Ungathola umlenze kulokho ngenjabulo njalo ngemuva kokufunda ukuthi ungakha kanjani ukusondelana emshadweni nokukugcina. Izeluleko zokusondelana ezilandelayo noma ukusondelana kumathiphu omshado ingakusiza wenze lokho nje, ikunikeze isiqalo esihle futhi ikusize ugcine ukusondelana emshadweni wakho iminyaka ezayo.
Ngakho-ke uma ufuna izeluleko zocansi kwabasanda kushada, noma nje izeluleko zokusondelana ngomshado wabasanda kushada ufike endaweni efanele.
1. Thola izindlela zokudala zokuthi 'Ngiyakuthanda'
Izinkinga zokusondelana ezisanda kushada noma izindaba zokusondelana kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo zenzeka ngoba lo mbhangqwana uyeka ukudala ngokwanele. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi wena noshade naye nibanjwa yimikhuba efanayo yokusondelana futhi ukhohlwe ukuhamba ibanga elingaphezulu kokumangaza oshade naye.
Okukodwa kwe okuhle kakhulu izeluleko ngomshado kwabasanda kushada ukungaboshelwa esimisweni futhi uthole izindlela zokudala zokuvuma uthando lwabo ngomlingani wabo.
Lihlebeze ezindlebeni zabo noma ulibhale ngothi lomlomo esibukweni. Akunandaba ukuthi ukusho kanjani, umthelela uzofana. Sonke sifuna ukuthandwa futhi ayikho into engenza umuntu azizwe engcono ukwedlula ukwazi ukuthi uyathandwa.
2. Ukudlala ngothando
Le nto siyenza kakhulu lapho sithandana futhi siyeke uma sesishadile. Ukudlala ngothando kumnandi futhi kungenza nobabili nizizwe kahle. Umuntu odlala ngothando uzizwa e-sexy, futhi umuntu odlala ngothando uzizwa ekhanga futhi efunwa, ngenjabulo esheshayo.
Nazi ezinye amathiphu asondelene nemibhangqwana ukuba nothando lokuthembela kumlingani wabo: Gqoka abakuthandayo, zama ukubamba ukunaka kwabo, ubabhalele inothi le-sexy noma incwadi engelutho, ubathinte kaningi. Zama ukuvuleleka ngokwengeziwe, ukhululeke futhi ube nemvelo.
3. Yenzani izinto omunye nomunye
Ngenkathi ukubhucungwa noma isidlo sakusihlwa sothando ngokuqinisekile kuyaziswa, ngisho nokuhlanza i-ar yabo noma ukuthatha omunye wemisebenzi yabo kungasiza kakhulu. Ngokwenza okuthile komunye umuntu, ukhombisa ukuthi uyamkhathalela futhi unomhlane wabo. Yilokho okushiwo umshado!
Izenzo ezinjalo zokuzibophezela nothando olungenamibandela kuzohlala kwenza owakwakho abone ukuthi banenhlanhla engakanani yokuba nawe ezimpilweni zabo.
4. Hlanganyelani ndawonye
Kuqhutshwa impelasonto noma ngisho namahora ambalwa nje, nobabili, bese nenza okuthile okusha. Kungaba ukuhlola idolobha elisha noma ukuzama umsebenzi omusha ndawonye. Isikhathi esichithwe ukwenza okuhlukile sikunikeza okwabiwe okwabiwayo nomuzwa ophakeme wenjabulo.
Ukushesha okungazelelwe kwe-adrenaline yilokho umshado wakho ongakudinga ukuvuselela ukusondelana ezimpilweni zakho.
5. Khuluma ngamaphupho nezinhloso zakho
Lokhu kungaba umgomo owabiwe, njengokuthenga noma ukuvuselela indlu, noma iphupho elakho. Ukwabelana ngamathemba namaphupho akho kuyabakhuthaza ukuthi benze okufanayo nokuyinto enhle yokwakha ukusondelana emshadweni nokukhuthazana ukuba baphile impilo enelisayo.
Ukukhuluma ngamathemba akho namaphupho akho nomlingani wakho kuyisici sangaphakathi se uthando olusanda kushada. Kumele uqiniseke ukuthi awulahlekelwa yilokhu emshadweni wakho, ngoba lokhu kuzokusiza njalo ukuthi uthole indlela yokubuyela komunye nomunye.
6. Yenzani isiko elenzelwe nina nobabili kuphela
Kungaba ukugona embhedeni newayini ne-pizza ngoLwesihlanu ebusuku noma ukuphuza ikhofi endaweni yokudlela oyithandayo ngeSonto ekuseni. Ukwakha isiko elikhethekile ndawonye kukuhlanganisa futhi kukunikeze okuthile okukhethekile ongakubheka phambili noma ngabe impilo ematasa ingathola kanjani.
Ungakhathazeki uma kungehlukile noma kungahle kube yinto ecijwe kakhulu, kuze kufike isikhathi lapho nobabili nizokujabulela ndawonye kuzosebenza kahle.
7. Phola oshade naye
Umshado ungasho ukuvalelisa ukuphola, kepha akusho ukuthi kumele uyeke ukujabulela ubumnandi nobumnandi bomlingani wakho.
Yenza isikhathi soku yenzani izinto enikujabulele ukuzenza ndawonye ngaphambi komshado ukugwema ukuwela enkingeni futhi ulahlekelwe yilokho kuqubuka nokuxhuma okuholele ekutheni ushade kwasekuqaleni.
Yenza omunye nomunye azizwe ngendlela enanenza ngayo lapho niqala ukuhlangana, ngeke kube lula futhi kungacishe kujabulise kepha umqondo ukuthi uhlale ufinyelela futhi uzama ukuthola okuthile okusiza ukuba ubalekele ezweni lakho.
Esinye sezikhalazo ezinkulu kubantu abashadile ukuthi abazizwa benokuxhumana okufanayo nomlingani wabo abakwenza ngenkathi besathandana. Umshado unikeza ithuba lokwakha lonke olunye uhlobo lokusondelana oluza ngokwenza ukuzibophezela ekubeni ndawonye kuze kube sekufeni.
Lokhu akudingeki ukuthi kungene esikhundleni soxhumano obenalo ngaphambi kokuthi ngithi ngiyakwenza, noma kunjalo. Ungalahli umbono womuntu abathandana naye noma umuntu othandana naye. Qhubekani nibophezeleka kokuhlangenwe nakho okusha futhi nijabule ndawonye noma ngabe izibopho zempilo ziqala ukusebenza.